Monday, 06 April 2009

• Relationship Radars and Being A Chick Magnet

  Everyone's familiar with the term "chick magnet".  Just to embarass my sister a little, when she was in preschool, she called herself a "boy magnet" because all of the little boys wanted to play with her.  Unfortunately, not everyone attracts the people they want.  Two points in case:

  "gay boy magnet": I have several female friends who always meeting wonderful, single guys...and then realizing that they're about as straight as a circle.
  "platonic girl magnet": One of my guy friends here at school was lamenting that every time he gets a female friend, he finds out that she's either taken or not interested in a relationship at all.  They're great friends, but that's all they are.

  I'm in a relationship, so if anything, I'd say I'm a "brother magnet".  I keep gathering guy friends who seem like siblings to me. We fight like siblings.  We depend on each other like siblings.  Actually, for now, it's pretty cool.

  Along those lines, we were talking about the legality of office relationships in my organizational psychology class today, and my (60-something-year-old male) professor mentioned that he has a really good radar for detecting when people are interested in each other.  "It's something in the way they look at each other and the way they hold themselves when they're near each other.  I think it's something like a gaydar."

  Personally, I'm pretty decent at figuring out who's an item in the dating world; unfortunately, I'm not so great in the gaydar department.  I basically have to see two guys holding hands to figure out that they're gay, otherwise I mentally label straight boys who I then realize are dating my friends.  Oh well.

  How is your relationship radar/gaydar?  Would you consider yourself to be a "boy/chick magnet" or something different?

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