Thursday, 07 May 2009
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Who Are You to Question My Being in Love?
This is an excerpt from one of my longer blogs about things that annoy me. I just wanted to see who else feels this way.. . . when people say, "You're too young to be in love," who are you to give love an age limit? Who are you to tell me that I don't understand my feelings,and that there's something you realize as you get older?
Well, guess what!? I know my feelings better than anyone. Not even my parents, who have known me the longest out of anyone, can know what I am feeling.I have been alive for 18 years - how could I not have some kind of grasp on what my feelings are? You don't know what I've gone through, what I've felt, what I've seen, experienced, NOTHING. When will I be old enough to 'know my own feelings'? When are you old enough to know what love really is? I know that I am truly in love, and there isn't a single person out there who knows better than me about that. Anybody else feel this way?
It's like adults believe that because they are older and have experienced more out of life then we teens have, that they know everything about feelings, and growing up, and everything in between. And as that may be true about some things I don't believe it is in this case because things are a little different for us now. We're experiencing different things, and just because you have been alive longer doesn't mean that you understand human feelings better.
I know what I feel, and I know it's real, and no one is going to change my mind about that.
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"omfg i jus got this new bf yesday && i luv hiiim! ill b 14 nex weeek! wel byeeeee!"
I see.
Eh.
Love isn't just about a "feeling"... it encompasses other things such as trust, loyalty, communication and a whole lot more. You may feel "infatuated" but being IN love is completely different and much more complicated than this. I'm just sharing from experience.
Of course there's no age limit when it comes to Love, but as you get older and go through a few more relationships, you'll understand this concept. We grow older and we grow wiser from experience, so in time, you'll be telling someone else (younger) similar things being told to you by your older peers.
I agree with some of the things on here. I did not know love until I was... 15 going on 16 and I am still with him. Too young i slike below 15 because they have boyfriends every two days or something.. no offence to people that age that do have a soulmate or whatever already. Good for you. Some people have no right to say you are too young. Some do. I've been with mine as friends for 4 together for 1 and a half.. people still bitch to me about being to young. But, I choose to ignore and learn from everything that is thrown at me or I have gone through.
Am I even making sense? Maybe not. Lol
@eyesochinky@xanga - ditto
Hindsight is 20/20. You may think you're in love now, but I honestly don't think anyone can know for sure until a lot of years down the road. I thought I was in love with Dave- completely and incandescently in love with him. Then I met the man I'm going to marry.
Experience does give you a lot...
@ThatSady_MittGurl@xanga - well congrats to you :o)
Yes, experience brings you to deeper love, but that doesnt mean experiencing love at a young age is impossible and only infatuation
I agree with this post 100%. People who tell you "you're not feeling love..it's just an infatuation" or whatever BS they manage to conjure up should just STFU. They have no idea..not even the slightest of what you really feel so they shouldn't try to assume anything. I hate people like that.
Well, it's good you know what you want. And u know that to love someone, age is limitless.
As time goes by, all of us will get more mature.
And what you think love is now will most likely change to ur definition of love either 2-3- even probably 10 years later.
So, stick what u believe in right now.
It's better to experience yourself than get told by everyone 'YOU ARE TOO YOUNG TO FALL IN LOVE" hehehe
Funnily enough, there are some people in the 16-18 age range who've experienced a lot more than some people in the 50+ age range. Age doesn't determine much. I know 17 year olds who are more mature and patient than someone who is 58. It depends on the people at hand.
As for age and being in love, nobody can tell you if you're in love. They can look at your maturity and make an "educated guess" of their own, but they can never be sure. I mean, there are plenty of people who don't even know if they themselves are in love - so how can anyone expect anyone else to know for sure?
I think the ability to be in love comes with maturity, not age. If a twelve year old is mature enough, they can be in love; while a twenty year old who isn't mature may not be able to form that kind of attachment. It just depends.
Thank you! I agree with this one hundred percent!
I agree with thisissisisisiisisis<3
I agree with you. I´ve always been more mature than people my age and therefore I relate more to older people. That´s why it´s a good thing that my boyfriend is a lot older than me, otherwise I would be fed up with his immaturity and dump him without hesitation.
Maturity has absolutely nothing to do with age, it has to do with experience. There are teens who have the mentality of a young adult and there people who are in their mid-age that still behave like babies (my sperm donor is a pretty good example of that.)
Totally true... we know ourselves better than others know us... they may have our best interest in mind but hey,,, who could really say what's good for us than us? besides, nature has allowed us to be hurt as well for us to learn our lessons and grow...
I believe 18 is not too young to understand your feelings. I have to admit I would tell my parents that I knew what I was feeling when I was 13-16, and it actually was just infatuation. I used to think I knew exactly how I felt but it takes time to understand things completely.
Younger people don't always completely understand things, but they think they do.
Two monks were standing on a bridge, watching the fish in the pond below.
Monk A: It must be peaceful to be a fish swimming in a pond all day.
Monk B: You can't know that. You're not a fish.
Monk A: How do you know that I can't know that? You're not me.
@Dare2BDiferentt@xanga - That made me chuckle.
I disagree that we can know ourselves completely better than others.
For example, every time you're doing something wrong you don't see it, but a friend or family member with an unbiased and clear view does.
Even though it is their personal opinion, they offer it because it is different than our own and usually to try to help.
i was totally feeling that way last week when my mum said 'if he is not going to come home and meet us then you guys are just friends so you shouldn't be out late with him'
mind you, i was home at 11.15pm and i have been dating my bf for 6 months and it was his brothers bday party..
i have to admit.. its ONLY been 6 months, i dont see the rush for them to really meet him unless he wanted to. so they think i am not serious about this relationship if he doesn't come home and have dinner with them.
yes yes im asian!!! so parents have that ideal situation where they meet the boy.. get real!
if they knew of all the previous guys i dated they would see that i am sooooo damn serious about this relationship its not even funny!! all my friends see it because i was dating guys for days at a time before him!
so.. this past week i learn not to care about what they say! live your life the way you want!! if you are in love!! THEN YOU ARE!!! if they say otherwise.. tell them.. thats great!! thanks for the information but no thank you!! :)
Let's be honest. The odds are that at 18 you just think you understand yourself and are actually and idiot when it comes to feelings.
Of course you know yourself better than anyone else, but you can still be wrong.
It depends on the person and the situation. Some people don't know the true meaning of love and think they do. And then years later they look back and realize they were wrong. Others understand love at an earlier age than the people around them.
Not necessarily pertaining to love, but I know when I was 14 I thought I understood everything; I was pretty mature for my age. By 16 or 17 I realized how ridiculous I was at 14. By 18 I looked back at my high school years in whole and knew that there was a lot I didn't know back then. At 19 I felt like I finally understood love, and now at 20 I realize that I really did know love at 19, but the way I handled the situation was stupid.
But it's a very subjective thing. Other people can't tell you how you feel. They can make guesses and even be right, but they still aren't as close to your heart and mind as YOU are.
as long as its pleasant and not bothering anyone stfu who cares :P
When I was 18 I thought similiarly about love and adults' views on love. When I grew older, I realized how much of an idiot I was. Soon, you will realize how much of an idiot you were as an 18-year old, too... speaking from probability.
@eyesochinky@xanga - 100% agreed.
who cares, nobody knows what it is like for anyone else to be in love. Nobody can really believe anyone has the same feelings they do. Not really.