Friday, 17 April 2009
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He And I Have Never Met But Text "I Love You"s
We first started talking on an online forum a few years back, not for dating purposes though. We were just two bored people who ended up keeping each other's AIM screen names.Some time later, we started talking again because he had just broken up with his girlfriend. He just needed any kind of conversing and I was there for him to IM. As weeks went by we started talking more and more, learning about each other and gaining each other's trust. We ended up almost talking every day with at least saying "hi."
Time went on and we became best friends. We were always there, online, to IM to when we needed to talk, despite the 3 hour difference in our time zones (he lives on the other side of the country).
I began to look forward to seeing his first IM when I came home from school, began to want his input on things, began to want him to keep the conversation going, began to fall in love with him. He was always nice, sweet and fun to talk to. He didn't hide anything from me, and me him. He was someone I could actually trust, someone who wanted me to feel better about myself, someone who understands how I feel, someone I wanted to be with.
Fast forward to February of this year.
We had another argument over something "petty"; he has asked me what kind of guy was my type. Being oblivious, I sucked up my feelings for him, and told him that I didn't know. This went back and forth between us for a couple of minutes before he told me that he had feelings for me.
That was my cue! And I revealed my feelings for him, too.
We still say at least a "hi" every day. Junior year in high school is pretty important for me, and even though he just started college earlier this year, he plans to work every day to start saving up money.
We don't consider ourselves to be in relationship, even though we IM and text "I love you"s. We don't even plan to meet until I'm done with college.
That's 5 years from now.
I guess I can be satisfied with "I love you"s in my phone.
What are your LDR stories' problems? Did you ever have a wait a long period of time before you could be with your SO?
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I been there. Kind of. Then it all failed. Because I was three hours away and fake and he had a real girl. Oh, and he wasn't into me the way I was into him.
Ive been there.
Been there, done that :P .
The only problem I had was communication. I'm too shy over the phone, more than usual. But it works out, sometimes.
So yeah... Lol.
Five years? I could never wait that long if I hadn't met the guy. You guys should meet when you're out of high school, at least.
so you've never seen him and are inlove with him.. sounds like me and Michael. he was my first love. and him and i still talk. i met him on xanga. when he was battleing cancer. and since then i fell hard. but we lived 10 hours away if that. we still talk. but havent met. we're just friends now. and he is with jill. i am happy for him.
I don't like LDR & I've never been in one. My ex and I lived close to each other when we were dating obviously, lol, we went to the same high school. But he moved away a couple of months ago & that's I guess the longest we've been apart from each other, well not from each other, since we're no SO's anymore.
sounds like my hubby and i...we shared i love yous for 2 years before we met. he lived 12 hours away. he was worth the wait.
Eh, sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn't. Just be careful, because you know know what he's really up to, since you haven't met.
I was friends with a guy online for 3 years, then I started to like him. Then, love him. He loved me, too. We met.
Now we're married with a baby. =)
thats cute :D! its true there really are ten million ways to love somebody!
im in your position at the moment except that we've declared ourselves as gf and bf.
we've sharing ilys for 7 months and counting now. ive known him 2 and half years ago. our only problem is that we live 12 hours apart.
but its works well for us. and we're planning to meet summer next year.yay * fingers crossed*
Oh yes, me and this guy texts "i love you" and we have never met. I've only known him for about a month and it seems like i've known him my life time. He lives opposite my school so we don't live that far apart, but i respect him as a friend only, well for now, because he does have a girlfriend, so it's best to not get involved. The "i love you" that we text to each other are not flirty or anything sexual, but just the normal i love you very dearly as a friend kinda thing.
On the other hand, i've never been involved with LDRs, but i guess i have fallen pretty hard for a guy who lives in Sydney (I live in Melbourne) so that about 900km away :S err yep, so yeah. Even if we were together, we both would have to gain each others trust which would help us to get through the "long distance". The long distance has parted us and i do not have any feelings towards him anymore, but if i did see him again, i might fall in love again. At that time, i would wait as long as it takes just to be with him
Been there done that, failed. Best of luck though, sooner or later you'll just want a little bit more? Or that was just me. . . Anyways you're still in highschool so it's really up to you whether or not waiting 5 years is worth it. In my opinion it's not? But then again I'm pretty bad at relationships in the first place. xD
Maybe you guys should webcam or something? Better than just IMing.
@AznFier@xanga - we actually plan to.
I'm just waiting for him to buy a new webcam. haha
@steph - I think I've known him long enough to know what he's up to.
@StrawberriesMimi@xanga - It's not that we don't know each other. We just haven't seen each other, face to face.
i waited 2 years to be with my fiance, but i had met him and known him in person for about 2 or 3 years before that. LDRs can work. i know, i did it and now i'm engaged. but you havent even met him...usually i'm not the person that is against LDRs...but this one just seems harder than most. you havent even seen each other. sooner or later (especially when you start college. been there, done that) youre going to get new friends that you see everyday and you may get feelings for someone. its going to be a hard, rough road for you, and him. i wish you the best of luck!
yes.. mine was for a year and he wasnt just a few hours away.. he was 16 hours away.
on the other side of the world.It worked out actually, we phoned each other and I bought a ticket to go see him.but eventually I found somebody who lived closer to me.ÂI met one of my exes online way back in 2001. Eight years pass and we still keep in touch and still haven't seen each other face to face yet! Right now I could easily see him as to he is only a couple of hours from where I live but I'm married now. So, I rather keep our "face to face" meeting for another life time. Needless to say, I was his first love and he constantly reminds me when we chat on MSN once in a long time.
Another story, I met my other ex online as well. We dated before we actually met one another. I think we were into the relationship for a couple months until we saw each other.
My kid sister also met and dated a guy online for an entire year. They never got to see each other face to face but it was good while they lasted, I guess.
You guys should definitely plan to meet up before that five years you planned. It'll be nice. :)
Saying "I love you" (to me) is a lot easier on the internet than in person and saying it face to face because you're not really saying it. But ... you can still mean it with all your heart.
Not seeing him for five years ... that's a loong time. If you're sure you're both going to wait for each other, then go for it. Otherwise, you can always keep in touch via webcam/phone, too. :)
i really dont know when can i meet my bf....haha...i never meet him before...
I've had the opportunity to like/'date' three people from the West coast.
Two being in British Columbia, one in California.
I've been in Ontario, Canada my entire life.
Needless to say, it was weird to like three people who were always 3 hours behind and nearly 3000 miles away.
I never had the chance to meet the first two.
The American I started to date after we met. :)
Distance is tough, and time zones as well.
With that said, I've told all three that I love them, but I don't think it was love, love. I don't know what love is yet.
I just really care for them.
it's not easy