Thursday, 30 April 2009

  • Listen Up, Ladies!

    Listen up ladies. I am about to jump on my soap box for a second.

    I am getting sick and tired of hearing about relationship problems here on Xanga - I swear, some people just live to bitch. I see women left and right who blame everyone and everything in the world for their unhappiness, when the fault is mostly theirs.

    They say it takes two to make a relationship work. What a load of crap! It takes a good strong woman to make a relationship work. That is a fact! I am not a happily married woman for nothing. It takes hard work. The problem with a lot of these women I see whining is that they are not willing to do all the little things necessary to make their man happy. Either because they are too LAZY, too STUBBORN, or too DUMB to do so. 

    What are some of the little things I am speaking of?

    Cook for your man - Even if you are a horrible cook. Make him a PB&J on toast every once in a while. Bring it to him while he is watching sports. He'll appreciate it.
    Don't be a nag - Clean up behind him instead of bitching every once in a while. Yes he missed the hamper... again. Just pick it up and put it in for him. Trust me it is much less stressful to do it then for you to try to start an argument about this. PICK YOUR BATTLES, LADIES!!!
    Comb your hair - This includes changing your hairstyle from time to time. It tricks men into thinking they are sleeping with another woman.
    Take an interest in your man's hobbies - Men are an egotistical breed. It is necessary for you to stroke that ego sometimes. Go to his team's bowling night once in a while, encourage him when he brags about how his fantasy football team is doing. Make him feel like you give a crap about whatever nonsense he is into for the time being.
    Laugh at his jokes - Yes it sounds cliche, but again. The EGO.
    Know when to shut up - This is extremely difficult for some women. I know from experience. Just know that sometimes, less is more. This is the case whether it is during a fight or during some downtime. Sometimes it's best to just shut the hell up.
    Don't be afraid to let that freak flag fly - Be adventurous in the bedroom sometimes. Every man has that one thing he's seen in a porno once that he's always wanted to try. Find out what it is and do it (within reason, of course).
    Don't be a bitch - Yes, we know that you are a "strong" woman, and we know you don't take nothin' from nobody, but honey, that bitch routine will grow old real quick. Grow up.

    Now, ladies, if you are not doing these things, then start doing them. I know this isn't the fifties and that taking care of a man is no longer considered "cool," but if you don't want to be lonely, then you might consider changing that stuck up attitude. That is, unless you look like this...

    One last thing. If you are doing what you are supposed to do and things are still not working, then it's up to you as the woman to concede that your man is a loser! Sometimes you have to throw in the towel. It's better than the alternative of staying in a failing relationship, becoming bitter, and then constantly complaining to all of us about it.

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Comments (119)

  • jupiter312@xanga

    Darn right!  Finally, someone with sense posting relationship advice on here.  I still remember some of the posts where girls discussed the arguments they had with their boyfriends about playing video games or some other normal activity...
  • aishiteiru@xanga

    HAHAHA i totally agree.
    you need to put some effort in the relationship dont just blame your guy people.
    my SO and i take turn doing those stuff and it really spice our relationship up. it makes things exciting.
    i suggest not just girls but guys should do the same as well.
    it takes two to tango.

  • JupitersDays@xanga

    At first, I didn't like what I was reading here, but after some thinking, I agree with this. Yes, you have to put effort into your relationship, but you're not the only one who has to make the effort. He should be putting some effort into the relationship as well. He does not need to do the same things that you are doing, but he better be doing something. For example, in my relationship I cook and do the dishes. I don't mind, I enjoy cooking and doing the dishes is whatevers. What does the boyfriend do? He buys the food I cook and he appreciates the food I make. For me, as long as he appreciates the things I do, I'm good. Plus, when I'm sick or don't feel like cooking he'll take over by either trying to make me something or taking me out. It's all about a balance. Our balance works out well for us.

    I completely agree with the last statement, "If you are doing what you are supposed to do and things are still not
    working, then it's up to you as the woman to concede that your man is a
    loser!" You can only do so much, and when you've done all that you can and the relationship still sucks, it isn't you, it's him, ALL HIM. 
  • walkintotheseaaa@xanga

    I'd rather not make my significant other feel like he's sleeping with another woman.  If he feels that need, maybe he shouldn't be with me.
  • RazorBladeParade@xanga

    Is this a joke? Because this post really sounds like a "Shut up woman, and get in the kitchen!" type of thing.

