Everybody is different. You don't have to give him everything all at once. Start off small and work your way up from there if you want. If you don't want to, then you should tell him. Don't be afraid to talk. Communication is definitely important in any relationship.

Take baby steps, and don't be afraid or embarrassed. Since you've been with him for 2 years, I'm pretty sure he loves you bunches, so you don't have to worry about that. Just give it a shot and don't worry about what he might think. Worst case scenario if something doesn't work you can just switch back to what you ARE comfortable with. 

It sounds like you're saying he's both supportive, yet nagging. I think there can only be one of them and only you know which.

@follow_home@xanga - no my mom is really open about sex and tells me everything or did and still does. but he grew up in a household where they didnt talk about it. idk. tho. thanks tho! :)

Well, the thing is, you're going to have to tell him what you want and how you feel about things - there's no way around that. No matter who you're with, you'll have to voice your opinions. They can't take the lead all of the time, they can't be the only one to make a move. It sounds to me like you're shy. You wouldn't think that you'd be shy around him after two years, but if you've never talked to him about this kind of thing it's likely.

If you tell him your opinions on this stuff, or what you want, what's the worst that could happen? Communication and openness is required in any relationship, so it's best that you go ahead and suck it up and tell him.

As for you not knowing why you don't do the things he wants, I don't know that either. You're really the only one who knows that. You can either jump in and give whatever he wants a try, or if it's way out of your comfort zone - tell him.

I think there's nothing wrong with being shy...I mean, it does take effort (and courage) to voice your opinion on things. My boyfriend (who's also my first everything) used to be so frustrated with me too but now he picks up subtle hints. And I'm getting better at telling him what I want. As for trying things, as some of the people said before, take baby steps. My boy used to think I was this very conservative person because I always told him "I'll think about it" whenever he suggested ANYTHING...he thought I was just trying to discourage him, but I really was "thinking," later on, I basically crossed my comfort zone; the first time I did anything novel, I told him "I don't know whether I'm doing it right, so you have to let me know." We call that a "learning experience" whenever we do anything the first time....we basically do it, and then have an open discussion on what we like or dislike about the new thing! (I know we're weird like that :p) 2.5 years into the relationship, he told me he liked that I was always open to new experiences...so yeah, it takes time, but I'm sure eventually you'll build up the courage =)

Just a joke answer here.

If he's forcing you to try un-lubed and rough/dry anal, just say no.

As for a serious answer, I'd say everyone have their own sexual & personal preferences. I know you love him a lot, and so does he love you a lot in return. So what's the matter?

Do you feel forced about doing those kinky stuff with him? Do you feel that much concerned? If you really think you have to do it, take little steps at a time.

Just don't rush it there.

Seriously, I would say keep doing what you're doing. He must/should be loving you the way you are, and you way you have your sex with him.

i have this problem and i've had loads of partners.
i tend to start with only moaning to what i like. but then it gets a bit forced, and i think too much about letting him know and less about enjoying it
the best sex i had was with a guy who just said, i'll lay here, you just move how you like. he lay on top and it was fun. then i could even work out what i liked.
good ways of communicating is by saying 'i love it when you do...' rather than say what you hate.

but the last guy i slept with, did all these things to me and then said, i do things to others that i like having done to me. but when i tried to do those things back, it felt forced. i couldn't go for hard angry sex, i just like intimacy.
i end up trying to please them rather than myself to cover up that i am shy. it's a vicious cycle.

Well I have no idea how to help you out because I feel the same way sometimes...although I think I might be getting a smidge better at it. I still feel awkward sometimes, though..

Don't push yourself into a forced comfortability. 2 years is not your entire life. There are other experiences left for you to have. I think that if you're not comfortable, stick with what you are comfortable with, and if he pushes you further, push back. You don't have to lose your dignity just because he's your boyfriend. I've been in a similar situation, and saying 'well, I've been dating him for 3 years... I guess I could...__' it's just not right. I understand that all my uncomfortability was my body's way of saying "Stop trying to fool yourself, you just aren't into that." I'm a lesbian, and I've had more than enough experience to know that you shouldn't push yourself if you're uncomfortable. Just my 2 cents.

I definitely wouldn't say you aren't into him unless there are huge signs besides this...which isn't a sign at all.

I was always completely comfortable with my boyfriend except when it came to sex. We dated about two years, too. Fairly early on he told me that he had a policeman fetish (loll). He was comfortable telling me what he wanted to do to me, what he wanted done to him, but even though I loved being intimate with him, I was never comfortable with opening up about myself. Whenever I was on top, I would kiss him but he was always the one thrusting with me enjoying the ride. I knew I could grind on him, but I just felt so..shy and insecure about showing him what I wanted to do.

We've talked a lot about sex, and recently I revealed to him a certain position I thought was really hot, and he exclaimed to me that he had always wanted it, too! I was so embarrassed when I told him, but it felt incredibly good when he said he'd been wanting the same exact thing.

I've been realizing that the more we're intimate and the more we reveal what we secretly want, the more comfortable I am sexually.

@Aiyoku_Angel@xanga - Just ask him to open up about what he likes. Or be sneaky, and LISTEN the next time you two are getting it on.