Oh, the subject of cheating never gets old. The endless debates on who's more likely to cheat, men or women?
Of course there is a higher statistic for one of the groups, but why discuss that. The question is, who would actually cheat if given the chance and their partners would never find out? Time and time again this question is passed along; some say they would cheat and some say they will remain faithful.
I'm sure at least 80-90 percent would cheat on his or her significant other if the opportunity arose, and they would never find out.
I don't want to be biased but men are shown to be more likely to cheat on their girlfriend or spouse than women are. What does everyone else think about this? Perhaps I am quite the pessimist and always think that relationships would fail, despite the fact that I'm in a relationship. There are just too many sleazy guys out there in the world. They can tell you one thing and do the complete opposite, lying with their eyes wide open.
Guys/Girls can say how much they love someone and just disregard it later for cheap thrill or fling. The most common line I've heard and heard from others is, "I was drunk and I didn't mean to; I still love you." What a load of crap, to use that "easy" excuse for anything and everything. I don't understand how someone can just use alcohol as a scapegoat all the darn time. If you can't hold your liquor and know your limit, then don't drink. Alcohol always seem to be a leading cause of infidelity, and I can't speak for anyone else, but I'm tired of hearing that excuse. People need to start owning up to their mistakes and stop blaming it on alcohol or others; cheating always takes two to tango and is never a one way thing.
I just wish people would have the courage to just break it off with the significant other if they just aren't in love or lust anymore. No one deserve to be strung along because one is afraid of hurting another, that's selfish. If you have the balls to cheat, then grow a pair to admit it or break it off. Obviously cheating doesn't just come physically, but emotionally as well. Next time anyone wants to cheat with the hopes of their significant other not finding out, just don't do it. Be a better person and just end it.
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I have too much of a heavy conscience (plus I love my boyfriend too much) to ever cheat on him, even if I could do it without him knowing. I would just feel too guilty. I know he's the same way.
But yeah, I agree. People should end things as opposed to cheating. Cheating causes more pain & drama than necessary.
I would never cheat.
Maybe, be the BEST person and truly love the person you are with, and resist all other temptation for them?
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Actually, I think women are more likely to cheat. Something about menopause and not having all the time in the world to procreate. I wish it weren't true. =P. But anyway, I agree. In a perfect world, we'd all be satisfied, elated to be alive, and faithful.
I agree, break it off before you cheat (if your going to)...there is no reason to string someone along.
I also think men are most likely to cheat if presented the opportunity to without their significant others knowing.
Maybe I'm just biased (too) but I was once surrounded and knew a lot of guys who cheated on their significant others when the opportunity presented itself.
It's hard to choose :/ . But I think women and men are equally likely to cheat on their SO.
And I agree, they should end it if they intend to cheat. I've known a few cheaters, both my ex and a friend of mine. I was so angry with them -.- .
I would never cheat (but there have been ocassions where i was the one the girl was cheating with, but never following through)...there have been numerous occasions where I could have, but just broke it off or ignored the other girl(s). But then again I am very conservative and even if I am horny and a girl wants to do it and lets me know that... I will follow logic/right over impulse or desire. I think this is also a curse most of the time... thinking too much instead of following through with emotion... Alochol is a lame excuse... that is used way too often... then should either control their drinking or stay sober.
I agree that the alcohol excuse is lame. Alcohol doesn't suddenly change your moral compass. If you cheat when drunk it just means you were too chicken sh*t to do it when sober, but were already thinking about it. The truth is most likely "I'm not in love with you anymore for x,y,z reasons, I got drunk and hooked up with random person because I had no spine and couldn't tell you the truth."
I think it's about equal. Luckily I haven't had to deal with an ex cheating on me, but I would be beyond pissed if my current bf did it.
In all honesty, I my guilty conscience would get to me long before my bf finding out if I did cheat on him. In other words, I would never cheat.
Agreed.
