Someone I know has been married for almost two years - he and his wife are both lovely people and are very happily hitched.
That said, though, we recently heard that she's banned him from playing video games. Permanently. He usually plays after work for an hour a day.
I think that as long as you aren't harming anyone or yourself, a SO has neither a reason nor a right to ban you from things you love. But what do I know? My SO and I don't have limits like that in our relationship.
Has your SO banned you from doing anything (or vice versa)? Is it that person's place to tell you what you can and can't do, or is that out of line?
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She should also make sure he doesn't use the bathroom without asking.
lol I could see how that would be reasonable if he were playing contstantly, but an hour a day doesn't seem that bad.
She should just do what I did, and put another TV in the living room. That way, he can play his games and she can watch tv. everyone is happy. =]
I should ban my future SO from shopping? nah, I won't do that... and I hope my future SO won't ban me from gaming also...
The only was I could see that being okay is if your significant other so addicted to playing that he doesn't eat/sleep/work/leave that room ever (which can happen).
Seeing as that doesn't sound at all like the case, I'd rather join my husband than ban him!
Dealbreaker right there.
Time to swap out the wife.
I'm going to ban my wife from watching Without a Trace and also shopping.
Just 'cuz.
...what? =|
Anyone can say it, the real task is enforcement.
And that's hard.
My wife doesn't allow me to date anymore.
Ban her from shopping seems to be a popular answer... and I think I agree on this one.
@Irish_Russian@xanga - hahahahahaha
No and no. My bf wouldn't ever tell me I couldn't do something but if he did, it would just be a waste of his time. Last time I checked we were our own people making our own choices and suffering the consequences.
An hour a day & she banned him?! God...I've seen guys waste away playing games to the point they ignore people. When some activity takes over your life to the point you dont handle ur responsibilities or relationships, I'd just leave. You cant control people.
I made my husband stop playing World of Warcraft but, not video games all together. WoW was getting REALLY out of hand and he was ignoring important things. I told him before we got married that it HAD to change or he had to stop. I gave him the opportunity to deal with it himself and he didn't, so I told him I wouldn't marry him if he didn't stop. Thankfully he did. Now we enjoy playing Wii together and he plays a different computer game and he's not obsessed with it.
Has he banned me from anything? Eh....not outright but he doesn't let me get my ears pierced anymore (I have eight ear piercings) and he doesn't like my hair cut above my shoulders and he's not like, bossy about it but, he doesn't like it so i wouldn't do it anyway.
Well if he's really not playing that much, then its not a big deal, but you know guys can sometimes play for hours and hours a day. I think when you're married you kind of need to get over the whole playing video games all day thing, ya know?
But that said, she has no right to ban him. She can ask him to stop, and he should respect her enough to stop if it really bothers her. It's a relationship, especially a marriage, so they need to compromise. No straight out banning, etc.An hour a day is not that bad. Now if he spent all night there and not spend any minute of quality time with you, that is a problem. He married you, not the game console. LOL.
My bf looooooves poker, I told him twice a month. Or else he'd want to play every other day...hell might lose his life savings over it!
An hour? That is it? Gosh, I would join him and have fun with it. My SO only bans so to speak about me not having my hair short than to my shoulders. I think that is it. And I sometimes won't let him play gory games but that is pretty much it. Oh, and I banned him from flirting with other girls.. he never has done it but he knows he is banned, haah.
How old is this spouse that he needs to be punished like a child? Five?
One hour a day isn't that much, really. If it starts to interfere with the relationship, I can see bringing it up as an issue... but an outright ban seems like a childish way to solve the problem.
yeah if he just get's uber distracted and doesn't pay attention to her, then I can see why someone would ban them from something like that, but then if it doesn't then, what?
Instantaneous divorce.
I'd get papers drawn up that very day. It's not about the video games, but the fact that my SO is telling me that I am banned from an activity.
That's fucking ludicrous.
FUCK. THAT. If that ever happened, it's over.
Um I banned my ex-boyfriend (when we were dating) from talking to a girl because he had lied for two straight years about what he did with her, what he talked to her about, where he went with her, whether she was nothing or a close friend, whether he liked her. He laughed at me with her behind my back.
Meh. Stupid boy. Stupid bitch.
Oh, and I do believe the correct term for the man in the story is "whipped."
I think that's pretty stupid. If he's only playing for an hour, then just be patient... no need to BAN him from it LOL. I would never do that to my future SO's or husband...
If it's an addiction problem of the sort, then I can see it. But if she's just being controlling, then that's uber lame. Many of my exes would play video games for hours on end if given the chance.