How do you define a serious relationship? I've compiled five definitions from different sources so you can see if any of them sound about right.
1.
DaynaDaze at Plentyoffish: "
I define a serious relationship as being one where both are openly serious about each other and wanting to be with each other long term. If one is bucking at the bit and trying to move away, then the other might seriously want to pay attention and be ready to move on."
2. Calais50 at BlogCatalog: "I define a serious relationship as one in which I could see myself with the person for a very long time."
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Ayezas at Blurtit: "By a 'serious relationship,' one is usually relating to a relationship between a guy and a gal or a man and a woman. When we say that one's relationship or bond is tremendously serious, we mean that they intensely love each other and that they have developed an exceptionally strong understanding among themselves.
In serious relationships, one can notice that one partner or the other is so mad after their relationship that they can literally do anything or say anything to save their relationship. They can die for each other!"
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VickanS at MyBrotha: "A few ways a man thinks a relationship is serious (in my opinion):
- A man thinks a relationship is serious when he realizes he truly loves a woman
- A man thinks a relationship is serious when he realizes how much a woman loves him
Anything other than that (like her having sex with him, him spending money on her, or even them introducing each other to their friends and family) won't make a man think its serious."
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Thyr at eNotAlone: "A serious relationship is a relationship with commitment and exclusivity."
Hmm, not sure any of those is exactly what I'd say a serious relationship is, but Thyr's comes close and is definitely succinct.
So, that being said, how many serious relationships have you had? How did you know they were serious? Did one or both of you define it that way?
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Comments (35)
Not enough apparently...haven't found the one that matters.
I think I'm kind of an anomaly, because a junior in college in my first and only serious relationship. He's the only boyfriend I've ever had. We both know it's serious, and it has been pretty much since we started dating as juniors in high school.
What makes it serious? I think it's the fact that there's an intent to make it last indefinitely (that is, forever).
I've only been in one serious relationship, & i'm in it right now. I think it's serious because we love each other, and would do almost anything to make it last as long as we can.
Hmm. I guess I've been in 2 serious relationship.
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1 so far.
i had 1... but i guess he wasn't so serious because we broke up eventually. lol.Â
One.
Alright, I'll be the weird one...four. Including my current bf. All the boyfriends I've had, have fallen head over heels with me, and me vice versa. Took me a while to figure out what separates "just a boyfriend" from "the one". Said I love you too fast...was really clingy...all that jazz.
by Calais50 at BlogCatalog definition, 2, but including right now, 3
I'd say two serious relationships (out of four boyfriends). I'm 18.
I thought I had 1, but it wasnt as real as I thought it was, and then the one I have right now
Zero. I have never been in any relationship, and I'm 20 years old. I'm the independent type, and I'm finishing college, getting my career started. I would like to meet somebody soon though to spend time and thoughts with, and to have fun doing things together. I just have a list of priorities and career has always been something I need to do first, otherwise I'd get distracted and lazy.
I only really consider having serious relationships with 2 girls in my life. Both girls were the only ones I've said "I love you" and they were both my longest relationships.
If the only condition to a "serious relationship" is commitment and exclusivity, then I've been in 5 serious relationships. I personally only consider it as 3 serious relationships. The other 2, while considered committed and exclusive, were not long lasting, deep or anywhere near as serious as I define it, as the remaining. Even looking back on it, 1 of the 3 is hardly a serious relationship as I've come to define it. But given that it lasted 10 months in high school and at the time, I thought I loved him {even if I later realized not so much}, I tend to think of it as a "serious relationship".
i've been in 3 including the one i am in now. i knew they were serious because we thought that there was a future to it and they lasted over 2.5 years (the other two relationships). It would not be a serious relationship if we don't think there is going to be a future. It doesn't always have to mean marriage either. =D
I'm in a serious relationship, and to me it means that if the other person moves away, I consider going with them, and if he proposes to me, I'd consider saying yes most likely. Overall, just knowing that if no one cheats or does a horrible thing, we might actually stay together "till death does us apart".
Only one, the one I am in now.
The one I'm in now, which is my first
Only one that really matters to me, it's the one I'm in right now and I couldn't be happier.
I've only been in one and that's the one I am in now.
I would define it generally as 6 months or more, when you can introduce them to your parents and not be afraid to suggest marriage somewhere in the future. I think that might be an extreme definition for some people, but that's what I live by. And that's okay for me that by that definition, I've had zero.
At age 16, I have experienced one serious relationship.
Only one, and I'm still in it. Though we fight sometimes, I love him a lot and I know he loves me, too. :)
According to #2, I've been in 1.