Miss Reindeer Yesterday my friend K asked me about my ex-boyfriend out of nowhere. Specifically she asked me what he thought about my recent entries to Datingish and if he was mad. Well firstly I told her that he hasn't spoken to me in quite a while and that I
highly doubt he reads this anymore. Secondly, I think it's safe to assume he's been engaging in similar activities well before I was since it was probably the biggest reason we broke up. Her response? "I would never, ever recover from that. Having to think about my boyfriend being naked with someone else."
Gee whiz, thanks for that visual, but presently he's not my boyfriend so it's not really any of my business.
Going through a break-up is incredibly difficult, I'm not denying that by any means. It's a huge blow to the ego and can make you feel like you're absolutely worthless and that you'll never find anybody else again. I still have moments like that once in awhile. But to never, EVER recover? It's a touch too dramatic in my opinion and honestly, it's not in my nature to be miserable for an extended period of time. At the end of the day, I'm confident in myself and I know that I'm a good girl who will find a good guy at some point. In the meantime, I'm going to enjoy myself and do what I like to do. I'm one of those eternal optimist types.
So I shared with K the sweetest thing someone told me during one of my saddest days shortly after it happened. I was having dinner with my friend A, who I hadn't seen in a very long time, and she said, "You know, if you had such a great love with _____ and it turns out that you're not meant to be together, just imagine what it will feel like when you meet the person you
are supposed to be with."
Doesn't that just give you the chills? What a fantastic pearl of wisdom to bestow upon a heartbroken friend! I've made a mental note of that and will probably use it in the future either for my friends or in some book I write, I don't know. Hands down it is the best piece of relationship advice I've ever received. What's the
best relationship advice ever given to you? Who gave it to you and what was the reason for the advice?
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I never seem to get good advice but that was awesome. I usualy get the 'we knew he was right for you.'
"just imagine what it will feel like when you meet the person you are supposed to be with"
i like! ^^
never recieved advice but i did give some
Aw that's sweet :) I can't imagine life without my boyfriend.
After one of my relationships end I generally end up thinking, "gosh, but he was such a great guy..."
My favorite thing to remember is no matter how great your ex was/is, the guy you're meant to be with is even better.
i met the right guy at the wrong time & didn't realize it until 2 years later. but it was worth an experience.
What if the person you're supposed to be with settled for someone else because they didn't want to wait any longer, or because there was an unplanned pregnancy (before meeting you) and the families forced them to marry?
All the advice I'm been given turned out to not be so good.
Maybe I'll get some good advice soon.
Thats a really great thing for your friend to say that to you. One of my good friends once told me that relationships arent a waste of time, because you learn about who you are what you want from your significant other.
I suck at giving adivce and taking advice... so yeh.
BUT, that advice that your friend gave you was really awesome.
This is what my friend said, " There are only two things a girl should be. Classy, and fabulous. You've got a lot of other priorities in life, I'm pretty sure... if you work on those, everything you've ever wanted in a relationship will follow. Plus, the best of guys love independent girls. And really, you girls don't need us. We're pretty useless for the most part."
I tell ppl all the time to be smart and invest their time and effort on their loved ones who will be there thru thick and thin ( family, friends, best friends, career) bc having a bf maybe just temporary...who knows if theyll be there till the end theres no guarantee, but family, friends, career, education...their with you forever. Ill always have my cousins to fall back on cuz we can never cut off our relation and Im so thankful to have that
Best advice I got, always lead.
I feel like my ex was the right person. It's difficult to deal with, and even though I know it's stupid to feel like I'll never meet anyone else right, I can't help it. I still love him.
I've yet to be given some advice, besides to listen to your SO. Not the best, but the most useful.
I think I might take that quote of yours. It's truly inspiring for me too. <3
that was great advice :) i won't forget that.
That IS wonderful advice!
I think best piece of advice that I can remember right now is to not talk/fight when you're drunk/pissed the fuck off. You tend to say things you don't mean because of your drunken state or your anger. Plus, you can't think clearly and then you end up just going in circles. So sit tight, calm down, and talk about it later. The problem will still be there when you're sober/calmer.
the best advice i have received from a close friend of mine to "stop trying to change every guy you meet to make him seem acceptable when you already know that he's not, but wait patiently for the one that is acceptable because you won't need to change him." i took that to heart because i have always been the one in every relationship to fix "him" to be the one that i wanted but none of that ever really worked until i stopped changing "him" and started to just accept him or be with someone who had more things that we were compatible with and it just worked out. my fiance isn't perfect, he's completely flawed, but he accepts me for who i am, even when i'm makeup-less and in sweats and my hair isn't done and tells me that i'm still the most beautiful person in the world. now that's love.
I think the best relationship advice ever given to me was watching my parents. Sure, my mom turned out to be a cheater and my dad is still suffering, but when the same thing happened to me with my ex, I knew better how to handle it. And if my dad can get over my mom even when he still HAS to face her (my sis is still their minor-aged child) then I knew I could get on with life and over the ex.
I love how my dad always keeps his cool. I have definitely learned from that in relationships.
Funny thing is, I actually recieved that advice just last night!
But to me, I still wonder if she WAS the right girl, and if I'll end up with her in the future, and that's the best it'll ever get.
I hope, if only for my sake, that I'm wrong, and there is something that much more amazing and better out there.
I never received any great advice for relationships. But the one you received is awesome!
That just helped me a bunch
Just imagine
:)
Wow...that's amazing! I'm going through a break up right now with a guy I was with for 2 and a half years and I can't even imagine my life without him. But after reading this it really made me feel better *cries* (sorry we all know how emotional we get during a break up...always crying and so sensitive lol)