I met him at a party where I thought he was a very good looking guy. I didn't think too much of it after, because truthfully, I thought he was way out of my league. Later on in the year I got a phone call from my friend telling that he still thinks of me and thought I was cute. I thought she was joking, because I haven't seen him in months.
A few months later, it was confirmed from another friend that he was totally infatuated with me. I was confused. Prior to this, I'd only had 2 meetings with him and only one that I had a decent conversation with him. My close friends told me to dump him because he was just into my looks. I thought maybe they were right - how can he like me without even knowing me? I fear that he has this false image of me in his mind and once he gets to know me, I won't be who he thougth I was.
Should I try to pursue this or just let it go?
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People are almost always into looks first, but maybe he'll like you more for your personality after he gets to know you? He did have a conversation with you, so maybe he's interested in getting to know you better because you seemed like his type when you were talking. Give it a shot.
@stephyju2517@xanga - Applesauce is awesome, dude.
Get to know him, doesn't hurt :)
give it a try!!
yeah give it a shot. he might be one of those dudes who just does that. like they get super infatuated with a chick for no reason. they fall for girls easily, without any bad intention...
of course someone can like you without knowing who you really are, at least he's got a good impressions of you in the first place. Whether giving it a chance for both parties to find out, that choice is yours to make.
I am cynical, so I will first say that if you thought he was out of your league, and now he's all crazy about you, it could be because he is a creepy stalker psycho. Or, you might just have low self-esteem.
But he might also regret not pursuing things back then, and sincerely be interested. So give him a chance, but don't do any physical stuff, to see if his interest is really in YOU rather than your body or sex.
Wow, pretty much the exact same thing happened to me. The friend that initially introduced us gave him my number, and he kept texting me and saying he liked me. I was doubtful, but my friend encouraged me and we ended up becoming a couple not too long after. It was initially about looks but not so much anymore... Now we've been together nearly two months and I'm glad I didn't just blow him off. I say go for it, you never know what will happen.
Well, you never know what could happen. Most people only have looks to base their judgment upon if they don't know someone's personality. And maybe during that one conversation, he thought you were a girl worth fighting for. Of course, it depends on his personality, too. If he's the kind of guy to go after a girl because of her looks, then dump him if you want. But it would be strange for a guy like that to not go after other good looking girls in his general vicinity. Good luck!
it's very normal for a guy to *start* liking girls for their looks. key word_start. I say go for it.
I would sugest to hang out with him but keep the flirting stuff on a real low key so as to not mislead him. Then let him get to know you. If he is still interested I see no reason why not to give it a shot
we are visual creatures... I read somewhere guys place top emphasis on looks but for girls that's #3 on the list. give him a chance to know the real you
guys are mainly attracted to a girls physical appearance for a start, while girls look on the emotional side. if he gives you a good first impression, why not go for it? give him a chance. start off as friends and see how it goes from there. you'll never know if the water will open up if you don't dive. take it slowly.
@JanEdichotoMY@xanga - agree with your pt.
Give it a shot! What do you have to lose?
I would pray about it. That is, if you pray. If you don't then now is a great time to start!
Just get to know the dude, as friends and if he's a complete and total jerk, get rid of him.
@yourblondeness@xanga - I'm cynical too, so that was my first thought as well. Your advice is the best on this post, I think.
Almost everyone is attracted to a person appearance first. Get to know him. Take a shot. See where it goes.
just give it a try because you never know if he's the one for you or not until you've given it a try. and after you have given a try, he might not be that into you or vice versa. i know it's a bit weird but you never know until you have tried it.
give it a try. i had the same situation happen.
well my ending wasnt as great cuz he def only liked me for my looks. our personalities were terrible together lol. but i still gave it a try. it couldnt hurt. you might actually like him
What's to lose if you do pursue it?
How will you know if you don't try it out? You kind of have to like the way someone looks to be into them so it really isn't a big deal that he finds you attractive.
Get to know him, and if he is still only into your looks then lose him, otherwise you might be missing out on a great guy
why don't you give him a chance to get to know you better?
Wants to get to know you.