Sunday, 26 April 2009
I used to think the answer to this question was an obvious no, but now I'm starting to rethink that. I know many guys who have experimented sexually with another guy. Maybe it was once during college. Maybe it happened during childhood. Or maybe it happened when he was drunk one night and just hanging out with a buddy. I've heard pretty much all of the excuses straight guys have to tell themselves to justify sexual exploration with another guy. If sexual experimentation can be justified, is romantic experimentation that far off? I don't think that it is.
How many times does a straight man get to experiment with another guy before he's officially in denial about his heterosexuality? Also, with more and more women turning to each other for sexual and romantic fulfillment, how far off will it be until men begin doing the same thing? If a man feels close enough to another man to consider him a friend and the two of them experiment regularly, aren't they basically a couple? When will guys learn that it's okay to like other guys? In a society that's becoming more and more open minded, no excuses need to be made.
In the gay community, when a gay man has a crush on a straight man, that straight man is known as "forbidden fruit." What I don't understand is why the fruit has to be so forbidden. Honestly, it makes no sense - just go ahead and eat it! As someone who has a lot of straight guy friends, I've noticed that several of them seem to be very unhappy in the world of heterosexuality. Many of my straight guy friends are fed up with girls and have told me that their ideal mate is a female with a male's mentality and interests. Am I the only one who sees a problem with this?
Girls are not always sugar, spice and everything nice, which is perfectly acceptable. In fact, that's one of the great things about women. So why don't more men step outside of their comfort zone and learn to accept happiness wherever they can find it? Heterosexual females are adapting this mentality more and more every day - freeing themselves of society's labels and challenging the notions of right and wrong and many of them are happier because of it. It's ironic that the sex the world has always deemed "weaker" is the one strong enough to pave the way.
In my opinion, it's only a matter of time before we evolve into a species that's open enough to take love no matter which gender it comes from. There will always be girls who wish guys were more sensitive and find themselves falling in love with a friend they may have considered a sister. There will always be guys who wish girls were more into video games and find themselves falling in love with their homie. I look forward to the day when we stop fighting what our hearts want and base our feelings on the individual, not on our pre-programmed, traditional ideals.