I used to like this boy, "Duck," in 10th grade and pretty much liked him for a year straight. I thought he was so perfect: He was good-looking, played a guitar, seemed nice. I couldn't imagine how big a jerk he actually was/is.
I came to find out that two weeks ago, "Duck" was telling his friends how I was such a "stalker who would leave 20 comments on [his] profile". If that wasn't bad enough, my friend overheard him advising another boy to "hit it and quit it," the "it" being one of his good girl friends.
So, I have to wonder, it seems like I go after the seemingly sweet types (think Michael Cera) who end up being major jerks. I ask anyone who's reading this: Have you ever had a crush on someone who ended up being a major jerk? Been called a "stalker"?
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Ow, that has to suck. But I have to say no, I can usually make out the type of guy he is right in the beginning, and I am usually right.
Any guy with the name "Duck" is gonna have something weird going on.
That hurts. It's hard to tell about people. Unfortunately, to find out, we have to put ourselves out there and probably get hurt a few times.
Ouch. What an ass. Luckily you didn't date him! Yes, I've had crushes on guys who ended up being a jerk. It took me a long time to realise that.
Not saying you are one.
But i'm looking for a stalker right now
yeah i've liked a guy who's an ass before. I tried to make excuses for it at first, then i realize how stupid i was -.-
Yeah I probably wouldn't pursue someone named Duck...
Yeah, this totally has happened to me. Not the stalker thing, just the fact that the guy I crushed on for two years toyed with me and turned out to be not as nice & sweet as I thought.
I even wrote about him in my blog. He got a two part post, hahah.
Whoop-dee-doo, you found out what most of us know already - the majority of the human populace are assholes, regardless of what our love-stricken perceptions are.
I've dated plenty of assholes. You either get over it or you shut yourself away from humanity. I've never been called a stalker though...probably because I haven't been obsessive about a guy since I was 14.
Anyway, you live you learn. Next time, crush on the quiet kid without a weird name.
Majority of my exs turned out to be major jerks and the most recent one has been harassing me for about 7 months! I've never been called a stalker though.
Yeah, I've had that happen to be before, sans the stalker part. >_> It's awful when you find out that someone you liked is a complete ass in the end. ._.
But anyway, in life, you live and learn, right? :)
first of all guys tend to do that. especially in high school. say mean things about girls to make them look better because well lets face it, theyre kind of jerks. not saying all guys, just most of them. but we all have to go through those jerks, many times, to find the good guys. this is because when that good guy comes around we def know hes worth it
Well, I suppose it's better to find out now than had you gotten in a relationship with him first.
isn't a stalker supposed to be stealthy? how are you a stalker if you openly leave comments on his profile? hmm not only is he a jerk but he's also stupid.
leaving 20 comments on his profile at once is pretty weird though.
this could happen the other way too with someone you didn't think you would like initially and then once you get to know the person, you realized you really can't judge a book by its cover.
lol, this happened to me too. The I had a crush on a few years ago told his friend that "I totally wanted him" and was being all cocky. He was much like your jerk.
Yep. Went out with a guy (just on a date) and he was a totally gentleman. A few days later, I found out he was hooking up with another girl. He called me a day later, acted like nothing had happen, and asked me on a date again. Pft. The sad thing was, he knew I saw him with another girl too. Lordy, lord!
But did you really leave 20 comments on his profile? Lol. If you did, yeah, that is pretty weird.
I have!
Major disappointment!
yup
ive been there
I went out with someone who seemed like a sweety at first, but then he ended up being really WEIRD. He wasn't an asshole, he was just plain crazy. He also couldn't help but make up stories about things he's done. Compulsive liars suck.
It was a really bad experience.
Sometimes you can't tell how a person is until you get to know A LOT more about them.
I spent years and years getting used by this one boy, and yes he did call me a stalker, and yes he was an asshole.
Now that I'm over him and actually have a guy that treats me well, I see how incredibly stupid I was. I hate that boy now. I really do. Anyways, just wait until you can find someone that treats you well and deserves you. I know you probably hate hearing that, I sure did, but it really is true. You WILL find someone. Sorry about that dumbass you fell for...I wasted a year and a half of my life on a complete a-hole. But I didn't realize it until the very end and a bunch of things that were hidden from me came up. And I was going to move in with him after this summer. Glad I found out those things when I did.
I've never been called a stalker, but I have been interested in jerks before. At one point I was interested in a jerk, who was also interested in me. However, said jerk was somewhat insane. He couldn't make up his mind and he had issues with women in the past, therefore he didn't consider me trustworthy of his feelings. Then, of course, we argued over small things. The last straw was about a year after we initially hung out, when he took this other girls side (who was across the country AND someone he barely knew, like for only an hour) over mine. She had told him some bullshit about how I didn't like them talking (when I really didn't even know they were) and all that. He believed her. It was great. Easily said, I wasn't interested in him after that.
Yes I have, I even dated him...He seemed all cool and everything and once we started dating he went behind my back and saying stuff, and would make rude sexist jokes constantly..Just be glad you found out what an a-hole he is before you dated him or anything.