If he wants to keep you a secret from everyone (excluding your mom, since he has good reason to hide his relationship with you from her), then that's not a great sign. You should be with someone who's proud to be with you. Current boy doesn't seem to fit that criteria.

I agree, you want to be with someone who would be proud and privileged to be with you and call you his girlfriend. Especially after a year, regardless of what he's keeping from his mom. His friends aren't his parents. He should treat you like his girlfriend around them.

@s0rair0@xanga - What she said!
I say get rid of him.

My boyfriend. His ex gf had to hide him from her parents.
& he hated it, and she ended up leaving him anyways.
They were dating for 3 and half years.
& for over a year and a half they had to hide their relationship. Not to mention they lived in two different cities.

Stuff like that gets complicating.

& you're obviously not that important to him.
So dump him

I have no idea where you got the notion he loves you-he clearly does not. Pay attention to what people do, not what they say. 

I think the whole thing is nonsense. Does his mother talk to his friends? Does she ask them about his relationships? Very doubtful. So if he's only needing to keep you a secret from the mother, why do his friends not know about you? Why doesn't he acknowledge you? It's very hard to believe that he cares about you, let alone loves you, when hearing how he treats you like that.

If he honestly loved you, he would be dying to be around you. He would want all of his friends to know that he was with you, to know how happy he is. He's not doing that though. He's not acknowledging you. He's ignoring you. It's like he's ashamed of you.

You're miserable. Read your own post, read it. You said that you're miserable. You say that it hurts you. You say that you question whether or not he honestly loves you. Are you seriously going to want to stay in a relationship like that for the rest of your life? Really?

If that's honestly the way he is, he wouldn't turn into a different person when it's just you and him. He wouldn't go from ignoring you to kissing you. He wouldn't go from pretending you don't exist to telling you that he loves you. It's obvious that he's putting on a show, and you're falling for it. It's highly doubtful that he cares for you. He may have to hide you from his mom, but he does NOT have to hide you from his friends.

You should feel hurt. He knows you're hurt and he doesn't seem to have any intentions of doing anything about it. Be smart and leave him.

Love is personal and meant to have private aspects to it, but when you love someone, you should tell others about it. I've always thought of it as one of those things you'd want to scream from a mountain top. He's got it wrong. He's probably scared of something, and you can either ask him what and try to make up, or just dump him. I think he needs to change a lot of things if you're going to stay with him. Right now, he's not cutting it.

Dump him. He's slipping in school and coming home late because he's been with another girl. His mother has just given him a convenient excuse to play the field.

TOTALLY been there! My last ex of a year and I bassssically broke up because his mom hated me (b/c she was crazy/racist/control freak).... anyway he insisted on hiding it from his mother similarly

Funnily enough, my current BF has a similar situation when his parents hated me (man!) buuuuut he basically stood up for me. There were repercussions, and it was tough, but I found that if someone TRULY cares about you, then they should defend you, even from their mother's crazy accusations.

Besides I think it highlights a bigger problem (though I can only speak from experience) of a guy not having a real spine if he can't stand up for you if you've done nothing wrong.

I was in your situation when I was in high school, except my parents believed he was the bad influence. Plus, there were issues with him supposedly cheating, which I spent far too much time worrying about. Looking back on the situation now that I'm a few years older, I can say we were definitely too young for that kind of drama. I would suggest you live it up, find someone you can actually enjoy yourself with. Why waste these years with all that drama?

Woah! Do not let him treat you like that.

You only need to keep your relationship private to his mother, not his friends, it makes it seem like he wants to be able to attract other females. I don't know, the "secret" relationship sounds rather .. fishy.

You should be with a guy who will cherish you and be proud to have you as his girlfriend.

I was in a similar situation for about two years.  His parents didn't want him dating at all until after college, and so no one could know that we were together for fear his parents or sister would find out.  (We're from a small town.)  For me it got to the point where I just couldn't deal with the secrets and lies anymore, and being treated like nothing except when we were alone, which was very infrequent because we live 3 hours apart.  I gave him an ultimatum, and when he couldn't or wouldn't treat me better, I ended it, even though it was painful because I really did love him.  Now I'm with someone knew who is proud of me and shows me every day how much he cares, and I couldn't be happier.

So it's really up to you.  Can you deal with it?  If it's just going to hurt you and his mom is not going to get over it any time soon, I say find someone better.  It's not worth wasting prime years of life on someone who doesn't deserve you.  Trust me.