  • mikeylohsu@xanga

    I sorta agree/disagree with this entry, but hey, it's true that girls/women/ladies/namewhateveryouliketonameit are getting lazy and stubborn nowadays.

    I do the cooking, cleaning, laundry, and etc, you name it. She does nothing, but she loves me so much.

  • waste_my_time_x7@xanga

    @RazorBladeParade@xanga - took the words right out of my mouth
  • doLc3@xanga

    @RazorBladeParade@xanga - agreed.
  • Lauren_Vogue@xanga

    Thank god for this post.

  • wachamakulit@xanga

    eeehh...feel free to leave datingish if ud like...no one's making u read it
  • RaccoonEyed@xanga

    haha this is soooo true!
  • TheLoveMuse@xanga

    Three years ago my feminist side would have kicked in and told you to go to hell, but I've learned that guys like it when you make them feel like they're the MAN in the relationship!  There's nothing wrong with cooking him dinner and indulging his fantasies every once in a while, particularly if he likes it.  I love being girly with my boyfriend, letting him open doors for me and take the lead when we walk together.  He also appreciates my geeky side, and thinks it's awesome when I tell him he doesn't get to hog all the fun of putting together the IKEA furniture ;)
  • mi_piaci

    are you serious?
  • ichigo705@xanga

    @RazorBladeParade@xanga - Agreed.
  • madishka@xanga

    Maybe this works for you.....but not for everyone.
  • LampShade7@xanga

    @walkintotheseaaa@xanga - I agree.
  • kuro_kokoro@xanga

    heh heh heh.... agreed. everything takes hard work. at least if you want good results. xD
  • pillowpixies@xanga

    I agree and I disagree. Like Razor said, this sounds like a "Shut up and get in the kitchen" kind of post. That's one of the areas in which I disagree.

    I also disagree with this statement: "They say it takes two to make a relationship work. What a load of crap!
    It takes a good strong woman to make a relationship work. That is a
    fact!"

    If both people aren't working in the relationship, it's not going to work. It takes two people for it to work, otherwise the one person might as well be attempting to have a relationship with a wall. It takes a strong woman, but it also takes a strong man.

    I agree that women should pick their battles and basically quit bitching about everything.

  • LampShade7@xanga

    @RazorBladeParade@xanga - I'm glad someone could put into words what I was thinking.
  • hannahlovesdoug@xanga

    @pillowpixies@xanga - Agreed but some woman have reasons why they are bitching.  Some are just pointless though.
  • lolquack@xanga

    I do all of this already!:D
    Haha, I'm awesome!

    I'm the most sexist women I know.
    I hate women.
    get in the kitchen xD
  • anonymous

    I cook him instant ramen noodles on a daily basis as well as keep beer readily available in the pantry, I have many clothing hampers which I left open for him to slam dunk those dirty socks and other clothing of his anything he wants to shoot a 3-pointer basket or just toss in, I have hair dye of many different colors/stocked up on aqua net hairspray/curling iron/flat iron/etc to change my hairdo daily, I'm very good at pretending to care about his sports and/or car interests, I'd rather talk my catty female friends' ears off than converse with him because his main job in our relationship is to sleep with a sexy hottie like me and he is doing me a favor, not the other way around
  • Tina_Kushnu@xanga

    I really can't believe that some people agree with this post.  It's completely sexist.  It shouldn't be the woman constantly pleasing the man and stepping aside to let him do whatever the hell he wants.  I'm by no means a feminist (my mother is and it drives me insane), but I do believe in SHARED responsibilities.  You're both adults after all.  If you're not, then don't be in a relationship.
  • HollowTendencies@xanga

    wow.. i'm sorry you obviously can't find a good enough guy to have an even balance. you're not giving any guys credit you act like they're lazy and we need to do all the work, when really i've never met a guy who didn't help out and make things equal (excluding my lame stepfather)


    have fun being a mindless slave.. and yeah i really wouldn't want my guy feeling like he's sleeping with another woman.. goodness have respect.


    now i'm all about cooking for a guy, i love to do that, but if it's a peanut butter sandwhich he wants he can make it his effing self.


    and if his jokes aren't funny, i ain't laughing.. i'm not spineless, however most guys are pretty funny, that's what i love about them :)


    and isn't that what datingish is for.. to gripe about/discuss relationships?? geez


  • anonymous

    am I one of the few who sees the sarcasm or is my mind playing tricks on me and I should post a more angrily thoughtful answer lol

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