I had a deep conversation with one of my closest female friends and the topic of looks came up.
Is it bad if a guy goes for a girl for her looks? I mean, be real now - you wouldn't go for a girl if she were unattractive. Personality does count, but I think looks do count and people need to stop criticizing me for that.
My friends tell me that personality is what matters the most, but I don't think I'll be able to "love" someone just for her personality. The looks are important, and honestly, I would go for the looks over their personality.
Don't get me wrong, I don't want to date sluts or anything; I want a beautiful girl who has a decent personality, meaning caring and being there when I need her.
I may be wrong, so please correct me if personality means everything.
editor's note: lol
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Hey, you can't have both. (I take it the editor was Natalia? I love you.)
At first I liked my girlfriend because of her looks. That's what hit me first, because I didn't know her personality. After I got to know her, I could care ess what she looked like, she had the perfect attitude. Her looks are more of a bonus.
I'M RIGHT HERE, BBY.
LOL! they r one in a million =P
@vvaanneessuuhh@xanga - Lawlz.
you can have both, but its hard.
you'll either get a hot bitch, or a not so hot chick who is a saint.
you can of course, find a decent looking girl with a good personality. I'd take a nerd chick, theyre usually nice, and they don't look too bad(usually).
also theyre sex goddesses. :)
Personality lasts longer than looks, I'll tell ya that.
My boyfriend happens to think I've got both :] I think if someone has a good personality, you'll learn to see beauty in them.
What's the first thing a person notices about someone else? Their looks. They don't know their personality yet, so they can't go after the person because of that. They go after the person because they find them attractive (physically) in some way or another.
Not everyone considers the same set of things attractive in another person. Someone who is pretty in your eyes, might not be in theirs. What would make someone pretty doesn't necessarily have to be shallow.
Personality isn't everything. It's very important, because it keeps things going, but it's not everything.
@vvaanneessuuhh@xanga - i believe it. :o
@steph - 100% agreed! :)
Yeah, what happens when she gets older and her skin starts to loosen and all that other junk? What then?
I do agree that looks are important to a certain extent, but after getting to know a person, you begin to forget what they look like and see them for who they are inside.
Why not go for decent looks and an amazingly beautiful personality?... Looks don't last into old age... personalities do.
@Gerald_Washington@xanga - Stop hitting on her, she likes me moar.
Umm, yeah, that'd be me...
Hahaha, love the editor's note.
Hey, there are more beautiful girls with good personalities than you'd think. I don't think you give women enough credit!
and, yes, LOL.
I'm both.
But it gets taken for granted after a while,Trust me.Give me a guy with good looks and good personality and I'll give you a girl with good looks and good personality.
I want a guy who is tall as a very tall basketball player, body of gerald butler in the 300 movie, adorable goofiness of conan o'brien, distinguished gentlemanly persona of the late peter jennings, sexy jack sparrow pirate accent of johnny depp's pirates of the caribbean character, charisma of barack obama, quirkiness of quentin tarantino, princess diana's selfless heart, smooth soft skin like zac efron, swoon-worthy raspy voice like rod stewart while singing his love songs to me on a romantic candle light dinner while he dresses stylishly and dances like justin timberlake
in my opinion, being beautiful and having a decent if not super-human personality is very realisitc and attainable.I think I found him, but not as tall and not as rasp-ily sexy 
lol, isn't that the wife of an NBA player who allows him to sleep with another once a year?
http://minusbillablehours.blogspot.com/2006/03/masha-lopatova-greatest-nba-wife-ever.html
so if you can get someone thats GORGEOUS enough, her shitty personality will balance it all out, is what i'm understanding from your blog.
you must be young. yes, looks do matter... but remember this. beauty fades and stupid is forever.
It depends on the personality you want. You can have both.
BTW personality doesn't equal intelligence.
The fact that you had to point out it was a deep conversation suggests it wasn't. I also like how you equate "attractive" people with "sluts". I have no idea what world you live in where there is no color, or even shades of grey, but it sure must be interesting without the rest of us here in reality to keep you company.
And for the editor's note: classic.
The person that you end up with or end up liking isn't always someone who you were attracted to at first glance. But later, when you're friends with someone who you didn't find strikingly attractive at first, you will start to see the beauty in them once you get to know them and their personality.
On the other hand, people are often attracted to people and like them just because of that. Then even if they say that they like the person also because of their personality, it isn't necessarily true. They just don't want people to think they're shallow, or the only reason they think that the person has a nice personality is because you think they're attractive.
But it IS possible to have both. Just depends what you're looking for.
I'm glad you brought this up. On a somewhat related note, I'm tired of seeing TV sitcoms where the wife is gorgeous and the husband is some fat, not-so-great looking guy. Why is it so important for the girl to look good, but not the guy?
I'm not disagreeing with your preference, but I bring it up because I'm a woman who prefers to have a good-looking guy. Not to say I'd settle for a 'decent' personality, but looks do have a place on my list. I don't think there's anything wrong with that.
It's like you've put people into a few categories. Beautiful, no personality and slutty or ugly, smart and amazing personality.
Looks are what catches you in but it takes good personality to attach you to that person. You might have dated women whom you thought were pretty but if you show them to some people, they might say they weren't pretty AT ALL.