Sunday, 03 May 2009
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Minimum Age to Know You've Found Your Soulmate?
My boyfriend and I have incredible chemistry - the type you feel only exists on TV. We met during freshman orientation at college this year, the second day we were on campus. Exactly one week later, he asked me to be his girlfriend. I know it seems rushed, but the connection between us was remarkable. So, eight months later, he and I are making plans for visiting each other over summer vacation (he lives in PA, I live in CT). With less than a week left together, we're squeezing out every moment possible. Last night we just sat taking to each other until nearly 4:30 a.m. He rolled over and looked at me and asked, "Do you believe it's possible to find your soulmate at 18?" I smiled at him and responded, "of course." It's one of those things that, I just know. He and I have been through a lot together over the past eight months. Fights, hospital trips, crazy families, and significant time apart as well as together. If he and I can make it through the coming four months with seeing each other sporadically, I'm convinced we can make it through anything.
While some of our friends are really supportive, others feel that we are too serious too fast. Do you feel there's a minimum age to know when you've found your other half? How old were you when you found him or her? If you're still looking, when do you hope to find him or her ?
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- From: surferchick4990@xanga
- Name: Amy
- About Me: "If you want something, go get it. Period." -The Pursuit of Happyness. I'm Amy, I'm 19, and I genuinely love life. Give me sunshine, warm weather, and my country music and I'm a happy girl. =)
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i'm only 17, so i'm not sure how good my perspective will be on this situation.
however, i think that a person can find their soulmate at any time. it just depends on whether they recognize them for what they are and if they're ready for them at that time.
love is personal and unique. you can listen to the opinions and advice of others but in the end, it's your relationship.
That's stupid. Of course there's not a minimum age. That minimum age bullshit is only furthered by older, bitter people who have experienced so much heartbreak, blah blah blah.
I'm seventeen and engaged, and all of the women I talk to snort and say irritating things like, "yeah, good luck with that" or "Wait until you're married for five years and the he'll kick you to the curb."
Which I find to be very rude, by the way. That's insulting the character of MY fiance.
i found my soulmate at 17. tuesday is our 2 year anniversary, and we're planning on getting married as soon as we graduate from college.
i don't think there is an age to be honest. i've had a lot of the same friends since elementary school and two of my best fell in love in high school but i always remember them being those two brats hitting and picking on each other in like 2nd and 3rd grade. they started dating in 8th grade and with a few bumps here and there they are still dating and we're almost out of high school. class of 2010. i'd like to see them make it because it just makes for an amazing story lol.
@chayswag@xanga - agreed.
It's not about age, it's about maturity. My husband and I started dating when we were 19, and we got married when we were 20.
My parents met in ninth grade, dated for ten years, and have been married for 21, and my grandparents (who are still together at 79 and 82), married right out of high school after dating at least a year if not more. My boyfriend's parents met in ninth grade as well, dated through high school, and, though they split for college, are now married with four sons.
My boyfriend and I started dating two years and three months ago, when I was barely 15 and he was 14. Now, we're 17 and 16 and... while we have the sense not to assume we'll be together forever, it's very likely, and I know it could work if we fought for it.
Age doesn't matter.
I'm only 19, and yes. I think there is.
Most teenagers don't have enough life experience yet to know what love truly consists of and means, let alone a soul mate.
But, that's my opinion...
Age doesn't really matter, though your tastes and what you want in a relationship may change as you get older. You shouldn't base your success in this relationship based on that alone though.
i was 17 when i found mine. he recently proposed to me. we're not planning the wedding until i get out of college (which is only a year away), but i have no doubts that he's the one i want to spend my life with.
both of our families support us and most of my friends do to. there's a few people out there that say we're too young or that we're moving too fast. but from the moment i met my boyfriend i knew there was something intriguing about him that attracted me. when we started dating i knew our relationship was going to be a special one. we've had our fair share of struggles. we've spent time apart, we've dealt with family issues, we've dealth with financial issues, future issues, our own issues. but we've never came close to breaking up. he's always been there for me and always tried his hardest for us. all he's ever shown me was true love and i couldnt thank him enough for restoring my faith in it. like you said, you just know when something is right.
The summer for you guys will be a true test, but it sounds like you should be fine! I wish you guys the best though!
I believe that you can know "love" at any age. With occasional sad exceptions, we all experience at least one form of love early in our lives which makes it possible for us to recognize other varieties of that emotion later in life. But I think that SOUL mates are a...horse of a different color.
