Wednesday, 06 May 2009
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To You, What Does Intimacy Mean?
What does intimacy mean to you? To me, intimacy means...When I finish a hot shower in winter time, he turns on the heater to keep me warm for the whole night.
I wake up in the morning find him sitting in front of his laptop doing his preparation for the tute. I sneak into the kitchen and cook lunch for him. When he knows it, he gives me a big hug and offers to wash the dishes afterward.
I wake up in the afternoon and he sends me frangipani (flowers) that he picks up on his way home from the grocery shop.
He offers to cook for breakfast and it turns out that he prepares a big meal with a mug of nice coffee specially made for me.
He knows that I like American TV shows, so he puts them in his priority download lists so I can watch them as soon as possible.
He plays stupid online Playfish games with me and buys me every week's special clothes and furniture before I have a chance to look at what's new that week.
What do you think? Any idea of what intimacy means to you?
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I think that your ideas of intimacy are very sweet =)
For me, intimacy is just being able to lay with someone, neither of you saying a word, and just knowing how the other person feels. I've only it experienced it a few times and can say that nothing is more intimate for me than that situation.
To me, its the little things.. its the sending of love notes through out the day to let the other know that you were on their mind. Its the having a nice warm plate ready when you had a long day at work. Its the holding of each other in the bed, kisses on the forehead. Long walks in he park while holding hands.. there are so many things that can be considered as intimate to me... it does not have to include anything sexual. Its anything that can strengthen the connection between 2 persons.
@bluebelles80@xanga - Agreed :)
For me, I believe I've only experienced intimacy with one person in my life. I could talk to her, and know when something was wrong, and she didn't have to say anything.
When I was depressed, and decided to hide it, she was the only one who saw through it.
Actually, I remember calling her the night my grandma died...
...she picked up the phone, started to tell me about how she was ready to head up with me to meet her (we were planning on going to Marble Falls the next day)...and I didn't even have to say anything...she just...knew something was wrong. She asked me if I needed her there, and I told her no.
She came anyway. She knew me well enough to know when I needed her to do the opposite of what I said.
That's intimacy to me.
Intimacy is when you don't even have to tell her to mow the lawn. Like she can read my mind and does it. Or like when I am watching TV and she refreshes my tea and gets me some snacks before I have to yell at her.
She is special.
these ideas of intimacy sound a little superficial or limited...it sounds more like a list of some nice things you do for each other. intimacy is....well ....haha...people say.....'in-to-me-see' it's when someone really sees you and you can really see them, in ways other people do not know and could not understand. to me intimacy is taking things to a new layer and depth....as if everything you were starts to slowly peel and be stripped away. when someone takes their lovely little fingernails and starts scraping at your layers to really touch your raw, wet, inside parts. it's sharing....learning...growing....striving for some sort of oneness with someone else.
For me, intimacy is being supportive, finishing each other's sentences, and knowing how the other feels without explanation.
I'm not sure, honestly. Whenever I feel someone getting too close, physically or emotionally, I get uncomfortable and withdraw. I haven't got a single romantic, intimate bone in my body.
I wouldn't know I don't get any ever.
Your ideas of intimacy are pretty similar to mine. It's not about holding hands or getting it on all the time... It's about the every day things you do for someone to show you care.
Intimacy to me is knowing each other so well that you can finish each others sentences, holding hands even after being together for years and years, laying next to each other at night in bed, believing in each other no matter what. It has nothing to do with sex at all. Intimacy is more of a love thing to me.
touchy touchy
@Lilyofdavalley84@xanga - i agree with you.
I would say intimacy would be very much like love, in all aspects. Physical, emotional, mental, heck even spiritual. You both know you have each others backs and that you love each other for everything that they are.
@Lilyofdavalley84@xanga - I agree as well.
awww...that's cute
mine's is when we spend time together on the weekends and in the morning, he gets up before me to make me coffee, plan our day together and makes sure that we have a great day together, he texts me in the morning as a wake up call, and for both of us, going out of our way to make the other person happy even if we're not too comfortable is what i call intimacy.
how does intimacy equate to materialism?
Intimacy is when we could feel each other's presence in everything we do. It's those late night hours when you're both half asleep and you feel content just being in your loved one's arms. It's when he asked you "what do you want for your Birthday/Christmas/whatever holiday" and all you can come up with is "you." It's when the person doesn't have to tell you anything and you just KNOW.
When he tells me I'm cute even in sweat pants, no makeup, and unwashed hair...and the one time he cancelled plans with his friends so he could be with me when I cried over getting in a fight with one of my friends. He let me use his sleeve as a kleenex
to me it is just sitting or lying there with their presence or just being a room with them. knowing you can call out their name and there is an answer!
i love it when i can jus lean on his chest and hear his heart beat, he does the same to me!
Some have said it already... It's knowing how each other feels without having to say a word. When my boyfriend and I first started dating, we both wanted to say, "I love you," but he thought I would think it was too soon and I thought he would think it was too soon so we would just lay there looking into each other's eyes asking "What?" and answering, "You know."
what is "tute"? lol
Aw that's sweet. My boyfriend can automatically tell when something's wrong. Just by loooking at me or hearing me speak and he won't stop asking me unless I say "later" or until I tell him. And after he drops me off, he'll give me a kiss on the forehead and say 'iloveyou'. :)
FOR THE GUY TO STAY IN BED AND CUDDLE ME AFTER SEX INSTEAD OF JUST FALLING STRAIGHT ASLEEP ..
Intimacy is what tells me he loves me, even though neither of us has said it yet.
It feels right when we cuddle in bed.
I can be silly and playful around him and he joins in.
He's always there when I need him.
intimacy is being able to share the part of yourself you're afraid of with someone and they enjoy it, get it, and don't judge you for it... and you do the same for them.
Intimacy is the subcategory of love that you can't receive from anyone else, only your significant other. You love your family and friends, but you are not intimate with them. For this reason, intimacy is often linked to physicality. It's the complete comfort you feel when you're with this person, including all the sweet things you do for one another, like this post, and also having a strong connection physically and emotionally.