Wednesday, 29 April 2009
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WYD: Would You Date Someone Who'd Been Around (or Hadn't)?
Miss Alligator and I were chatting today and she mentioned this guy she goes to school with - he's been with 20 girls since the school year started. Oy.
She brought up the question of whether he'd get over his ways and become more of a "good guy" someday . . . but in the meantime, why would anyone be with him after knowing that he'd been with so many girls recently?
Would you date someone who had either been with significantly more (or fewer) people than you had?
(neither of us would!)
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No. I simply wouldn't. I want someone on the exact level as what I am. Twenty+ people is horrible, especially in just a year.
All my boyfriends have been virgins. lmao.
I'm called a virginator.
My boyfriend now, only had one other girl before me.
My fiance had never been on a date with anyone before me, I had gone on a few dates but was in one serious relationship before him.
I would not date a guy that has been with 20+ girls...That's just gross.
20+people is kinda bad. but having more exes than me, is not a big deal, as long as its not 30+ and they have to have a good explanation
It depends on where I'm at in my life. If I'm looking for someone serious, I don't think I would be okay with someone who's been with so many people inside one year. That just shows that he's not serious and just wants to fuck around. But if I'm just looking for someone to fuck around with, then it really wouldn't matter.
I think it's really about accepting your significant other's past or not, coming to terms and dealing with it. Otherwise, why bother about trying to find someone whose on the "same level" as you or someone who has dated around the same amount that you have?
wow. that's got "STD" written all over it...
LOL !! I dont care with how many girls he's been with as long as when he's with me he has to be so totally into me and win my affection for him to be my bf. lol. Cuz i know that if he's THAT into me he will ignore other bitches that come his way and have only eyes for "ME"
=) dont meant to sound conceited it's just the way I think
My boyfriend had been with 25 girls before me, and he took my virginity. I guess the 26th time is the charm... because we've been together for almost a year and it's all peachy. Like, really... no issue at all.
Plus, he's been tested and he's clean. Phew.
I did. The last guy I dated was... shall we say... serial dater. Humpty Dumpty, if you will. He humps then he dumps.
I love that people associate a person having a lot of sex with being a bad person.
Someone's track record doesn't matter to me. I think that's shallow, because as long as that person can maintain a relationship with me why does it matter that they've slept with more/less people than I have in the past?
Dumb.
Oh no, destined to get played with someone like that. I'll take someone with similar relationship experience as me.
I think 10+ would be too much for me. I think I could handle someone who'd been with less people than I had, but I don't know if I could be with a virgin.
Don't judge me. o.O@RazorBladeParade@xanga - Exactly. I think it's the fear that people who have dated a lot were irresponsible or not serious. And they assume that they had sex with all those people, when that isn't necessarily the case. So long as a person is honest with me (and since I don't ask about people's dating history), then I don't see a problem.
Thats such a turn off. I like guys who only do it with somebody special/long term relationship partners only
No.
My boyfriend was definitely a 20+ kind of guy, emphasis on the "+". He was with a lot of girls, like . . . a lot, haha! We talked about it when we first started dating, and he was very honest about the whole thing. He's military, so he gets tested all the time, so we both knew he was clean. He's the only man I've ever been with, and we've been together for a year and three months, so a manwhore, if you will, can be reformed. I think it is a matter of whether or not the guy is ready and willing to change his ways and if the girl is willing to forget about the past and accept the guy for who he has become, not who he used to be.
@SomethingAboutKaren@xanga - yea seriously!
For the record, the post doesn't say he's been sleeping with all these girls, just that he's "been with" them, which is really quite vague.
Either way, I would date him if he turned into a commitment-capable guy, like DancerDarlin@xanga said, but otherwise I would just never be able to trust him and his supposed feelings for me.
As far as less people than me, that wouldn't bother me at all.
Umm...I'd really only have a problem if they were around my age or older, and they'd had 0-1 partners...2 would be pushing it...unless the 1 or 2 were long-term, married or engaged relationships they'd had. But if they haven't had any long-term relationships and have only 1 or 2, I'd feel like a big old whore next to them and I'm just not up for teaching them what to do.
20 girls? No way. That's a turn off for me. If he hasn't changed after the first 5, 10, or 15, he's not really learning his lesson.
No, that's a huge turn off.
That would depend. Frankly if it's what my heart desires then...well...still a maybe. There would definitely be a trip to the clinic, and some definite guidelines would have to be established. Some one strike you're out rules.
I would to a certain point, but when it gets above a certain point, it just makes me think that they have some issues that need ironing out.
No ,I wouldn't ...