Lately, I've been running. Two miles. Every day. This is quite different from my usual after school routine a few months ago which included a bottle of Carlo and Scrubs reruns.
So last Thursday, as I was running my little heart away on the treadmill, I look up to see a hot, bronzed, muscular guy in front of me. The same one I had randomly hooked up with a few months ago - the first night I met him. Random hook ups like that are totally not my style, but this guy just happened to catch me in the right place, at the right time. He was sweet when we hooked up. He was gentle and when I woke up in the morning, he drove to get me food. While I was still sleeping in his bed. Quite gentlemanly, if you ask me.
The only thing that turned me off to this guy was he was just too good to be true. He was entering a bodybuilding competition in a month or so, so while his social life was nonexistent, his muscles definitely were not.
He was smart (he tutored other students - aww!), was involved and really took care of himself. Basically, he was, like, the perfect guy. And this is exactly what scared me away from him.
I had this unnerving feeling whenever I would talk to him that he was simply out of my league - almost like having a casual conversation with Johnny Depp. I knew it wasn't just insecurity; there was something else there, too. I've normally liked guys who I thought were equally attractive as I am, and I still got jealous and nervous around them. How the hell would I ever keep my cool with a guy who was HOTTER than me?
Well, I guess I'll get the chance to find out. He's asked me to hang out this weekend. And although I'm super nervous, I'm stoked as well. I just don't know whether to get my hopes up, and how to deal with the fact that I already think this guy has much better genes than me.
Have any of you had any experiences dating guys "out of your league"?
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Knock off that "league" shit. Give things a try and see what develops. Odds are, you'll get shot down if other people play the league game, but something good may develop all the same.
I don't really know who's in my league, or out of it, so I'm not sure. Looks like this guy wants to hang out with you, so you should get your confidence ready & go for it! You're thinking too much about whether he's out of your league or whatever. Don't think about it so much, & enjoy this guy. He seems like a good one :]
i dunno.. those are all enthusiastic comments....
all i gotta say is good luck and be hopeful. but also remember to hold ur guard...
I don't believe in this league thing. I mean, it's all subjective anyway! Maybe HE thinks he's out of your league, you never know. If he asked to hang out, be confident that he finds something attractive/interesting about you, and have fun~
Good luck with everything =)
do yo thang gurl....
i always got scared of guys out of my league haha
mainly cuz i always thought they'd expect something from me that i wouldn't want to do.. uhh..
but then it's like.. all the guys i like i kinda feel like they're out of my league because i think they're so amazing and all that...
well, i finally got into a relationship with one.. and it was great ... until... slowly i realized he wasn't all that great and uh... haha.. i felt like i was better than him =T it had to end.. so.. don't have that fear of dating "out of your league" because most likely you're out of the guy's league... it's just guys seem to have a bit more confidence in all of this than girls
If you think he's out of your league, he always will be. From your story, it seems obvious that he shares the attraction, so there really is no league. Maybe he thinks you're the perfect girl, you never know. People notice how much confidence a person has, and if you're putting yourself down all the time because he's your standard, it's just going to be difficult stumbling through the relationship. Good luck, and have fun! =]
There is research that suggest that people in the same "class" of attractiveness tend to end up together. It's not the rule, but I've often looked around and noticed this to be a trend. If he wants you, he wants you. Whether or not he is attractive has little to do with his desire for you. Go with it. Honor him for knowing what he wants and honor yourself for being it.
My boyfriend is ridiculously attractive. He has major muscles, and his face rivals the proportions of your average Hollywood teenybopper heartthrob. I myself am not very conventionally pretty. We go out, and I have schooled myself to get over whatever problem I think there might be with this discrepancy. I have my strong points, he has his, and that's what we appreciate about one another. Best of luck to you.
Yes, I dated a guy once who I thought was
way out of my league. He was soooo attractive, perfect to look at. The
more I got to know him, the worse his personality was. Turns out I was
really out of his league, if you know what I mean.
He asked you out, so he obviously likes you. I know it's hard to get out of this mindset that he's "out of your league." Don't let your confidence go down because of this. He clearly thinks you are attractive.
I get scared of people out of my league also, although I should knock that shyt out. I don't make much by NY standard so if I were to be hit on by a banker whose income is 10x my amount, I'd be suspicious too LOL.
Right now I'm dating a guy who is finally IN my league! My ex was well below it - I loved the fact that he was so devoted and all, but the inequality of our relationship really bothered me and eventually I broke it off. The guy I'm dating now is so hot and treats me exactly like a princess! I feel so special.
"Leagues" are a silly concept. We're all human!
Do everything with myself ~
he's not out of your league! he sounds awesome and so do you! go for it! and good luck! :D
I don't know that I would pursue a relationship with a random hook up. He might just ask you out to hook up again.
Physical looks are really not a good judge of league. You'd be surprised how many people with hot bodies are former fatties who are still attracted to other overweight people (extreme example, but valid).
@scruffylizard@xanga - "I myself am not very conventionally pretty." That's the biggest load of bullshit I've heard all day.
I thought my current boyfriend of 3 years was out of my league, too, but it turns out we are perfectly matched. It helped me realize "leagues" are all in your head. If you're confident enough, you have nothing to worry about.
Pursue him.
Don't worry about it, it's all in your head. (: But I have that problem too, it doesn't bother me too badly though.
Best of luck to you ~ !
yeah i have dated a guy who i thought was out of my league. no matter who u daye there are alwasy going to be other people who want them.. hot or not. The point is that he has chosen you, so apparently you are good enough for mr perfect.
@methodElevated@xanga - It's more of an odd attractiveness, I like to think. One that's sort of "off." Damnit, you weren't supposed to read that comment. You should see the pictures we just took of the boy; hot. HOT.
Haha, why do people always say that hook ups are not their style? Stop living in denial, it is everyone's style, once they get over themselves and just do it.
And why would you want to date in your league, you should always date up.
@scruffylizard@xanga - Yeah, your boy is hot. I doubt he'd allow you to publicly display your pictures... because then I might have to draw them. And he said that'd be cheating. Or something.
I've never dated anyone out of my league. How? I don't put myself in a league. I don't put other people in a league. We're the ones who put ourselves into leagues, keeping ourselves from awesome people. I'm in one lovely league, that would be humanity.