A friend of mine asked me for advice on how to get the girl of his dreams. I thought I would share with the rest of the male population out there who are clueless about this topic.
How to win her heart in 10 (admittedly not so) easy steps1. Be yourself.If you're not, sooner or later, your true nature will reveal itself. Besides, girls like a genuine guy who isn't afraid to embrace both his strengths and weaknesses.
2. Win over her friends' hearts.Do this first and you're sure to get their approval. If and when she goes to them for advice, since her friends like you, they'll encourage her to pursue her romantic intentions concerning none other than you!
3. Play hard to get. This should be done with caution and in moderation. All I'm going to say is that girls love the chase and a little challenge just as much as guys do.
Wait more than 5 milliseconds before replying to her IM. Be exciting. Be mysterious. Make her wonder. And don't be a doormat and/or too agreeable! It will help your love blossom and keep her on her toes!
4. Be confident.Man up. Believe in yourself. Confidence is inspiring, infectious, and
extremely attractive.
5. Have a passion.No, I don't necessarily mean the burning passions that lie within your heart and body... Have something you're crazy about (besides her!), be it a sport, music, literature, anything! There's something about people who are passionate about something in life and are driven that is very admirable. Plus, you can always teach her a little something about whatever it is you like.
6. Be a gentleman.Be polite; obey the rules of chivalry. Be her knight in shining armor - charming, dependable and well-mannered. Do your homework on what you should be doing: opening doors, paying for dinner, being respectful...whatever! However, don't be too nice and afraid to engage in a playful debate.
7. Make her giggle.Don't be afraid to flirt or crack a joke! We know you're a funny guy deep down inside. Being able to make her laugh will put you in a whole new light and will help you relax, too!
8. Do your homework and a little research.NO, this does not mean stalk her online or in person. Be vaguely familiar with what she likes, talk to her friends for help (this can be a biggie), impress her by remembering what she says or knowing a little about something she likes. You don't have to be a total expert, but this is a good backup plan for when you're at a loss for words. Just don't be creepy by knowing EVERYTHING.
9. Do NOT be awkward.Even if you feel awkward, don't act like it. Pretending that everything is just fine and dandy will work. Just keep the convo flowing and stay relaxed! Harder than it sounds, I know.
10. Be patient.Don't rush into things. As corny as this may sound, let your love blossom! And if it doesn't, don’t push it. Maybe things weren't meant to work out. Don't stress and move on; the world is full of chicks waiting for you to woo them.
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This advice should be taken with a grain of salt. Everyone is different and the methodology of winning a girl's heart varies from couple to couple. Heck, it might not even work out for you two, but don't despair. There's someone out there for everyone. Just be patient. Good luck and happy wooing.
ed's note: I still don't get the whole "hard to get" thing. Games are so sixth grade, guys.
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Comments (176)
The whole playing hard to get works like this. You act as if they can't have you. Therefore, they want you.
I think the most important one on the list is be yourself. That's the easiest & best thing to do.
These tips apply to both genders.
It's not about "playing" hard to get, it's about the challenge. We all strive for the challenge. We take things that come easily to us for granted everyday, unfortunately.
I don't know if I completely agree with "the playing hard to get" I want to be pursued, it's very romantic and makes me feel good that a man would like me so much to be willing to pursue me.
Also if a man plays hard to get that would leave me thinking that he's not interested in me like I thought he was. So definitely a CAUTION on that. Just what I know from personal experience.
@Xx_IWannaWWIIRomance_xX@xanga - Yeah, it totally goes both ways on that one, depending on personal preference. There was this one guy though, that I just could NOT get to settle and be in a relationship with me, and that just made me want him more >_> But usually I agree with you. I like to be pursued :>
ridiculous.
@steph - ugh, been there done that. I really liked this one guy who was completely jerky to me in the end and wanted nothing to do with me.
Have to agree with pretty much all of that. If a guy is too keen and tries too hard it kinda puts me off, and a guy that can make me laugh is very important to me.
i love this. you hit the nail on the head :] reccomendinggggg! ;]
5 is my favorite. I cannot stress that enough when I talk to people. hahaha
i liked this. Very cute and simple.
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Happy wooing... that's brilliant. I can't wait to start...hahaha
I wish every guy would read this.
I like this. I think you got it down to a T. The best part is playing hard to get.. a lot of guys get this part wrong.We don't want you to ignore us, but try not to ALWAYS be available. It keeps you seeming mysterious and gives us a chance to really work hard to win you.
haha. for the most part, yes girls like all of this. but it crushes a girl if you dont use the "playing hard to get" with caution....
Right on :)
I wish some guys would take a hint from these.
Pretty accurate post right here, for both genders.
These tips are too abstract to be of any real use. I've also learned that, strangely, women always give the worst advice on picking up women. For some reason they say one thing and do another.
I wish my boyfriend would read this. Haha. Well, maybe just number four.
everything is good, but the hard to get only applies to some girls. :) like my friend, but for me, i would like to know if you're interested, right away, if not i get distracted easily
If he wins over her friends hearts, and they turn out liking him, that means they'd probably lie to her to make sure that they've got a bigger chance at getting him.
If a guy played hard to get with me, I wouldn't appreciate it and I'd find somebody else who could win me over without playing games.
Games are fun :P .
Loved the entry ~ . I hope everybody from both genders can learn something.
@pillowpixies@xanga - interesting perspective. i never thought of that re: the friends. lol
and, i agree w/ finding someone else instead of games.
I did this and all I got were girl friends who told me more tips on getting girls.
No but seriously. This doesn't work. It would just be easier if girls made applications we could fill out.
the "hard to get" thing just satisfies a natural instinct in males to pursue. its just nature.
I'm not into numbers 3 and 9... But I think it's because both of those go against the whole "be yourself" thing