I'm with Truth on this one. It's usually a major sign of wanting out of one relationship and into a new one.

Well, if you're both at different colleges, it's possible that he just wants to experience other people. College is very much a time to explore opportunities.

It sucks that he's being like this, but it seems almost inevitable, when people in a relationship are at two different colleges, living two separate lives.

cheatin on you

omg. i was in the EXACT same situation as you.
my ex all of a sudden said that we're too "different" and that our age is a problem after we've gone out for 2 yrs & 3 months.
and then he finally admits that "there is someone else" who he's been talking to for week while we're still together. and he said that they have "a lot in common"..total BULL SHIT..she was just as fun as i WAS when we first started dating. they talked about the same shit that we talked about when we first started. and she's not even hot.
i was so shocked that he even consider her over me...i'm not being a stuck up biitch. i just know that i look better than this college whore because my face doesn't look like a burnt grandma ass. i called her a whore because she flirts with a lot of guys..and my ex was just one of it. she was just using him for attention..she didn't even like him. so leaving me to get treated like this was an insult to me. i was so furious. i wanted to kick her ass and skin her face against the pavement.

anyways, BREAK UP WITH HIM. don't let him dump you like mine dumped me. his type is not worth it...he's obviously not thinking about your feelings and the 2 yrs that you had together to be treating you that way..go DUMP HIM! don't let him hurt you.

college experiences (and the years ppl are in college) change ppl, sometimes into people you don't understand...maybe he just isn't interested in a relationship right now, or doesn't know what he wants, even so...wait it out to see the big picture and let him go on his way...it's obvious he's made up his mind, maybe things will change, maybe they won't..take care of yourself and don't let this get the best of you

@AnonymousBlonde@xanga - It's possible. I wouldn't pass up the possibility of him lying either. Just look for all the signs and see where they lead you. He could just be turning into a royal douche; which isn't AS bad, but still bad.

@steph - "Opportunities"? Man, some parents give their kids the craziest names.

@AnonymousBlonde@xanga - If he didn't want a girlfriend anymore, he should never have wasted his time, when he was with you. Now, if it all kind of went downhill, the best he can do is see what he can do to fix it up.

I hate to reveal that not wanting a girlfriend doesn't last long. (Believe me. I've tried.)

sometimes a relationship that long kind of loses his fire. no offense to you but it could just not be exciting anymore

I say he has found someone else. Your story reminds me of my ex fiance. We were together for almost 4 years, were engaged for a little over a year when he just suddenly decided to dumped me over the phone. He gave me a bunch of reasons at the time but I always feel there's more to the story and it turns out there is..about 6 months after he dumped me..I found out that he got married. 

Well, really, I do think it's odd that after two years, he suddenly decides that he doesn't want a girlfriend anymore. That's absolutely random, and from what you described - out of the blue. It's as if everything was perfect, and then all of a sudden he wants out.

If I were you I'd be absolutely determined to find out his reasoning. If he hasn't given it to you yet, there's a small chance that he will; but I'd seriously be interested in finding out why all of a sudden he's not wanting a relationship anymore. I mean, it's affecting you too, after all.

I don't figure he's doing it to fit in with his friends, really. I mean, he could be doing it so he can be "free" to do whatever he wants, whenever he wants. Maybe he feels chained down by the relationship and wants out of it so that he can hang out with them more. After all, you said that after he befriended them he changed. That could be it. Lately on datingish I've seen all sorts of ways that friends can screw over someones relationship, so there are most likely tons of possibilities there.

Is he still confused? I mean, really, does he still not know whether he wants it over for good or not? I'm impatient, so I'd end up telling him to choose. Plus, if he wants to stay with you in the end, there's no excuse for him to not explain his reasoning later on. I mean that's really what I'm curious about. (Obviously, I keep bringing it up.)

I agree with one of the other commenters, this kind of thing is one of the things that everyone is freaked out by. It's weird, it's random, and seemingly for no reason.

Or, like others have said, he could have somebody else. It IS peculiar that he'd suddenly drop the bomb on you that he wants out. It's also peculiar that he won't tell you the exact reason of why he wants out. If I were you, I'd be demanding answers.

I've been there. Apparently my sophomore year in high school, there was my friend's ex who really liked me, and he asked me out over MSN, and arrived at my house a half hour later. He was honestly the first guy that I fell for completely. He would just hold me tight before school, kissing me everywhere on my face, walk me to my next class, go on dates, etc.

Homecoming dance was different. He offered to take me, and he ended up sitting at the table while I hung out with friends, and apparently set some girl (I didn't know that she was a girl, she looked like a boy) to kiss me, and I slapped her for it. I think he saw that and refused to be himself. We went to the car, and he drove me home. He told me that everything was alright, and he wasn't feeling good. Sunday, as I left for work, I read his comment on Myspace that he wanted to break up. We didn't talk for a year.

On April 4th, I saw him again. He ran up to me and hugged me and started holding my hand. We walked out of the mall (with him holding my hand all the way) to WalMart and then the bowling alley where his mom worked. After he dropped me off, he spoke to me on the phone and then came to my house, to where he said that he wanted us to date again. Sunday, the next day, I didn't see him. Although he still called, he arranged for me to come to his house the next day. Monday afternoon came, and I called him to see if I could hang out with him. No answer. Finally he popped up on the Facebook thingy and he said, "I think I'm moving to Arizona, we can't be together anymore." Which, I found out was a complete lie. I saw him on Friday, he didn't say anything, he wouldn't go near me. From all that drama, I found out that he basically lied to me without telling me straight up. I spoke to one of his friends (my old friend too) and he said that he's with his sort of girlfriend, which he's kind of dating now. So yeah, I basically moved on like he did.

I'm so sorry to hear about that, two years is a big deal, compared to some other shorter relationships. Was he going through a tough time? If not, losing interest is probably it, and he's probably finding others. I hope that you two work things out for the best.