Saturday, 02 May 2009
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Have You Ever Said Something You Didn't Mean to Your SO?
A few days ago, I was having a really crappy day ...which included my pet dying, doing not so well on my midterms, and having headaches. I was talking to my boyfriend when all of a sudden, it escalated into a fight. I was angry that he was ignoring me for a basketball game and he was angry that I was angry at him. Our fights usually end with him hanging up on me, and me calling him back to yell at him some more. So this time when I was fuming over some things he said to me, I was thinking "I hate you. I hate you. I hate you!" When I called him back, he began to do the usual "yeah, everything's all my fault. Blame everything on me ..." routine, and I got so fed up with him I shouted "it is your fault! I hate you!" and hung up on him. Mind you, this is the first time I've ever said anything this mean or this harsh to him for the (almost) three years that we have been dating.
And of course he turned off his phone on me to show how angry he was. I began to feel really guilty and really upset that I had said those things to him. I didn't hate him and if I could do the whole thing again, I would never say that to him! And my anger started to melt and I began to worry about his reaction. Would he be mad? Would he be angry? Long story short, we did make up (faster than I thought) and he's being sweeter than ever. But I'm just curious ...
Have you ever said something to your SO that you wished you could take back the second it spewed from your mouth?
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I'm really surprised that I haven't, actually. I get pretty frustrated with school & whatnot, and he's usually gotta deal with it. But, I've never let my frustrations out on him, and I'm pretty glad. There's no way I could be mean to him and ever forgive myself. He's too good to me for me to be mean.
Maybe he feels guitly and trying to makes things out...
i haven't...but i slammed his car door once and it echoed through the street. it was around 10 pm. needless to say he wasn't pretty happy about that. he sped through the streets. i wanted to hang out with him for a couple of minutes and he doesn't want to. so i got mad and he got mad coz i was mad. then i got furious coz he's mad.
hehe i have. and then we make up :) he's not the type to stay angry and he doesn't take me seriously when i'm screaming i hate him. sometimes i feel really bad though b/c i think i get out of hand... well he's told me that i've taken it too far sometimes. but yeaa i don't do that anymore... i'm maturing... lol. we still fight though :)
Nope. However I am a bit curious to know what would have happened had I not said "I'll fucking see you in hell, bitch." lol, on second thought, that look was priceless.
Most guys who get into a fight with their girlfriend sometimes need some space/time to think things over or else they'll lose their minds. If he loves you he'll wanna work things out once he cools down (and in your case he did work things out). I'm not an expert on relationship or anything like that (not even by a longshot)-just giving my two cents.
I never told my ex I hated him until the night before he moved away to the west coast (im on the east) & really said shitty & mean things. Did I regret it? YES. I called/tried to contact him after he moved away but he didn't/still hasn't returned them. It was a stupid move on my part but even more stupid on his for saying and doing the things he did while breaking up.
My long-distance boyfriend cheated on me, so I told him that I hoped his plane crashed on his way back home for Christmas break.
Miraculously (or perhaps stupidly) we got back together anyway.
I have, many times. I never can keep my mouth shut.
Sometimes.
I like to tease. A lot. And sometimes, he just takes it a little too seriously.
@mywordsx@xanga - lol, this sounds like me. My girlfriend teases me a lot and every now and then I take it too seriously or just not as well as she would hope.
I tend to pick fights. And I'm pretty frank with my words and I don't think when I'm mad. I'm also pretty stubborn so I don't regret anything because I always think I'm right. HAHAHHA. I'm just a monster to begin with.
Of course, I learn to forgive, and so do they.
@Viserys@xanga - Haha, yeah. I guess it's best to bite my tongue sometimes and keep my mouth shut.
I have. Just the other day i told my boyfriend that i was done and couldn't take it anymore because all we do is argue. So he said fine and he was ending it, i was the one that broke down into tears because i didn't mean a thing i said, it just came out. But we did make up =]
i dont know why but my ex would make me so angry, that i would say really mean things to him. i've never met anyone that incited that much anger in me. i think it was the fact that he never gave me time to sort out my feelings......if i said, "i need time to think about it", he'd wanna talk about it right away! ughh!
yes. its really odd, I've found the person I care about most evokes these feelings in me most... I would never get to angry or wound up with an ex...
I think its because I'm paranoid and just don't trust people at all... I feel so sure that sometimes going to go wrong or I'm going to get hurt that I try to end it before it can happen (really stupid, I know).... I'm a bit crazy (that's what my SO tells me, but says he loves me anyway).... its not that I don't trust him, I know logically he would never do anything to hurt me but its just some general distrust in humanity... =/
No. I mean everything I say, it's just that some of the things I say can be (and often are) taken the wrong way.
I don't know whether I've ever said something I didn't mean, but I've phrased things much harsher than I could have when I've been mad. I meant what I said, but I didn't mean for it to come out like that.
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My boyfriend and I were arguing one time about something that I don't even remember and I said F*** You to him and hung up the phone....I've never said that to him in the two years that we've been together.
Hm. I'm sure I have, but I can't think of an example right now. That's not to say that I haven't said I hate you, and cussed at him. If you know me, cussing is a part of my everyday speak, so I guess cussing when I'm angry really doesn't mean much. haha. I've said I hate you, but it's more like, "I really hate you right now." And then explain why.
yupz.....i told him if he wanna break up with me, that it is so damn fine....xD...but luckily he didnt...he just trying to talk to me again..
a few months prior to our engagement, my fiance was being a completely a-hole and he was always hot and cold with me, we got into a huge fight and he told me that we need to take a break from each other, so i told him that if we took a break from each other then i want him completely out of my life because i don't want "us" to just be a memory because it hurts to be with or without him. so i told him that i wished i never met him and that i wished that i could surgically go and get the memory of him erased from me completely so everything that we have done or said to each other will be erased from my memory. i also told him that if we ever walked by each other to just keep walking like strangers because i don't want to be reminded of what could have been. he was so hurt by it but i was so livid because everytime we got into an argument, he always wanted to break up with me or take a break, so this way, we could get a permanent break from each other. i felt so horrible after i said it, but i couldn't take it back, and we did go on a break but we both realized how childish we both were and worked things out.
haha alllllll the time... so does he... were both irrational... but then we get over it... he usually apologizes first... cuz hes apparently either less stubborn or less stupid... esp since its usually my fault and ive been meaner... i think sometimes we just fight out of boredom (we live together...)