Tuesday, 14 April 2009
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I Don't Believe In Love At First Sight Anymore
I'm a sucker for anything romantic. I've spent countless hours daydreaming of love at first sight and painting movie-like images in my head (when everything else around, including time, ceases to move and you feel that spine-tingling sensation you're supposed to get when you find yourself finally face to face with the "one"). Like many young girls, I dreamed of the moment when, one day, I will be swept off my feet by my Prince Charming and tell my grandchildren it was love at first sight. Who wouldn't want to have that clarity? That certainty the one standing before you is the one you're destined to be? It's magic. It's fairytale. I'm a hopeless romantic. But I've put more thought to it and slowly my fairytale dream is fading. That sort of magic doesn't seem to be adaptable anymore to the modern times I revolve in. Prince Charming does not exist, and if he does, he'd be a rare breed. Love at first sight is only for those who don't know what heartbreak is.
I should be realistic.
Men are complicated. Current situations and modern times are complicated. You can never tell a person's worth based on one look.
I don't want a Cinderella story. I don't want to be asleep in deep slumber and open my eyes to find my prince kneeling before me. Sure, that would be easy, but I don't want it that way.
I don't want a whirlwind kind of romance. I want the kind of love that grows in time. I want the chase, the courtship - the love letters. The rollercoaster emotions. That kind of love that creeps up beneath your skin until you can no longer shake it off. Then it weaves itself into your very being, penetrating your heart and soul, until you wake up one day, realizing you have found love; it is he; you have found him. I don't want it to be easy. After all, easy come, easy go, right?
There's a reason why fairy tales are just tales. As far as I'm concerned, when it comes to fairytale romances, the endings are only ideal because they always lived happily ever after; the middle part is sort of dumb.
I don't know. I guess I'm just thinking that maybe love at first sight isn't really that exciting.
Do you still believe in love at first sight?
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I never DID believe in love at first sight. LUST at first sight, yes. Attraction at first sight, yes. But LOVE? Love is too deep a thing to be certain of at first sight.
The kind of love you want is really ridiculously stressful. I've been
locked in an epic battle for 4 years. It's kinda sick. Really.
Love at first site is dumb. It's a picture painted onto people from
birth and that's why so many people end up being disappointed.
No, I do believe now just like you that love has to be cultivated. It doesn't just spring up on you when you lay eyes on someone. Sure you can be attracted to them but they might turn out to be rotten on the inside. To be in love, you have to know the soul of that person and you can't know what they are like just by their appearance. I too have given up on that fairy tale romance. I too am a hopeless romantic but I'm starting to believe that it's better to forget about it because it won't ever happen the way we plan it in our heads.
I acutally didn't used to believe it, until I got to know one girl and saw her smile. At THAT point, I believed in it. Her smile was cute, modest, and warm, and I started falling fer her before I truly got to know her. So, I guess you can say that "love at first sight" stuff is actually pretty rare. But I wouldn't let that kind of power take you over completely.
Love at first sight is an infatuation. A very strong liking. That's what I live by and I'm going to stick to it. Hahaha. =D
fck no.
love takes time.
I believe in lust at first sight but not love. That takes time to grow.
I believe it exists for some people. But, just like everything else in this world, it's not for everyone.
lets see, the first time i saw my bf i thought he was ugly! hahaha~ i dont think i love ugly guys at first sight! but it grows and now hes just cute looking.
those stupid stories we have been told as a kid, they are all rubbish!
nope, you wouldnt be sure if they're "the one" it takes time like everyone has said already.
@LadyLibellule@xanga - right, i agree with you.
it works for some and doesn't for others.
it just doesn't work for me. lol.
I've never believed in love at first sight. In my opinion, love is something that starts as something small and grows over time. It doesn't necessarily start out as love, but the feeling grows into that of love. I believe there can be attraction at first sight, lust; but I honestly believe that for someone to feel love, they have to know the person first.
I have never believed in love at first sight. I believe that love is something that grows in time, I believe in attraction at first sight which is usually the case, love doesn't happen till later when there's a special bond between two people.
I have never believed in love at first sight. Lust maybe, but not love.
I, on the other hand, just started believing it when I met a guy and could not stop thinking about him afterwards.
I believe in love at first sight. =]
it happened the first time I saw my boyfriend.
As someone mentioned it before, there is no love at first sight, only lust. People believe the shit they see in romcoms and fairytales, so when they start dating they get so fucking dissapointed by what they see and on top of that a lot of couples break up/get a divorce because they think that relationships do not need work and because of that they do not communicate.
@BimBo_HiPPo@xanga - Yeah, I also believed my bf was fugly when I first saw him because he´s chubby; but now he seems to me like a giant teddy bear. My life would just SUCK without him.
There is no such thing as love at first sight...
It's more like LUST and first sight. You can't fall in love with someone without knowing them. It's infatuation...look that up.
Lust at first sight is what i believe in. I met this boy, a family friend of mines. He wasn't mr.hot or charming, but just average. The time i met him i had an immediate attraction towards him, even though i didn't speak to him much, but just the way he acted was kinda cute
Never did. What you think is love at first sight is just lust and hormones acting out. If something builds on it after the first meeting, then it's a love.
Yes, I do believe in love at first sight, but not under romantic circumstances. I believe that after all the sweat, the pain, the struggle, the screaming, the pushing, after all of that, when looking into those eyes for the very first time, it is love at first sight for mother and child. I don't know a single mother who has hated her child the moment it was placed into her arms. At that moment, that is when she forgets all of the pain of pregnancy and childbirth.
As for looking for "the one", I don't even believe everyone has a "soul mate." I believe it's something you make for yourself. And I most definitely don't believe in love at first sight.
sleeping beauty.
No, but I do believe in a connection at first sight.
There is no such thing as love at first sight.
I used to believe it..but not anymore