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I'm sure with the internet and television nowadays you'd come across something along the lines of the aforementioned above. But what if the objective of meeting women wasn't to get her in your bed and out the door for one night of passion? Let's say the objective of meeting women was to show them you can have a good time enjoying each other's company, with no sexual tension involved...well, a little bit wouldn't hurt now - that's always fun to have. I'm talking about platonic relationships and how they can be beneficial to both parties. For those that have no idea what I'm talking about, platonic means "transcending physical desire and tending toward the purely spiritual or ideal: platonic love." (we can thank
dictionary.com for that).
When I've reached to a certain point with a woman, I can decide two things: have sex with her and take it from there or see if this friendship we've developed so far is worth caring for.
Now I'm not talking about taking the "nice guy" approach - HELL no! I can still be attracted to them, and it can get to that point when there is already common ground and we both have a great understanding of each other. I'll still flirt, tease, compliment and be the shoulder to cry on - please believe you're just as special as the other women that need my attention when asked for. The best part of the deal is that it will come back 180 degrees.
I adore the fact they get the next shot - dinner is on them or they offer the ride home safe and sound. They'll help me talk to that girl at the bar; ten minutes later she's grabbing me on the dance floor because some creep came up behind them. I don't sleep some nights because I'm one of the people on the "drunk phone call list" and I don't point fingers (I'm just as guilty, haha!). They also know my personality down to the very skeletons I keep away, and will be there for me no matter what.
It takes a while and a lot of time, patience and unconditional love. Like all relationships, it does require attention. It's just a different kind of relationship. Whether they have boyfriends, fianceés and are single, lesbian, bi or even straight - I love them all... they have no problem telling me back either. Now I'll finish with they use the word "love", and not "in love" but they know my mentality: "Best of friends, make best of lovers."
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This post is awesome! I Likes very much.
i love this post too
do u think most good friends eventually end up together?
wow...yes, this kind of guy friend is totally awesome...
altho...sometimes emotions can still get tangled without getting involved sexually (sometimes even more so)...then, the friendship gets more strained b/c one side of the relationship doesn't understand how/why/why not the other is/is not interested in anything more serious.
I wish I could have more platonic friendships with guys that work out.
I can only think of one guy friend of mine where there hasn't been any romantic or sexual interest from either party (that usually ruins everything), and who I'm still friends with to this day.
He rocks :]
haha
i love having my guy friends
it just gets weird. when they like me
most of my friends are guys. yay for platonic relationships!
i really like this. it's cute. for me i find platonic relationships to be rare unless you've known that person for a very long time. but those rare ones you do find are totally awesome
Platonic relationships are hard to maintain, but I'm pretty sure I do a decent job with most of mine. I had never thought of girls as being friends when I was young, but as I grew up, I realized that they can be just as good, if not sometimes better, than guy friends.
aww. I love my platonic boyfriends! I think that friendships with the opposite sex are really important
Nice! I just wish a few friends of mine felt this same way.. that is IS possible to have friends with the opposite sex.
Haha, it's not that easy for some of my guy friends to verbally express their platonic love. Then again, some of them aren't very affectionate towards any of their friends, and some of them just have crazy, jealous girlfriends...
Lol. Nice.
Awwh, this post made me think of my guy friends.
Great post :3
I have a platonic relationship with my best friend who lives 600 miles away. He said he liked me for a little while when we first met but now we have "friendly love" for each other. It really is a special bond.
all of my bestfriends are girls. I never had a male best friend, only social male friends that we all go out as a group of friends to party with. well, a boyfriend can be a platonic relationship, but it was never as close as the bond I have with my female bestfriends.
The best thing is that it has the possibility to last a lifetime. You can`t say that for every significant other of yours, which usually ends in eternal hatred or awkward "friendship."
It`s less stressful, since you don`t expect anything other than companionship, and tons more beneficial, especially on the guys, since everyone pays for themselves.
This is awesome! And sooooo true.
Oh this is an amazing post! Thankyou for writing it :)
I Love my guy friends but it is somewhat hard to maintain a completely platonic relationship. I once made the mistake of having this dalliance of sorts with my best guyfriend. The truely amazing thing is when you can do something like that and then go back to the way it was before.
I am in multiple incredible platonic friendships, and I wouldn't give them up for the world.
Not to mention it gives me a LOT of different points of view towards the opposite sex ;D
- John
I only have a few guy friends with completely platonic relationships. It's so nice.