Soul mates, to me, are something that can only be verified on our deathbeds, when our spirits are between this life and the next (presuming you believe in that sort of thing), when we see such things most clearly.
I think the term "soulmate" comes with some fairly heavy spiritual implications which make me skeptical about most people's claims. I wouldn't suggest that anyone is not experiencing genuine love, but a soulmate is so much more and probably elusive in a world as large as ours.
That said, I still hope you're right and he is.
I'm feeling the same way about my boyfriend, actually. We're in almost the exact same situation as you, except we started dating after three weeks. Go with your heart & see what happens, is what I'd say.
I was really stupid for thinking that I found him ONLY because I dated him for two years. That was really stupid for me, and I'm glad I realized it before we broke up.
Anyways, I hope I find my soul mate by the age of 23. I want us to be dating for at least four-five years, so if everything goes according to my planning, we should begin dating at 20-21 and get married by the time I'm 25. LOL. Hopefully it goes this way =D I want to get married after 24 and before 28. Oh, and have kids by the time I'm 28 LOL. xD
@spanz@xanga - lol you're cute! good luck with that though! while you're doing all this in deph planning life is going on without you and God is looking down laughing. (my sister told me that one time) which i find that its true. I dont really plan out my life. I just let things come as they should.
I dont think there is a limit to finding your soulmate, however, I do think that the two individuals should be very close to becoming financially stable, if not already capable before marriage or something as serious as trying to have kids. Ive been dating the guy I love for a few years, and pretty soon we both are going to be able to contribute to a household. Just in case something happens to one another (in case of accidental death, injury, illness (cancer runs in his family,or extra money for if we have kids), both of us are secure.
There's no official minimum age - but tell me, exactly, when do you mature? I went through three years of college and one and a half years of grad school, so far... spent tons of time with people ranging from 17 to 27... and most of them were still not mature. Granted - the older they got, the more likely they were to become mature. But it still wasn't promised. I've met many, many "men" and "women" who were, in fact, immature - and certainly were in no spot to find their soulmates (I'm not even sure if I believe in such a concept... what if that person dies, what then? You're left alone for the rest of your life because there's no one else? Anyway.) That being said, I count myself among the masses - I'm 22, and I'm only beginning to grasp the concepts of love, after having many disastrous, failed attempts. So am I "bitter"... somewhat, sure, who wouldn't be? Yet, I think emotional maturity comes with time and exposure... and determination, when you come right down to it. All that to say - being a teen, or being a very young adult... I don't think indicates that you've found your "soulmate"... you haven't lived long enough. I wish you could see down the road - will he still be there, after y'all have continued to evolve into mature adults? Who knows? Are you willing to take the risk?
I'm 18, and I believe I have found my soul mate. <3
Define "soulmate".
I do think 18 is too young to know what you really want. But 18-year-olds won't listen to the wisdom of their "bitter" elders, so they have to learn these things for themselves.
I don't think there is a minimum age at all but I do believe in not rushing in to marriage when you are young. There is nothing wrong with being in a relationship with someone for a few years before making it legal :)
There really isn't an age to know if you know you've found your soulmate, but your maturity levels and tastes of relationship preferences may change later on. I'm 22 and believe I've found mine. Granted we were friends for 4 years prior, so I'm very sure this is the real thing. That 4 years of friendship taught us how very similar we really were, and that our excellent communication is something not to just leave. I am a firm believer your lover CAN be your best friend, and I wouldn't trade it for the world. The love is still there, even though it is not every day. That's how days go; you can't expect your lover to have your attention 24/7 anyway.
I got a good sense of what love is and how it's supposed to be, but really, I think you never do know what it is. Experience and time are good factors to the equation though - if you can tolerate EVERYTHING about them, down to the smallest things, and he can as well, it's something to stay in. You may not be able to tolerate everything, but that's up to the both of you to decide if you want to work on things to make it last, or to split. Only you two can decide.
There's my two cents.
any age! age is just a number
if depth of feeling was meant to be confined to age, no child would ever suffer.
if it really feels right, maybe it is. =) don't be afraid to believe in what you've got, some feelings are worth the risk of being wrong!
no such thing as an "age". it's more of maturity to know you're in love.
I found my soulmate when I was 16 and we are still together and engaged. So, no, I don't think there is a minimum age at all.
I don't think its about age. I think its about knowing whether you can really live with that person.
I'm 23, he's 29 but we're too much alike to ever be able to live with each other.
i'm only 18, and i think i may have found mine :]<3
my aunt and uncle have been dating since they were 14 years old! and they're still happily married today :D