Friday, 24 April 2009
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My BF Wants to Get Me A Promise Ring - I Don't Want One!
So my BF of almost a year is thinking of getting me a promise ring for our one year anniversary. I told him that I don't want him to, not because I don't love him; it's just that it's so expensive, and I don't need anything like that just to prove or show off our love. I told him that as long as we both love each other, not doing anything inappropriate behind one another, staying true to ourselves and as long as nothing interferes with our relationship, then I'm happy. When do you guys think is the perfect time to give your SO a promise ring? If you've been given one, when did you get it and what has your experience been like since you started wearing it?
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You should accept it gratefully, and thank him.
Then sell it.
if you're worried about a cost just get something plain and simple, mine was sterling silver and it was just a band around i liked the simplicity and because then it wouldn't be girly for him either to wear... soo yeahh. It's not like crazy expensive :P
Promise rings never really made sense to me...
Um yeah...promise rings are pretty much a joke. Isn't "promising" to marry someone the purpose of an engagement ring? Um...yeah....pretty sure it is.
Everyone I have known, myself included, as suffered a "curse" of the promise ring. Whenever someone gives and/or receives one, they break up a few months later. Because of that, I don't want/like promise rings.
My ex gave me a promise ring 6 months into our relationship. It was a ring his grandmother gave to him (that's what he told me anyways). I accepted it because I loved him. Even if he had paid for it I would have. It's the gesture that matters, the meaning behind it. Even if he got me a plastic 25 cent ring, I would have worn it proudly. I still wear it to this day even after we have broken up.
@Dare2BDiferentt@xanga - Hahahahaha. I love it.
I think it's a sweet idea, and maybe you two could find an acceptable price range between the two of you. If he wants to get it for you, I think it would be nice to let him, since you're obviously not hoarding him for his money. Anyway, congratulations! The idea of a promise ring! =]
well i think a promise ring is nice, especially if the guy is the one who wants to have/give one!
even though i haven't really figured out the purpose of the promise ring but if its the cost of the ring that worries you, then there are always rings that are cheaper! i mean i have gotten nice stainless steel rings for 10 bucks! so much better than the other more expensive ones i have!
i guess its the thought that counts. :)
My exboyfriend gave me a promise ring for my birthday/8 month and it was one of the best gifts I've ever recieved. He was going off to college while I was still in my senior year, so I thought it was perfect timing. We made our own promises to each other and the ring was just a symbol of that. It wasn't to show off or "prove" our love.
You have to be very very committed to one another, however. I thought the promise ring solified our love for each other, but obviously, things didn't last. Having the ring after we broke up kind of hurt, because it reminded me of the promises that he made (and spent a lot of money on!) and broke.
I've been in my relationship for two years and three months and we haven't done thw whole "promise ring" thing. They're nothing more than cop-out engagement rings, and we're smart enough to not make that kind of commitment. I have bracelet with my birthstone that he gave me for our two-year anniversary, part because the ring (not for a promise ring, just a birthstone ring) we'd picked was out of stock and part because it was a more heartfelt gift. I love it. It's a symbol of us without screaming, "HEY, WE THINK WE'RE GOING TO BE TOGETHER FOREVER!" when, in fact, we have no idea.
Promise rings are stupid on 298439475394 levels. Rings with "no strings attatched," however, make beautiful gifts, especially if you wear them on a chain.
i think a promise ring is nothing like an engagement ring. It's just a dating promise to be trustworthy towards one another. It's actually really sweet. and also very rare for the guy to be the one to say he wants to get them in a relationship.
I think you should accept it because it is really nice and you dont have to get something exprensive.. it doesnt even have to be an actual "promise ring" like name-brand. You two could go get some cheap bracelets or rings and wear them. It's the thought going into it and the promise made while wearing it. Not actually the band.
So i think you should suggest that and see what he thinks. he obviously really cares about you. (wish my boyfriend would do that...) =]
I don't think promise rings are that important. They don't have to cost too much. They're not wedding rings or engagement rings. I think that the perfect time to get someone a promise ring is when you've been together for a while, and happen to be in love with each other. When two people are in love, committed, and absolutely happy - that's the time to do it. There isn't a certain date to give someone a promise ring that's "perfect."
If it makes him happy ...
hey if thats what floats his boat, let him give you one. enjoy it. id be flattered. i got one once, im not sure i even really liked the guy and we wernt even official.. the stone fell out 2 days later.
My boyfriend and I haven't done the whole promise ring thing yet, but I can understand where you're coming from. We're only 19, I'm working at Walmart and he's a server at Red Robin, both of us with car payments to make...we just can't afford something like that right now. But I've been thinking about it a lot more lately...we are only 12 days away from our 2 year anniversary, and I think it would be a really nice thing to do for that. For me it would be a symbol of our love for each other, and a promise that we will be faithful to one another, and a sign that we are hoping to have a long, beautiful future together. I don't know if that helps at all...but that's how I see a promise ring.
aw...i would love to have one...xD
I'd pawn it
i was given one when my ex asked me out.... =T
I was given one, and I think that its whenever you feel you can be trustworthy, faithful and see yourself with them in the future, that you promise you will always be there.
Wow. I recieved my first promise ring when I was 13. Yup, heard right, at the wise age of 13. Of course, it didn't last, but the ring was an adorable idea at the time.
I wouldn't spend more than $25. Save for more important items.
My boyfriend gave it to me after one year, and a second one after the two years. He didn't give it to me on our anniversaries, but after. Eh. I wear it all the time and I get a lot of questions (mainly from other guys and sometimes girls) about "ohh, whose it from?" ... lol and when I'm just talking to a guy, they'll notice the ring and ask "so you have a boyfriend?" yeah.
I think there is no set date. After one year is good, but when you know that you want to spend the rest of your life with your partner, that's the moment when you should start wearing it. :)
Good luck!