Miss OstrichMy alarm went off at 9:30 a.m. yesterday, like it does every morning. I turned over with my eyes closed and hit the snooze button, like I do every morning. I rolled back over and drifted back to sleep for the extra five minutes the snooze button gave me, like every single morning of the school year.
That morning, however, was not the same as very morning.
When I tried going back to sleep after I hit the snooze button, I heard a scratching sound. I tried to ignore it, but it started getting louder and my half-asleep brain told me that there were mice in the wall trying to get out. This wasn't a strange thought to have; the dorm building I live in has a mouse problem, and I've heard stories of them digging through the walls before. So I turned over again and expected to see little, furry noses poking out of the wall.
Well, there weren't any noses. I wish there had been.
The source of the noise came from my roommate's bed scratching against the wall. He and his girlfriend were engaging in some pretty intense early morning loving.
I shoved my head in my pillow to keep from yelling and tried to will myself back to sleep. They were done a minute later...right before my alarm went off again. I turned it off, acted like I had just woken up, then hid in the bathroom until I heard them leave.
In the three years I've lived with roommates, I've never woken up to anyone having sex. There's always been the verbal agreement of never doing anything sexual while the roommate is home. He and I agreed on the same thing. Now I can't be in the same room as either of them without thinking about what I saw, and no offense to them, but that was something I never wanted to witness. What bothers me the most is that my alarm was going off, so obviously, I was waking up, but they kept going and didn't bother trying to be quiet.
I want to bring it up, but I don't know what to say. We're moving out this weekend, so I don't want to start an argument or make things weird for the last few days living together.
Should I bring up my uneasiness with him or let it go? What would you do/have you done in this situation?
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Me? You don't wanna know.
This sounds like a classic case of jealousy to me.
Wait, is this in a dorm room or in a house/apartment? Separate rooms mean sex is fair game, any time - sorry. If it's a dorm, I definitely understand being weirded out, and would institute a no-sex-while-other-people-are-home sort of rule - it's just creepy.
You're moving out in a few days. Just let it go, I'd say.
that would be pretty awkward. i'd probably just laugh my little heart out and head to the bathroom or something.
i don't know if you should confront him for the sake of solving the problem since you guys are moving out? maybe you should just confront him to see what he has to say. his side of the story has to be pretty interesting... lol
i went on a trip with my spanish class, our teacher rented out a beach house for a week and i ended up rooming with my good friend hannah. one of the nights of the trip this kid nick came in and climbed into bed with her... REALLY weird. they didn't do anything because she wasn't like that. she didn't tell him to get out of her bed though because she froze, paralyzed via fear, etc blah blah blah. (she's kind of crazy, but whatever.) anyways.. he starts jacking off under her covers, trying to get her turned on or some shit. i started cracking up LOL. eventually he gets up and says "thanks a lot cameron" and leaves.
so yeah.. i probably would of laughed.
If you were rooming with him again, I'd say something but if you're not, then I'd just keep shut and try not to throw up the next time I saw him. I think it's really disgusting if you both agreed to not do anything sexual while the other is in the room and he just went ahead and did it WHILE he knew that you were waking up.
ask to join next time, that usually ends it all.
or makes for a really awkward situation.Wow. Thats really disrespectful to you. But since you're moving out this weekend, probably best to just forget about it.
I think you should get over it, to be honest.
I've had sex at my best friend's house (well, we were each doing it with our SOs in different rooms, but the rooms were only separated by a door) and essentially we all saw each other naked; her boyfriend was forced to walk past my boyfriend and I (granted we stopped, but I realized after he had stopped and looked at us for a moment that the entire front of my body wasn't hidden by the covers) to go to the bathroom and then MY boyfriend and i were forced to walk in on them to go get our stuff and leave the next morning.
Not to mention, most guys I know don't really care (you're a girl, right?) who's in the room; plus, if you're living with a guy you're basically submitting yourself to whatever. I remember my boyf and I walked on his best friend and the best friend's girl, and mine was like "YEEAAAHHH! GET HER!" before we started laughing and shut the door again xD
I had a couple have sex in the same bed I was in. We were all 3 sleeping there and I woke up to them doing it. That was akward!!!!
I'd just let it go too. I wouldn't worry too much about it since your moving out in a few days anyway. Sorry you had to wake up to that though!!! That sucks!!!
Ick, ick, ick. The creepy thing is like you said your alarm had already gone off. I wouldn't say anything unless you are going to live with this guy again. But yuck.
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well whenever I would go to visit my fiance we'd stay at his dorm, and we'd do that with his roommate there...I mean, there really wasn't any other choice ya know? Also done it with my best friend in the room because she insisted on sleeping over even though I told her not too. Her fault.
I dunno, never been a big deal to me.hahahah you should have started masturbating blatantly and make them feel that their little act is causing unnecessary behaviour.
You're living with a guy o_O?
It's hard for guys to control their 'urge' so I think you should not bring it up since you're going to move out soon anyway.
just turn on the surround sound to a catchy hannah montana or a jonas brother's playlist songs or a combination of both when you catch your roommate falling fast asleep/snoring and make it a wake up call to remember. two can play at this game
he knew the rule yet disrespected you by breaking it because he probably knew that you would feel too awkward to confront him about it. now it is war!!
Whereas that's really gross and disrespectful for them to do, I'd suggest forgetting about it. You'll be moving out in a few days.
I say tell him. If it makes you uncomfortable, be honest about it. Your roomie should respect your space, even though you do share a room. If he and his gf want to get it on, they can rent a hotel room, or let you know that he'd appreciate having some 'alone' time in the room.
I mean, he lives there, but you do, too. If it bothers you, be honest with him.
@a_single_raindrop@xanga - The way you put it makes it sound like the woman has no say in the matter, which would constitute rape. I'm so tired of the "men can't blah blah blah". Get over your generalizations. Seriously.
Hahahahahah. I laugh because I actually ran into the same problem. Well, it wasn't really a problem. I'm the only guy living with 4 other girls. One morning I was waiting for my brother to pick me up to go to lunch. That's when I heard my one roommate very loudly. However, it wasn't the first time I heard someone doing the do in the same house so I ignored it and went on the internet. When my brother got to the apartment, I walked by my roommate's room. I then said very loudly, "Hey, I'll see you kids later." My roommate was the only one that responded, "See you later." The following week, I talked to her about and asked what he reaction was. She laughed about it and said her boyfriend (who I also knew) turned pale white after I said bye to them.
But, just bring it up and let them know if you feel uncomfortable. It's only awkward if you make it awkward.
@ch4n2o@xanga - Or just go over and tap them on the shoulder and ask if you can join. :P
So it was that repulsive huh?
I've found that bottling up things make the whole situation worse. If you're living with this person next year then you need to deal with it now. There was something my suite mate did/said a few months ago and I've found that from then on everything she does annoys me now. Little by little it's gotten worse. So it's now or forever. You can either tell him now nicely or forever be pissed off at his early morning humping escapade.Perfect time for a cockblock. Pretend that you are sleep walking and run up to them and fall on the ground crying and yell "MISTER WHAT ARE YOU DOING TO MY MOMMY!" If that's not a buzzkill I don't know what would work.