I was reading comments on a
Glamour post about love and read this comment about how one woman drove her husband crazy (in a good way):
I've tried wearing my old Halloween costumes on occasion and my ex really enjoyed that. One time I dressed up in an old sexy cop costume and bought some handcuffs. We played that he was caught speeding. It was amazing!!*
*this comment was edited for spelling so it would resemble English more than lolcat
Am I the only one who sees no appeal in dressing up and acting as a character? I would feel patently ridiculous dressing up and trying to act sexy. So I asked my BFF (who specifically asked to be called Jamal for this post) what he thought about it.
me: do you think that's dumb? i mean, like, if you are a lady and you decide to dress up as some sort of character for your gentleman friend
Jamal: as long as he/she does it in response, i see no problem with it
me: i would feel so stupid. if i were the guy, afterward i would be, like, remember when you dressed up like a cop and pretended to arrest me? yeah that was weird
Jamal: or, you'd just get into it in the moment, your partner would probably be really into it and you're giving him or her a little something special. I mean, as long as he wasn't like, "Yeah, get dressed up as a schoolgirl again or else I can't get hard and I'll vomit," I think it's fine if the guy wants to dress up like a cop or a marine or the girl wants to dress up like Catwoman or Wonder Woman or Princess Leia. As long as it's a two-way street, my guess is you don't talk about it after but just have a really good time in the moment.
me: this would be a really good debate
Jamal: I take the side of it's okay once in a blue moon as something fun, but if you need to dress up every time, there is a problem because your partner doesn't want to be with you. He wants Trixie, the girl who ran away from home and does whatever she has to to put food on the table.
Okay, so J has some very good points...but I don't think I'll be dressing up anytime soon.
What's your opinion on dressing up to get off?
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I've never done and probably never will. My SO would just act dumb. LOL <3
I love him, but I know he doesn't have it in him to play along.
No,its NOT silly!!! Its VERY arousing!! More women should do it!!!
I personally love dressing up in sexy outfits/lingerie/whatever for my boyfriend. He loves that I do it, too ;) I think it spices things up a bit. I do it on special occasions, and sometimes just randomly.
I might be able to if it involved medieval gowns, doublets and/or kilts and swords.
I don't get it. We like to have the least amount of clothes on when we're doing .. things. So this doesn't really appeal to me.
i think its fun to dress up in like really nice lingerie and the occasional outfit. But im not really into the character playing. thats just really corny and awkward for me... like...
no. but dressing up i feel really turns guys on.
love victoria secret and the little sex shops. :)
I think i agree
i find it ridiculous.
i've dressed up as a schoolgirl, cops, cowgirl and sailors with my exes...the sex was amazing, it was so much, so much fun. oh man
I dressed up one time (in a sexy lingerie) for my guy on Valentine's Day. I felt extremely weird. Now, I just wear whatever or nothing.
Once in a while is okay if both parties are up for it. But most of the time or all the time, there's definitely a problem.
It's not weird at all. It's a way to spice up couples' sex life. Many couples do it and it's not corny at all. It may not be your cup of tea but it's quite arousing if you're into that kind of stuff.
It's all about personal choice. It's like having a fetish (feet, high heels, bondage, etc.), some may think that's totally weird but to some, it may be the biggest turn on.
It's really how comfortable you are with your partner. Fulfilling a fantasy, whether it is dressing up, or eating chocolate off your SO's body, or positions you've always dreamed of doing, etc.
If you think something's really weird or corny, fine, that's you're opinion but keep it to yourself because there might be plenty of other people who loves and enjoys it.
My husband loves it!! Even though sometimes I think it's weird, seeing how much he enjoys it is more important to me than how I feel about it. It makes him very happy!
I dress up in pretty/sexy clothing. But no costumes, intense lingerie or anything.
I'm too goofy to pull off a costume. I'd turn it into a joke and he'd be too busy laughing to get at all riled up. :P
I think it's brilliant anyways. Brilliant as in it can be sexy but it can also be really funny!
It sounds cute LOL.
I dressed up as a sexy nurse once because my boyfriend at the time made a joke about it. Totally surprised him. He loved it. I personally like to dress up and wear sexy lingerie. Sometimes I'll even put wigs on. It allows me to be someone else for a little while, and it makes the sex feel new all over again. Plus, most lingerie you CAN leave on. I usually do because I almost feel more naked while only partially clothed--very sexy. ;)
In my opinion, dressing up (or roleplaying, rather) is simply a way to make things different, funner (for those into it), etc. It makes things more interesting. I mean really, if you get into the part, it can either turn out amusing, extremely arousing, or just fun. Usually a mixture of all that.
But, not everyone is going to be into that sort of thing. Everyone has a different poison.
I think it can be REALLY FUN. And a huge turn on but ONLY if it goes both ways.
And don't do it all the time! It loses its magic ;)
I wonder what the point is of wearing anything sexy at all if it won't even stay on for very long?
Frankly if it fires up the sexual tension between lovers then it should be done more often. Besides, experimentation is fun... well except for that S&M stuff. Who's doing that? Crapping on a person's chest... thats just not nice. lol
It's just up to the two people involved
I've never done it before, but I think it's ok once in awhile.
It's hot and fun :D .
I think it sounds fun. Though I've never done it, I probably will in the future.
I think its great if you want to add in role play. It's like a whole other version of flirting with a 'stranger' ;P
it's just a once in a while things. i guess to spice things up you know
egyptians are hot..
I love doing it! but its more fun when you surprise your SO, like get home and dressed up so when they get off work or school you'll be there ready. However i like to get dolled up when i go out. I find it fun.
My boyfriend loveslovesloves sexy lingerie and slips and whatnot and probably would not decline me dressing up and role playing. I don't think it's an issue of wanting to be with someone else...it's just spicing things up every once in a while.
You are right though, you have to be comfortable otherwise it's just awkward.