Monday, 30 March 2009
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Common Sense Points for Single Ladies
We girls definitely can turn a blind eye when it comes to love. Here are a few things that should have been common sense for a (mostly) sensible girl like me, but I had to learn them the hard way:Signs He's Looking for A Serious Relationship
- He contacts you 3-4 times a week or more
- He wants to spend a large amount of his free time with you
- He asks you questions about yourself to get to know you, and then remembers your answers
- He takes you out and spends money on your dates
- He introduces you to his friends and familySigns He's Dating for Fun without Commitment
- He is vague about his plans and doesn't talk much about his life
- Rather than take you out on dates, he invites you over "to watch TV/movies" and then make out
- He's not into serious conversation, only lighthearted fun
- He flakes out on you, forgets to call, etc.
- He says to you, "I'm not looking for a relationship right now." (Take this seriously, he means it!)Have you been looking for a relationship but facing only heartbreak? It doesn't matter how special you are, how hot you look or how wonderfully you treat him. If he's not ready for a relationship, you can't do anything about it. All you can do is leave him alone and find someone who is ready. If you are having trouble finding someone, stop waiting around for guys to approach you. The confident guy randomly approaching you is often the player type. It's time for us to give ourselves more options.
YOU make the choice, take control of your love life. Ask that cute guy a question and see if it turns into a conversation. Then ask him for his MySpace/Facebook/email and take it from there. If you see signs that he is single and interested in you, ask him out! The first time is the hardest, but it only gets easier. There are plenty of guys out there waiting for you to ask THEM out, and those are the types who are most likely to be sweet, loyal, and respectful in the long run.
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Good points. I'll remember these when I decide to rejoin the dating world. For now, I am a hermit and I dont talk to men.
I'm the first guy. I met my fiance thru chance on Myspace 2+ years ago. And we hit it off and are still together. I think after awhile, you start looking for relationships more. And find a way to make your relationship fun.
Hmm, I agree.
Good points, and though it shouldn't be, the fact is that there are still quite a few people who get weird about the whole "girl asking guy out" scenario.
@desertrose2890@xanga - hahahah im right there with you!
I like this and I think it's mostly true. I had a guy who contacted me every day, several times a day. I was being driven crazy, haha. It's nice to be thought of once in a while, but come on! Enough is a enough... he and I are definitely in different places.
Good common sense points that girls tend to conveniently forget when they have their eye on that "special" someone. I think asking a guy out is kind of weird - unless you do it in a casual fun way. Like, "Oh hey I saw that movie just came out and I really wanted to see it! What about you?" and take it from there.
this entry worries me about my relationship >___<
It's about time someone wrote this.
I usually don't waste my time with guys who are only in it for the fun, but it doesn't mean I haven't been fooled before. They tell you they just want to "see where things are going" while actually they meant they just want to use you until you wise up and leave.
Boys who say they don't want anything serious in the beginning are NOT going to change their mind later on. Stop dreaming.
bahh, my guy falls between the two categories, but has been exclusive w/ me for 5 months now?
boys suck.
@Neurotically_Mine@xanga - so fucking trrruueee...omggg.
i went through one of these situations about a month ago...he used the classic line "lets see where it goes..." uh no u wanna fool around with, get what you want and then leave. ass hole.
i don't want a boyfriend. i want a girlfriend.
give me tips on whether or not a girl is a lesbian or not by looking at her.
Wow, I'm dating this guy who's definitely showing all the signs he's looking for a serious relationship. It kinda scares me a bit because we've known each other for less than 2 weeks... but he's a cool guy and I really want to give him a chance.
Good common sense points if you're a moron.
Because surely everyone enjoys talking about themselves and spending money (in this economy? lol!).
Why don't people just establish what they're looking for beforehand instead? I know it's scary, but sometimes you need to be straight forward.
I've been "dating" a guy for about 5 months now, who 100% falls into the first category. We talk basically every night. He's willing to drive an hour to visit me every weekend (that he can...which is more often then not) He is always asking about me and wants to know everything about me, he always wants to take me out and won't let me pay. He tells me all the time how amazing I am, and tells me how much he likes me.
Except, he has a girlfriend. FML.
Common sense was out the window 4 months ago.
Haha, my guy did ALL of those things in the first list. He is my first boyfriend, and I don't want to lose him!
These are helpful tips. I suck at talking to guys in general. I'll be sure to remember these. Thank you :]
My last relationship started out as one of those "fun but no commitment types" and lasted about 8 months. I was fine with just having fun with each other but then my feelings grew & his didn't. Therefore, the relationship had to finally end.
As far as talking to that "cute guy", I have yet to do this! Haha, easier said than done.
What about he asks you to hang out together and get a drink? How do you know if he's interested in you as "just a friend" or maybe "something more"?
oh I've known a guy in a pub and he approached our group of friends since we were so noisy talking about assholes, and he was really curious cuz our table is next to his group of friends too. Well, at first we were like oh so confident, he even asks all our number just in case, but mind you, after that he constantly sends us messages, but I don't even get to reply, until one time i replied and he was really happy, he told me it's me who he wants to get to know from the beginning we met on the pub. My friend says that guy has an eye for me, because he sends group messages but when it comes to me it's personalized cuz it's only me whom he asks "how I am"how's my day"stuffs like that, until he texted me often and wants to see me, do some effort for me, he even invited me to his sister's graduation and I really went there, cuz he picked me up. Whenever I'm at school he would offer to be there, or anywhere else. But sadly I always refuse cuz we've known only for weeks, but up to this time he's consistent about me. So yeah I don't know if he's a player or not.
this is true. for me, if i like a guy, i go for it. i don't wait around for the guy. Like my current SO, I actually was the one who pursued him ;D
@shoujo@xanga - absolutely right - asking guys out feels so weird but think about all the guys out there picking up on girls -- it's just as hard, weird and awkward for them.. that is, until they get used to it and then they can become really good at it. so can we!
@oO_km_Oo@xanga - girl, so many of us know EXACTLY how you feel. we're here to support you no matter what happens!
Well this has ruined my day.
Well this has ruined my day.