Miss ReindeerI love having a gay best friend. He is seriously fantastic and is always there for me no matter what. Michael and I met during our orientation before our first year of college - we performed a karaoke rendition of Garth Brooks' "Friends in Low Places" and have been attached to one another ever since. Some of the dates I've had with Michael are some of the best dates I've been on with anybody, even though they obviously didn't end up in the bedroom. All we do is laugh, have fun and engage in a bitching sesh every now and then. It's one of the best relationships I have in my life.
One of the cool things about Michael is that he offers up a really interesting perspective because of his sexuality.
I can talk about fashion, celebrities and musicals with him until the cows come home, but because he is a guy, he also has insights into the male psyche that I have no clue about. Since our first year of college I have always asked Michael's opinion about the men in my life and how to approach a particular situation. He gives great advice and is one of my biggest cheerleaders about anything going on in my life. The beautiful thing about our friendship is that there is no real work involved, which is how I think a real friendship should function. Even if we haven't talked for a month or so, we're able to pick up where we left off. We think the world of each other and I wouldn't have it any other way.
Do you have a similar friendship like this in your life? Where did you meet this person and how do they fit into your life today?
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My best friend, Meg. But she now lives in DR in the sun, sand, and beaches!!! Darn that girl. So now I just flounder through relationships or don't date lol.
Aw, you're a hag stag, too? Gay best friends are the best, aren't they?
I'm everyone's relationship guru. I release my frustration about my relationships to my close friends, but I don't expect them to give me advice back in return. If they want to that's great, but all advice that they tell me is all recycled stuff that I've told them.
Yes! My best friend (long-distance) is my go-to person for everything in my life. Even though we both don't have much experience in relationships, we talk to each other about anything regarding relationships and anything else too. It's great to have someone to confide in and the best part is, it's not forced. The connection is just there.
I'm usually the go to person and my relationship is so open that we can talk about just about anything. Since me and my SO have been best friends for years, we were each other's spring boards before we dated. Now, anything I can't figure out between me and my SO I ask you guys! haha
I have my best friend who I tell almost everything to, and I also have a close guy friend who likes to give me his blunt opinions. It's great cuz when I talk about guys and dating, I can get a girl's and a guy's view on the situation.
I don't have one anymore. My boyfriend use to be my Go-To guy. I use to be able to vent to him about past relationships and he would give me really good advice. When we started dating he knew about my past experiences. Since I've dated him, it's been even better. I'm comfortable enough to talk to him about anything.
@CaucasianChopstix@xanga - The same thing goes for me, my stuff gets recycled back to me as well. I only really tell them just to vent and get it off my chest, I can already hear my words coming out of their mouths before I finish.
I have this best friend of 8 years and even as opposite as we may be, we get along so well just because we know how to understand each other. It's funny, because when I first met her, I hated her so much because she gave me the impression that she was one of those nonstop blabbering annoyances. Somehow I learned to know her better, and we were inseparable. We spent every after moment in school together, wrote 5 notes a day, took the bus home, talked on the phone after getting home.. etc. And then somehow, without warning, our interests became different. It was hard to adjust to, but after a couple of years, we worked our way around it. And even though we may not spend every second of our lives side by side, we know that we're both there for each other. We try to meet up at least once a week to just talk. I guess we just grew up, but we're still best of friends. Just best friend according to our age.
I would love to have a gay bestfriend, they seem like they are really good people. i want one =/ lol
My ex- gay bestfriend's name is Michael too! :) I absolutely loved how he just spoke whatever was on his mind.
Unfortunately, we drifted apart. We still keep in touch though.
I also had a guy bestfriend long before Michael. Now, I loved him. As a friend AND a potential love interest (didn't work out too well). His insights we're great too. They were a little rough (he didn't bother cleaning up his language even when he knew I hated cuss words) but they actually made sense. He even taught me a bit of guy lingo. x)
Drifted away from him too because I decided that if I couldn't have him, it would be less painful if I wasn't friends with him either.
haha nice blog. I need one of them as my best friend. ^^ Want to share Micheal with me or lend him to me. heehee Gay's are awesome. There very laid back and open minded and great sense for fashion. There like easy to talk to about men or anything.
I need a person like that!
I met my person like this in 8th grade. While we've been questioned for years about our affiliation, we really are just a guy and a girl who are friends. He gives me honest, great advice, and says I do the same. Even through a temporary move me made in high school to another state and other trials, we remain friends today and hang out at least once a week.
is he really gay? hehe. i just watched a movie where jason biggs pretended he was gay to get closer to the girl. can't recall the name of the movie.
My best friend is a gay guy too. We grew up together and even seriously considered a "marriage partnership" at one point. He is my soul mate and our friendship is priceless.
I don't have one person as my "sensei" per say.
I've learned a lot from first hand experiences.
I've also learned a lot from older people. They have their share of experiences as well that many don't have just yet. My philosophy is that saying "To know the road ahead, ask those coming back."
I find that anybody and everybody can be my relationship guru because every experience is different. Having one set guru goes to crap when unknown variables factor in. From my best friends to the bloggers on here, I'm learning something new about the dating world everyday.
i go to my boss, kim. she's also my best friend. she's always able to give me good advice when i don't know what to do. i don't have any gay guy friends like that. i sometimes wonder if i did, what advice i would get.
mtking! haha i actually call him RG for short.
no. sadly i don't have a best friend. so i wouldn't know what it's like. but it's great that you have that in your life :)
I'm usually the guru in my circle of friends/family.
myself.
Strange, yeah? But I know me better than anyone.
I just like to bitch/complain to my homegirls =D lol
Don't have a love guru. I would love a gay best friend but don't have one. :(
I have the exact same friend, and his name is Michael! We met during his freshman orientation, I was one of the orientation leaders, and we just became inseparable. I know I can always trust him for an honest opinion on anything, even if it hurts. I'd rather have someone be honest with me then sugar coat something or tell me it's all going to be okay.
I wish I had one :P .
One of my best friends are younger than me, by a year or two, and they don't have any insights that can really help me. But I appreciate the courage and advice they give me.
But usually, I'm the "love guru" within my group of friends x: .
I'd love to have a gay best friend, LOL.
I have a friend just like that! My gay best friend and I met freshmen year of high school. He asked me out freshmen year, and I rejected him...to this day, we still joke around that I turned him gay! LOL But, we've been friends ever since. And, even though we have since moved to different parts of the country, we are still great friends, and when we do see each other it's like no time has passed at all. I love him!