Saturday, 09 May 2009
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How Can I Let Go and Fall in Love Again?
I've forgotten what is it like to like a person. I used to fall in love easily - I'd always find certain guys fascinating and like them. But that was a long time ago. I don't know when, what had happened, and why. I'm just finding it hard to fall in love with a person again.I dated someone, but the feeling was gone two weeks later. It's like the hunter got what she wanted, then the game was over. I don't know what is it like to like a person without second-guessing myself.
Now I've met a guy, who I like, and I often feel like I'm not sure about this. I trust him for liking me, but I don't trust myself. What if I break his heart? What if I change the way I feel after we actually go out?
I don't know. I don't trust myself. If he makes it like a game, I would've played along. But the real thing? I don't know.
I want to spend a lot of time with him. I wanna lie on the couch with him. I wanna eat with him, talk to him. I like him walking to the bus stop. I like how we can talk and laugh at the same TV show. I like how he makes me laugh and my sister likes him too. He is the sweetest guy I have ever met.
I don't wanna hurt him. And I think I am protecting myself.
How can I let go?
I do wanna fall in love. And I definitely want to have something with this guy! Help!
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- From: ebelyn_chan
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You can start by taking a look at that picture right there and reading what it says
RELAX.
Let things come, stop worrying. You'll be able to have all the feelings in the world for this guy if it's right. Just be patient
Trush him/her .
Sounds like a subconscious guard or something you trained yourself to do :S Could be a phase or could be life long. Or I think you just have to wait for the right guy to grab your heart cause its so high up in place unreachable for your typical guy to get to :3. You probably just cant settle for a typical guy like how i cant settle for a typical girl. You'd need something extravagant! =D
I know what you're going through. I got tired of fighting love and now I'm giving in. I know I will probably get hurt a thousand times more than if I avoided it, but I also wouldn't be a thousand times happier. You just have to figure out if that's what you want for you.
stop trying to run and be honest with this guy that you have a hard time getting into relationships because of past ones. i went through this phase for awhile, i dropped guys after a week or two but when i finally called one back after i had already given up, i found him to be a caring, selfless guy who really knew how to treat a girl right. you don't want to live your life alone, let yourself love as long as it's with a decent guy :).
The Rose
Some say love, it is a river
That drowns the tender reed
Some say love, it is a razor
That leaves your soul to bleed
Some say love, it is a hunger
An endless aching need
I say love, it is a flower
And you, its only seed
It's the heart, afraid of breaking
That never learns to dance
It's the dream, afraid of waking
That never takes the chance
It's the one who won't be taken
Who cannot seem to give
And the soul, afraid of dying
That never learns to live
When the night has been too lonely
And the road has been too long
And you think that love is only
for the lucky and the strong
Just remember in the winter
Far beneath the bitter snow
Lies the seed
That with the sun's love, in the spring
Becomes the rose
Don't expect too much in a relationship and don't angst over a broken one. Once it's over, take a vacation or at least hit places where singles hang out and have a good time.
@wachamakulit@xanga - I really like that =]
I've had this happen before. I was afraid to trust anyone enough to fall for them, and I didn't trust myself enough to believe that I could make a guy happy. Then I met a great guy, and I decided to take it slow and let whatever happens, happen. We've been together for almost a year, now. Stop over-thinking things and just go for it. You can tell him you don't want to rush things, or that you're scared but you want to try it out. Let yourself fall in love instead of thinking too much about it.
This is a big boat... I feel like I have been living with that same question hanging over my head for 10 years now. So someone tell me... How do you get Mr. Right (who left you for someone else) out of your head so you can even think about dating anyone else?????
Breathe....
Quit worrying about the future like what if this or that. No one knows what the future will bring, so right now just follow your instincts. If you like him, want to talk to him and spend time with him, then just do it! Don't live worrying about what might or might not happen, create your path. If your afraid to hurt him, then don't hurt him. Cherish him and see how far it gets you. You might have been hurt in the past, but not everyone is the same. Give him a chance and give yourself a chance at happiness.
Learn from your past relationships. If you broke up because you fell in love too fast and didn't get to know the person, then take things slower this time. But it sounds like you already kinda know this guy. Honestly, I have a friend, who's love life was a mess too, but when she found the right person, she felt bliss. She didn't really know what happened, but she knew he was different and now she's happy.
Give yourself a chance to be happy
Better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all, I suppose. At least, if you give it time and try to open up, something might work out. And even if you don't, that says something about the person you're with. I think that if it's love, you'll know it eventually, and you won't stop loving that special person even with your doubts and second-guesses. Good luck!
exactly, RELAX
take each day as it comes, don't overthink your situation.
@wachamakulit@xanga - lovely poem
If you are SUBCONSCIOUSLY guarding yourself, I don't think you can INTENTIONALLY do anything to stop it. Just takes time, so be patient ;)
@Izzy258@xanga -
@oO_km_Oo@xanga -
our professor in Writing class read it to us and I fell inlove with it. I just think sometimes we get our hearts broken but we should never lose hope in love.
i've fallen in love once, then i never felt it again, well at least not yet.
man, i feel the same way. i broke up with someone that i dated for 4 years and now i am all kinds of scared. i have to remind myself that i owe myself the chance to find the right person. :)
Easy.
You moved on that's why you let go.
Or you let go in order to move on.
And when or if a person comes around,
you let it all in
Breathe in... Now breathe out. Relax. Stop worrying about the future. You can't change what's going to happen in the future for certain so there's no point in excessively worrying about it. We aren't in the past; we were. We aren't in the future; we will be. We are in the present; now that's a fact. The way I see it, we have the most influence over our present, and that in turn, to some degree, influences our future.
You = me. This is freaky.
It sucks. D:
I hear you, friend. Let me tell you, if you are afraid of hurting this guy, and you're feeling insecure...maybe you need to take it slower. Be friends first! Don't jump into romance too quickly. Get to know this guy for who he is, and if he truly cares about you and if he's a real man, he will prove this by waiting for you and going at your pace. Also, unless you've already done this, be honest with him and let him know that you've been burned in the past, and you don't want to hurt him. He will understand. You can do it, girl. If you jump into a relationship feeling insecure, it's not a good foundation. Give yourself some space to figure things out.
I think you're taking all of this so seriously. just go for it, jump in. if it doesn't work out, don't worry about it- a lot of relationships don't work out. the guy that's right for you will prove himself and maybe it just so happens that you weren't the girl for those previous guys. feelings change, the heart is fickle, you just gotta ifnd someone that stops that pattern.
Just follow your heart
close ur eyes, and listen wht ur heart say
Stop for thinking the useless things
For me, I am also kind of hard to fall in love again
but sometimes having crash on some1
the fate is coming, u cant be run away
Maybe u can tell him, try for 1 month 1st
if each others feel unhappy just break up and be fren again
i had this happen to me when a bf broke up with me.
i would only like people until i found out they liked me back, and then i would find them annoying.
until i met my current SO. we've been together for almost 9 months now, and i still love him like crazy.
i guess what i'm trying to say is keep trying :) and to take things slow. w/ my current SO, we flirted around for more than a month before things got serious. so i was guessing for more than a month, 'does he like me back?'. i guess that made the reward a lot more fulfilling.
im in the same place. i feel like i dont even wanna start that whole process over in liking someone, knowing them & loving them. it makes me sick