I never really have given the men vs. women on cheating much thought because whatever gender it is obviously wrong. But I wouldn't say 80-90% of people would cheat if they knew they wouldn't get caught. I am sure some would but the stat is just high. Or maybe I am just naive >.<
But I've heard from lots of people who have been cheated on and who have cheated and I think it is always more complicated than just a one night fling or whatever, because it usually seems that cheating occurs when someone is not satasfied. I don't think people cheat with the intent on hurting their SO
That's the problem: They don't have the balls to own up to what they done. They want to have their cake and eat it, too. That right there shows how weak they truly are.
I would never cheat, point blank. I've seen how that makes people absolutely miserable, why would I want to do that to someone that I honestly love? Further, I've got all that I need in my boyfriend. My chances of cheating? Zero.
Be the better person and end it. Cheating makes EVERYTHING worse & your guilty conscience will kick in sooner or later. Cheating is the worst thing you could do, it will change many people's views of you & will make you regret what you did, so better just not do it. Stay true.
I broke it off when I fell for someone else.
he accused me of cheating on him.
and I said no... I haven't cheated on you. I never cheated on you.
I fell in love with my best friend behind your back. completely unintentionally. it wasn't something I had control over. I may have cheated emotionally because I could have stopped myself from talking to him, and therefore never would have fallen for him. but I don't regret that I did, because he honestly is better for me than my ex was. so is that wrong? I still struggle with this, ten months after the fact...
I break all the stereo types when it comes to cheating. Â
I have never cheated on a SO and never would. Â I have had more than my share of women ask after they knew I was otherwise involved (I worked in fine dining it came with the territory).
I have had three women cheat on me. Â Two are now ex wives for it, the other I was engaged to for 6 hours.
Emotional Cheating vs. Physical Cheating, I see no difference. Â
i guess my husband and i are both in that minority 10-20% who wouldn't cheat given the opportunity. because to be honest, my problem with cheating wouldn't be him knowing. it'd be that I'D have to know about it. and our relationship is too sacred to me to cheapen it by giving what belongs to my husband to someone else (and i can safely say he feels the same).
i agree with your last paragraph, though. if you're to the point of cheating with someone, the odds are your relationship already isn't going well. so just leave. how hard is that?!?
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@RunningMan42@xanga - "Emotional Cheating vs. Physical Cheating, I see no difference. "
Agreed!!!!!!!!!!!!
@greenglow28@xanga - jesus, I actually can't answer that. But I've been there before. Hey, all I can say is at least you broke it off
Well, I've cheated before. & I've been cheated on. I know how it goes.
But the thing with me, is I don't sleep with someone cuz I need it, and women have needs too.
I did it cuz I felt emotionally involved with them, and to the point where I was falling so much for them. So after I did it.
I broke up with my boyfriend.
Reason why I didn't end it before is because spur and the moment, i'm not gonna call my bf right before it's gonna happen and go
"Hey, It's over"
Thats how I am.
I always break up with my boyfriend if I ever cheat
Because If I truly loved them, I wouldn't have done it in the first place.
@lolquack@xanga - the way I see it is really, I just kind of woke up from this ordeal one day and thought, wow, what I'm doing is really fucked up, and I'm going to put an end to it.
so I did. there was nothing better I could have done, because what I was doing was wrong... even though I still never technically cheated on my boyfriend of the time, I was being incredibly unfair to him. I didn't love him anymore. and I knew it was better that he knew that then for me to lead him on any longer.
...it was a crappy situation.
@greenglow28@xanga - I understand. Been there. Least you ended it. So don't make yourself feel so bad! You did the right thing.
For all those holier than thou's out there claiming they would never cheat: who are you trying to convince?
Just because someone cheats doesn't mean they don't love the person they cheated on. Sometimes it does, but there is such a thing as being in love with more than one person. Life is way more complicated than most of the people here seem to think it is.
And no, you don't get a cookie or a high five because you "belong" to someone else and think they should be the only one to "have" you. In fact, someone should steal your cookies and high fives until you stop thinking of yourself as property.
@IfIWereAchilles@xanga - if you love that person then you shouldn't ever lie about something you know will hurt them. I'm assuming if you love them you care about them. You can be in love with too people at once but honestly, just tell them both the honest truth.
Love cannot be built on lies and deception.