Wednesday, 29 April 2009
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Who Initiates Sex/Kissing In Your Relationship?
In the beginning of our sexual relationship, I initiated sex because I thought my boyfriend wanted me to. Now, he initiates the sex. I think this actually has to do with a fear of rejection on my part.
I seem to remember a time where I initiated sex and my boyfriend turned me down, for some reason or another. Ever since then, I haven't initiated sex, even though I know my boyfriend wants me to (he told me so).
So, we invented this game that we call "rough" or "playing rough". It goes like this: we'll be cuddling and things will get a little heated. So one of us will be like, hey, you wanna play rough? Usually the person asking is answered by a kiss in the right place, or something like that. The object of the game is to dominate the other person. Whoever dominates the other person or initiates the sex in the best way wins.
Who usually initiates sex in your relationship? Do you prefer initiating sex, or do you like it better when your SO does? Does the initiation happen in any unique/fun way?
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he initiates the touching. i do the kissing. then he tries to do the sexing. & then i do the stopping :O
she normally kisses me, but sex really goes either way. it just depends on who is in the mood i guess.
We both do, at certain times. Really no one way or the other for us. :P
i do the kissing...he initiates the touching most of the time... like we'd be chillin and he'd come up to me n start kissing on my neck n touchin places and i'd act like i want him to stop and then he wud hold me in a position that i cant move and then i'd give up and then one thing leads to another. it really depends on both our moods. sometimes i initiate everything
It's pretty much equal for us.Â
@asdfghjkieu@xanga - haha yup basically the same for me!
She does. I'm told that I'm "acting weird" every time I do. Even after she TOLD me to initiate more often--and I then told her why I don't--she still can't help but say I'm acting weird (even if I'm not). We're still sorting that out.
Besides, I'm a giver and she's a taker. It's not nearly as much fun when I initiate...I'm taking too much then.
I would say it's about even.
I usually initiate it. Not because I'm a hornball or anything >.>
But yeah I do. I like kissing...I'm always planting one on him if I'm trying to start something and he pretends not to notice XD. Then he slyly pulls me away and crazy stuff happens.
That or he's usually absorbed in TV or a video game and it's really fun to surprise the hell out of him and just randomly jump, haha. He loves having his attention diverted, especially when it involves being naughty ;P
You mean the relationship that just ended today? Oh yeah...that one...
but whatever, i prolly initiate more. Don't matter now.
We Both do it.
We're both really horny people.
Or if we're like talking and I randomly kiss him He goes
"Ohhh, Where is all this coming from!?"
I go "It's always been there"
He does it too lol
@Dustin_wind@xanga - I'm sorry about your relationship =(
both, sometimes i do more, sometimes he does more, but we have been together long enough to know when the other wants it
Haha he's usually the one who comes over and ALWAYS wants to get down and dirty (I'm not always in the mood when I see him), but I'm always the one begging for more even after he's done and tired.
I prefer my SO to initiate.
Mostly because I'm extremely submissive.
@lolquack@xanga - Hey thanks. I'm havin a hard time haha.
I've never had sex but I'm usually not the one to initiate kissing. I always feel like I'll try at the wrong moment and embarrass myself or something.
@Dustin_wind@xanga - Aww, well remember things happen for a reason. Hope you feel better
lol @Dustin_wind@xanga -Â
this mother fucker has fucked over 20 girls but less than 50 females
but can't turn me on.
what the fuck?!!!!! KISS ME!!
Well, my current BF and I haven't done the deed yet. But I initiated our first kiss, and since then it's about 50/50. I'm pretty sure I'll be initiating the sex though. I think he's afraid I'll flip out on him and break it off or something if he tries.
My ex on the other hand. God. I don't remember a day when he didn't bug me to have sex with him. Some people really have no control over their hormones.
I guess that would be me. I don't particularly PREFER it that way, but that's usually how it goes. He's perfectly happy with leaning over, kissing me good night, and going to sleep. If I want sex, I have to continue from that kiss. Very few times has he been the aggressor...Sometimes it's just nice to feel wanted.
My bfs always scared of pushing me to do something I dont wanna do, so most of the time I start it by kissing, then he goes through with the rest.
i guess it depends on who is more in the mood! :)
but 9 of 10 times if he starts to touch me (feeling up and down my legs and grabbing my ass) his shirt comes off! :)
so as soon as i start to take his clothes off he does the same for me.
kissing wise we both do it when we feel like it!
She's always ambushing me. She values the element of surprise I guess.