Well, as I'm sure most of you know, prom season is fast approaching. I decided to bite the bullet and ask out the guy I liked... and he said he'd "think about it".
So, I was all nervous about before my school play - another friend of mine told me to ask the guy before the play so I wouldn't be distracted from the play or whatever, you know?
So I asked him today if he had thought about it at all, and he said, "Well, I need a little more time, you know? I don't even know." I just nodded and said sure, that was fine, I understood, I'm just a little nervous and such and he was, like, "yeah, I understand your nervousness."
Is "I'll think about it" really a "no thanks"? Or are the rumors false? You think he'll say yes?
(oh man, sorry if I sound pathetic.)
ed's note: do you guys want to read/write prom posts? when is your prom?
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Goodness, it's prom, not a wedding proposal. Eh, I think just lay off him and he'll come with an asnwer eventually...but DEFINITELY have a back-up.
I would say he wants to go with someone else wants to keep you on the side just in case his plans don't work out. But if I were you *and I am not* I would move on to someone else.
“Never allow someone to be your Priority while allowing yourself to be their Option”.
I don't know who said it but they are words to live by! I am sure there is a guy out there who would love to be your date to the prom and really wouldn't you rather be with someone who wanted to be with you in the first place or would you rather be his backup date?
There is a slight chance he might not be a fan of proms. I was the type who had to go to prom, because my then-girlfriend wanted me to. So, you probably should have checked if he was a prom type of guy. If by chance he says no to a prom and you still want him, make other plans.
I totally agree with the above comments --> unless he was teasing you (which he didn't seem to be), then it definitely means he isn't as interested in being your prom date.
That's not what you want to hear, is it? But if it comes down to it, go with your friends--even if you don't have a date, you can still have tons of fun, and you're only as pitiable as much as you allow yourself to be. So don't feel sorry for yourself but show the world that you can bounce back from heartbreak and rejection. In my opinion, a guy like that doesn't seem to be worth it. I mean, if I liked a guy so much to ask him out, he should be man enough to give me a respectful answer. An "I'll think about it" makes him sound like an ass.
“Never allow someone to be your Priority while allowing yourself to be their Option”.
i'd defiantely find someone else if i were you. and theres no shame in going solo. at my school having a date was never a big deal, you only went with a date if you were actually dating them. it's often more fun cause you don't feel obligated to that one person the whole night.
ew, what a jerk! find someone else to take. if he says yes after it's too late, he missed his chance on you. seriously, that's rude beyond belief for him to even say that.
prom dates cause such needless drama! i just asked a friend. hopefully it won't be awkward.
It depends on the "signs" he's been giving you. What rumors are you talking about? That he likes you? Just give him some space, because if he really is considering going, I don't think he'll appreciate any more pressure. I hope he agrees to go with you! Good luck!
Hey, at least he was honest with you...
Mine said yes...than maybe...than im going with someone else ==""...talk about rejected or wat?! :'(
this makes me glad i always went to dances with guy friends (of course, two of them i did actually like, but....anyway).
i'm going to guess that: 1) he's just not interested in going with you and is buying time to try and come up with a nice way to say it (or just hoping you'll take the hint without him having to man up) or 2) he may want to go but feels awkward because you asked him rather than the other way around?
really you're just going to have to wait and see what he says. but don't let it spoil your night (or, goodness, your life) if he says no. better to wait for someone who actually wants you than to beg after someone who merely finds you tolerable (and i know that from experience, haha).
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Hi... I think he's waiting for someone else or he already has someone else in his mind.
Don't put your whole hope on him and ask another person instead.
PLUS.. I agree with other people above that don't make yourself as an option, be a priority instead.
Cos, this is PROM, this is the time w here you should have the most fun after all those stressing out in school.
Oh.... btw, a guy did that to me in year 10 thats like 8 years ago, he said 'I'll think about it'.
I didn't know him that well but he's cute :D
Basically, a few days after i asked him, he called me that he's going.
I kinda lost interest but I just bear with it and guess what... he found his soulmate there (n the girl was a bitch... she yelled at me that she was not going out with him but she's marrying him and is now MARRIED) instead of having fun with me. During the prom, He didn't want to dance... cos he was busy searching for cute girls (my school was a girls school and he was from a boys school).
But u know, I think it's better to go to prom with someone you know, or a guy friend you know well. You don't want to feel like you've done something wrong if for example your partner doesnt want to dance with you. hahahaha
So, you must take control and ... guys who say 'I'll think about it' is not a man... they should've decided on the spot.
He was just taking his time and see if there are other opportunities.
Psh. Prom. You don't need a date - a group of friends is much more fun! This guy sounds reluctant. I'm thinking there's another girl he likes and he's keeping you hanging as a backup, or else he's just too nice to reject you.
Either way, you should let him know that you're not going to wait around, and you won't be hurt if he says no.
That's code for "I'm going with someone else."
He's keeping his options open but keeping you as a back up in case his plans don't go well. I would ditch him and go with someone else but that's just me.
@fugita@xanga - Bullshit. You ARE her. Liar.
@Schristian@xanga - hahaha stop trying to stir the pot man... lol
i would say he isnt in to you and look elsewhere, now.
@fugita@xanga - Can't help it. I needs my soups.
@Schristian@xanga - lol... .nice man.. really nice!
Find someone else. He's not worth it.
That's his way of telling you "it's not a yes but it's not a no." If I find somebody better, than no. But if I don't ... they hey, let's go. I say find another date.
Besides, prom is overrated. I liked my grad night a whollee lot better than prom.
The same thing happened to me. He said "I don't know, maybe". I was upset because word on the street was that he was into me. But I wanted to go to prom so I got a guy friend to go with me... well, when guy #1 found out, he got very upset and basically begged me to take him. Which, after enough groveling, I did (the other guy was younger so it wasn't his prom, meaning he was basically just going for me anyway). Later I found out that he had originally said maybe because he wasn't sure he'd have the money.
What I'm trying to say is that you don't know the circumstances behind his words, but the fact is that you deserve a date, which means you should go out and find someone else. If the guy likes you, he'll come back. Then you can weigh your options and decide if you want to take him or not.
PS - It didn't work out with the guy. Turns out, he's juts as wishy-washy in every other aspect of his life lol.
it's prom season for me too obviously.. well honestly, i'd say go for another guy. if he's iffy on it, what if he ruins your night? you deserve to go with someone who definitely wants to go, and you deserve to have a good time. maybe he'll come around, but either give him an ultimatum or just ask someone else and don't bring it up again. he's being ridiculous and immature. if he didn't like prom, he would have told you, and if he really liked you he would go even if he wasn't a big prom person.
go with someone who you'll have a good time with, and who won't hesitate to say yes to going with you. or go with friends =).
"NEXT" find another one and forget about this one. doesn't seem like he's interested
at least he gave you some hope
last year when i asked:
he said that he would rather save his money than waste it
at least i had a back up plan to go w/ my female friends
"he'd think about it" basically means, "if i cant get a different date, then i'll go with you."