I'm beating a dead horse, so hopefully this is the last time I ever blog about this. And by this I mean him.
He was my best friend. Yes, past tense. About a month ago that all changed and I think it would be a stretch to even call us friends. We went from texting/emaililing/chatting/commenting every day to absolutely nothing. I get it, but I don't.
I know a lot of guys are probably rolling their eyes thinking that I'm being all girlish about this, and you know what? Maybe I am, but I've looked at this situation from all sides and I still get the same conclusion: I was dumped.
Dumped is a huge misnomer because he wasn't my boyfriend or even close to it, but what other word describes the end of a relationship (albeit friendship) for a new one? Granted, she isn't new; she was there before me, but I still feel kicked to the curb.
I posted something else about this and my friend and I were talking about it and I told him that he'd simply found something better. He was in love. He was happy and that I couldn't fault him for that. And really, I can't. Who is to say I wouldn't do that same thing in the same circumstances? Everybody wants their somebody and he found his, so good for him and all, but I feel like my role being diminished in his life could have had better results. [Because I mean seriously, when I asked him about he said, "Oh. Well. Sorry."]
I'm not trying to cockblock or be all up in his business. I understand that our dynamic can't be what it used to be, but for it to be completely obliterated? It sucks.
True
Comments (45)
Wow, I think his actions were out of line. Just because you are with someone does not mean you burn bridges or obliterate a friendship.
I can understand his need or desire to focus much more on the girl he is in love with but it seems like he could at least have kept in touch a little with you.
i know exactly how you feel.
hang in there :(
looks like he wasn't a friend after all, better this way now you know what he's really like
this is kinda what i`m going through atm .
good luckk .
Hurt so bad .
I think I just did this to one of my best friends :( I guess I need to try harder, it was just something that seemed to happen, not even concious until it was done.
yeah well. people change. what can you do?
Yes, I'm pretty sure we've all gone through this. Just remember that famous falsetto...
I will survive!
Sheesh. He was kind of mean about it.Â
I have a friend like this. When he gets a girlfriend he starts to ignore me, not return my calls, etc. It's messed up because we were like brother and sister :(
This happend to me too recently.
It's stupid and childish.
omg... i can totally relate to u, i was in the same situation up until yesterday. For awhile after i got "dumped", i even considered the possibility that I might had fallen for my best friend without realising it. but now that I "calmed down", i think i was feeling upset and at some point sour because like u mentioned, my role in his life had changed, there is someone else more important now. to put it blantly, we're not gonna get the same amount of attention and hang-out time as before. it's sad but u know what? life's unfair. *shrug*
p.s: to make things worse, this new girlfriend of his is someone i hate. she came between my last bf and i. so yeah.
what is the question? how to cope with it? i dunno, here's a cyber gift *cupcake*
feel better soon<3
It totally sucks when this happens. It's as if all their former caring and words and time and friendship meant nothing, and that maybe they were insincere all along. It's hard to swallow that someone was phony, selfish, or using you when you thought they cared about you, even if just as a platonic friend.
I COMPLETELY CONCUR.
You couldn't have said it better .
I'm in the same boat.
its not true friendship then... he's not worth it... if he did value you as much as you valued him then this should not have happened... for me a friend is even better than a lover...
Well if that's the case, he's a jerk. I have a friend who used to complain to me all the time about how her friend didn't talk to her as much after he started dating this girl. I'm not a fan of people who "dump" their friends when they get a significant other. If someone ever does that to me, I won't guarantee that I'll be there (at least not right away) when they break up with their bf/gf.
Same thing happened to me, Nothing you can do, Move on :(
Maybe he doesn't really realize it because he's so happy. You should tell him if you want it to change. Or he's using his new gf as an excuse to "get rid" of you. *shrugs* I think you deserve better. :/
i don't know.....how would it feel that he broke up with his relationship because of you even though you two were just really good friends? that has personally happened to me and i felt a tad guilty because i wasn't made known to this fact till years later....
that happens and i guess theres nothing to do but move on and find more people in this world who wont leave you like that .
Hmm. He's probably so into the girl that she is now the priority and not your friendship anymore. However, I think that you should try to keep in contact with your friend because when things go wrong with his girl, at least you would be there for him. You're being the better person. Plus, is this worth losing the friendship over?
Girls come and go (same with guys), but its hard to find true friends.
yes, i agree. its like your suddenly not that big part of his life..but then u guys are a "couple" either...ugh. going through this phase with a frd right now.
but i got this question...so should i tell him abt it? abt how im feeling..? or should i just let it go and continue to let it be?