Friday, 08 May 2009
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Everyone Has Baggage - How Do We Deal?
I am beginning to realize that maybe as we grow older, trying to understand relationships isn't so much about trying to understand other people and what they want; rather, they become more and more about understanding ourselves. Nothing new perhaps. But as we grow older, every single one of us grows along with baggage - there is no one without excess baggage. So how do we deal? How do we get a big enough closet to hold our own baggage without taking up other people's space? Or how do we show that we have enough room to give to store other people's baggage until they find their own?
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My mum would say that we need to let go of some of our baggage. This is easier said than done, especially for me.
We show others that we have room for their baggage by being open to listening to their problems and by showing that we care about them and their problems.
I love how you worded the last part of this.
Yes, how do we?
I really like this post. I don't think I know the answer, so I'm interested to see what others have to say.
wow, had to read that a couple of times, quite confusing with all that baggage business, haha. i really agree with that first part though, through each relationship, we learn more about ourselves than understanding someone else.
with baggage, i think we just learn to know what is and isn't important to us anymore. i don't really belive that we build up baggage, i think we learn to let go of a lot. In with the new, out with the old.
it's personal effort, good communication, and patience..
facing the baggage so it doesn't stay baggage.. and then you can leave it behind somewhere
definitely easier said than done. we simply need to cut our losses and leave the baggage behind, but only carry important remnants of this baggage, such as memories....?
Very nicely written.
i think it has to do with letting go of the past, learning from the mistakes we made, and moving forward. thats pretty hard, especially for me. i tend to cling to the past and that has become a problem for me and my hubby. as for the last part i think all we can do is listen to peoples problems and try to comfort them.
Dealing with baggage does not only deal with relationships but also with life experiences. Everyday, we live life and deal with various situations. Throughout the years where we go through our adolescent ages to our adult ages, we build up memories that stay with us forever.
As time goes by, we learn a little more about ourselves. No matter what, we have to accept who we are. We must be able to learn from our mistakes and all the excess things, we must leave behind. We will go through future situations and experiences with the help of past experiences.
This also has to deal with letting go. If someone were to isolate themselves and build up all their problems without expressing themselves, they will one day explode. No good will come out of keeping your problems bottled up inside. Once you get use to expressing yourselves, the weight on your chest won't feel as heavy. All the unnecessary matters will be left behind, allowing you to grow and go through experiences that are worth remembering.
So remember, we all must learn to let go of things we don't need, things that will hold us back from moving forward.
Hope this comment helped. Best of luck to everyone! :)
keep both of the excess baggage in storage units. acknowledge that the baggage is still there but don't dwell on it. try to graciously accept it and live in the present
You tell your SO about the baggage that makes you scared or paranoid so they're understanding when it happens... And then you wait for them to prove to you that you have no reason to be scared and then that baggage goes away. :)
You take the baggage that taught you something about yourself and apply it--If you made the mistakes before, you are careful not to repeat them.
And then you take the fond memories with someone else baggage and put it somewhere special, and treasure the memories while also remembering why it didn't work out.
i guess for me, i don't show that i have much baggage, so people will be comfortable sharing theirs with me. And sometimes we have to learn to let go some of those baggages. yes its hard, but you dont want to be carrying around all that pain and hurt.