Let's say you work a regular 9-5 and this other person works third shift - 10 p.m. to 6 a.m. You guys would see each other one the weekends, but he or she would mostly be catching up on sleep.
Buh. WYD?
I don't think I could - I want to make sure I can completely be there for a person if I decide to date him (especially being able to spend time with him!), and I don't think having such a difference would be conducive to a healthy relationship. I know a ton of people who have survived having totally different schedules, though, so I think it's doable if you're dedicated to making it work.
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I would definitely not begin a relationship with someone who had a completely different schedule than me, but if my boyfriend all of a sudden had a wacky schedule, I'd try & make it work. He's worth it <3.
My old boyfriend was on a night schedule. We made things work for over a year before we called it quits. Of course, it helped that I wasn't home most of the time due to college, so we made the effort to see each other when I was home.
Me and my boyfriend have screwy schedules, but not that bad. If my boyfriend were to have to switch around to that, I'd do it. I can handle it. :P
I'd do it, I'd have to if I loved someone...
If you love someone enough, you will do anything to make it work.
I wouldn't break up with someone just because they had a different schedule. My SO is about to go to the other side of the nation for the better part of a year for military training, he might never move back here again, but we are committed to each other.
No. I don't think I'd be able to grow close with the person like that.
Probably not. He would have to be a really really cute guy with a really nice personality..and we have to have good chemistry for me to work around that kind of schedule. I also like to go out during the weekends and if he's sleeping.. there is no way we'll last for more than a week.
Why are we thinking with our brains when we all know the hormons rule? You won't pass up a hot date because of schedules. Come on.
We met. Shook hands. Checked our schedules and were married less than 2 months later. That was 29 years ago. Schedules change but man it was worth it!
It's at least worth trying. What if your getting rid of the future love of your life because your too lazy to at least try a relationship? When my boyfriend and I started dating he already lived 3 hours away, long distance is different at the beginning of a relationship. We worked it out, we're still together and now I'm living with him. Really, anything is possible if you try.
I work crazy shifts and so does my man, its easier bc we unbderstand how shift work plays out in your life sometimes you sleep during the and sometimes you dont sleep for days
yeah. it makes cheating funner.
My work schedule changes week to week, he has two jobs, but we try to make it work.
LDR. So, yes.
@naguyin@xanga - Ditto.
Story of my LIFE. Last ex worked 2nd/3rd shift. Current boyfriend not only works 3rd shift, but also has some weird 6-on, 2-off, 6-on, 3-off schedule. Our schedules never line up. But we make it work.
If you dig the person that much, you just put in the effort you can to make it work, and make the best of the time you can spend together.
in the summer i worked from 5am to 12pm and he worked either normal 9-5 or 1pm-9pm (shopping night)... it wasn't really too bad except i was bored for a big half of the day while he is at work. he works retail so gets normally 2 days off this maybe any random day. now that i have class 3 days a week and work on saturday mornings he still doing 9-5 for 5 days.
even just that i think is hard for me because i am free all the time but after work hes either too tired to go out or just want to be lazy at home.
its not so bad at least he tries to see me once a week! :) or i will show up at work, like this morning after i finished work at 9am i showed up right when he started work and we had breakfast together! :)
My boyfriend and I practically have that problem. He opens at 6 and works till three and I work 2 jobs working from 11am to sometimes as late as midnight, and he's in bed by the time I'd get home and our breaks never work out that we can talk to or see each other. Oh, and we both work retail, so there is no such thing as a "weekend" for us.
He's worth it. He is 100% worth it. its hard, but we get to see each other once a week. I think part of what makes us work though is this is the first time in the on again off again relationship of 7 years, we have had this problem. It's not for everybody, that is for sure.
Well it'd be hard that's for sure. If I thought that it was going to lead to somewhere great down the road then yes I would have no problem with it. It'd be worth waiting for. But it's be tough, I enjoy the intimacy of the relationship. But I'm also pretty self dependent. I could take it.
..imm gonna say yes....
in an LDR as well @naguyin@xanga -
I would explain to him (like what I would do now because of my busy schedule) that it would be unfair to him or me and it would a be risk just in case one of us gets bored/frustrated because of the clashing schedule.
Then I would say, "but I'm all in if you are" (if I really like him) and if he says that he doesn't mind, then I would.
Phew...that's a pretty long explanation on my part.
if you're willing to make it work. all relationships take patience and understanding anyhow. um deployed overseas right now so i know all about that. haha.
I don't think I'd be able to make it work, but perhaps it'd be worth an attempt!
im in a LDR with my boyfriend.. so yeah.. somehow we managed quite well =)
I do. I work 8-4:30. sometimes he works 4-9:30, sometimes he works 1:30-9:30.
So basically I see him for 2 hours before I go to bed, and on the weekend.
There's nothing I can do about it, and I know he'll get better hours once he gets more seniority. So I just have to deal with it, 'cause we gotta pay rent!
It could work. Especially in your example of 9-5 and 10-6.
You'd have a few hours between 5 and 10 that you could hang out. You could frequently have dinner together at least.
I used to date someone where I worked 9-5 and they worked 4-midnight. That was a little more difficult. But we still made it work.