Friday, 08 May 2009
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Birth Order in Relationships
I just realized what I've been doing wrong and finally got it right. I have been in relationships with guys who were first born.
The only guy who didn't dump me was a 2nd born (by a mere few minutes). Guys who are first born dating a girl whose also a first born can lead to some ego-butting.
Now, I'm dating a guy whose actually the last born of four, completely respects women in his family and takes care of everyone. Turns out, he completely respects me and wants me to be happy. This is the longest relationship I've ever been in and we're about to hit the one year mark in a few weeks!
So, what's the birth order in your relationship?
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Well, I'm the fourth born out of ten, and my girlfriend is an only child.
Funny, my older brother -who is the oldest- can't stay wih a girl. One of them always screws it up. My older sister (second oldest) has been in a relationship for five years.
Hm, interesting. I'm a first born (but a twin), & my boyfriend is the youngest & second born in his family.
I'm a middle child. Second out of three.
He's a first born.. I think we mesh well. I don't know if me being a middle child has affected my personality in a drastic way. I wasn't really your typical middle child.
I could see how it would effect my boyfriend's personality though... xD
I am third of four. (I feel like a Borg saying that.)
He's... third of three? I don't know, and he doesn't really, either. He was given up for adoption, and his adoptive parents took in both him and his half sister. He thinks he has another sister, but he's never met her and knows nothing about her. Who knows if he has other siblings (he doesn't know his biological parents, either).
Weird.
I'm the second of three, meaning I'm the middle child!
He is the oldest out of... four? I believe.
We are both the first born and we each have one sibling.
My boy's the forth of four sons. He refers to all adults as "ma'am" or "sir" and is just a genuine good guy. He help out the family so much and he's so close to all of them--all 2942938492342346264 of them (I kid, obviously, but he's a member of a very large, extended Irish Catholic family).
That being said, I'm an only child and I love it. I wouldn't want it any other way. I get the best of both worlds--when I'm with my boyfriend, I'm a member of an enormous and very close family, extended and nuclear. I get the siblings I never had. But then I come home to just my parents and my cat, and things are laid-back and tight-knit. I like that.
We've been together just over two years and three months. :) Loooove.
We're both last borns...haha does that work?
we're both second/last born. both the babies of the family :)
He's the middle child of three, and I'm the oldest of two.
We are both the only child. Ha we are both alone at homr, and we love each other very much, so we talk a lot. And there are no little/older siblings getting in the way/ walking in at awkward moments. So it's kinda nice, and we both understand each other more.
we're both 2nd born XD
I'm the only child and he's the last born out of two.
i think first borns, in boys, the parents are alot more babying of them and they tend to have higher standards for their partners, academics, body size to have kids, if they cook or do housework etc..
i know for asians if the mother doesn't like the girl they tend to make the kids choose when there is a dispute!
my current bf is 2nd of 3 kids and he treats me like a princess!! :)
and because they are all boys.. his mum loves having me over to neutralize the testosterones!! :P
Try reading The New Birth Order Book by Dr. Kevin Leman... he has an entire chapter on birth order and how it pertains to relationships. He's done tons of research in this area and takes up where Adler leaves off in his theories. As an only born, I'd be best off with a last born, apparently, because we would balance each other ... the 'worst' type of person I could marry according to birth order theory is another only born or a first born - we'd butt heads too much!
both first :)
I'm the youngest (I have one older brother-difference of four years) & I don't have a SO soooo can't say =P
We're both first borns.
im the 2nd of 3 and he's an only child. we're both stubborn as a mule, but it works out. we've learned to compromise.....somewhat
My mom often says that the first born and the last born from two different families tend to get along pretty well. She's the youngest of several children (they all live in Korea so I don't know how many siblings she has) and my dad was the second oldest early on, but became the oldest when his older brother passed away from sickness as a child.
But my brother is the first born (there are only two of us) and his fiance is the oldest of three. They seem to get along well, I think because they're both easy-going and not very bossy despite having younger siblings.
I'm 2nd out of four..he's 2nd out of three..but the only boy:P so he knows how to treat women:P 2nd the best, I say!! lol
We're both first borns. There are no problems with "ego-butting". I'm not really sure where this idea comes from. Isn't it the baby of the family that gets spoiled? The first born gets all the responsibility.
Well I'm the eldest and my potential bf is 2nd born, and he's treated me much better than all the other guys I've met. I dunno.
My boyfriend and I are both first borns. We do sense each other's ego's butting in.. but in a way, it's actually awesome that we are both first borns. We are able to share the same pain of taking care of little siblings and having the most chores, etc. We work well together. :)
I'm the 1st of 3 and spoiled rotten :)
He's 2nd of...5 total? And the most wonderful thing ever, most days. Very laid back, respectful. Not at all like me!