I love hearing ex stories. I like knowing what he/she was like, things he/she did and said, what nicknames he/she used...mostly so I know where things went wrong and how I can avoid that.
I've talked to a bunch of people who don't want to know anything about previous relationships, citing the past being the past and not wanting to conjure up memories, but I don't agree. I think dating is a progressive activity; you build on your past relationships to make your future or current ones more fulfilling, more...right.
How much do you know about your BF/GF's ex(es)? Do you want to know more?
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I have a past I'm not too happy with, so I see the other end of this situation. But, I'm all for honesty, so my current SO knows every bit of my stupid past. Honesty relieves me. It means I've got nothing to hide. So, if I'm going to be completely honest with my SO, I'd want them to be completely honest with me.
Whoa, long response. My bad.
Not really. As far as I know, his ex's were these really annoying vegetarian pubescent bitches. So I'm the best thing going for him. He's never dated anyone as smart as me before..so that sums up everything I need to know about his past.
Considering that I asked my boyfriend's ex over for dinner....I think it's a good thing if all can be friends. Especially if there are kids involved.
I guess we both have it in mind that the past doesn't matter so much, but if there is anything that either of us would want to know, we're happy to ask and share.
I know pretty much everything about my boyfriend's exes, and he knows everything about mine. We are very open with each other and I tell him everything. I don't see anything wrong with sharing info about your exes. I do, however see a problem about talking about your exes all the time.
I knew a few, how they dressed/acted. But I don't ask for it.
I know this is about your SO's exes ... but i feel totally uncomfortable bringing up anything "happy" that has happened with my own exes so when i tell him anything, it usually ends up as a rant. I feels as though i'm bragging if i were to...
But I just usually stick with the "don't ask something you don't want to know the answer of" so i only ask him a few things here and there :)
I prefer not knowing about them. Or else I get suspicious and jealous.
@reckless_eagle@xanga - Huh. Admit it. You wanted to know all about them eventhough you and I aren't a couple anymore.
Same goes for me. I'd get jealous and worked up over petty matters. I wanted to know all the exes if I could.
@nitestar2@xanga - Sigh, are you guys gonna have a conversation you could have privately on another datingish post?
@nitestar2@xanga - You get jealous and suspicious of my Xangan gal pals as well!
@steph - ahh... seems to me like you're a regular here. sorry we're messing 'your' territory.
@reckless_eagle@xanga - It has nothing to do with being my territory, as I definitely don't see it as mine. I'd just rather y'all do your back & forth thing in private, as opposed to on a public blog.
@steph - In case you haven't notice, nitestar2 and I are both single and in the dating zone as well as friends of datingish. So back off!
@reckless_eagle@xanga - That isn't the point. I'm only asking that you two take your personal conversations elsewhere. If you really see a reason that you should converse about this in a public forum, then I'd love to hear about it.
I wanted to know as much as he's comfortable telling me....and I know pretty much everything--he told me some crazy things, but also some really fond memories too...I mean, that's a part of him, how can I come to appreciate who he is if I ignore those who were significant to him?
@steph - Besides, isn't this a social network? People are suppose to interact with each other, singles, dating couples and exes. This is DATINGISH, not XANGA.
@nitestar2@xanga - I had no idea that datingish was about former couples bantering about their relationships that used to be. I really don't want to argue with you guys. Just wishing you could keep your personal lives to yourselves.
@steph -
This IS a public site and we are all suppose to be open about our past relationships. I've read all your comments and responds. You are VERY open about your personal life as well.
That's totally different from what you two are doing. Y'all are making personal affairs public, seeking attention. I am just responding to the blogs. I really don't care to discuss this any further. This is getting ridiculous.
@steph - It's an example of HE SAID, SHE SAID. We both talking about the issue at hand.
@steph - We're NOT seeking attention for ourselves. YOU DID. You're so opionated about EVERY topic in Datingish. Geez. Get a life.
I heard enough to know he called her names, cheated, and lied to her, so that's really enough.
@reckless_eagle@xanga & @nitestar2@xanga - I'm really done arguing with you guys. You guys aren't getting the point, so I give up. See ya.
@steph - And stay away from Datingish. Go and get a date.