Sunday, 29 March 2009
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You're Allowed to Be A Little Selfish When You Date
Usually, I'm a pretty level headed person. Usually. It's not until I love someone that I forget to put myself first. When I love someone, I love with all my heart and all of me. And that's how I screwed myself over...By forgetting to care about myself and investing all I had into a relationship, I had lost my identity. I no longer defined myself as "me" but instead I defined myself as "us" and that's just not right. Although it is important for a partnership to be balanced, it's also good to focus on yourself once in a while whether it be goals or hobbies or even a mental health day!
I think that my biggest mistake was neglecting myself and attending to the every need and want of someone that really didn't care for it in the first place. This left me feeling unhappy and unappreciated.
I'm not a relationship expert or anything. In fact, I'm far from it. But I am hoping to remind whoever may read this that it's okay to be selfish once in a while. If you're putting everything into a relationship (whether it is romantic or not), don't lose sense of who you are and don't forget to treat yourself to something good every now and then. You deserve it for being awesome.
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Comments (49)
good post.
Very important & true. Love this post.
Heck yes we do! :D
solid advice :)
i hear you.
yup!! thanks for reminding those who get too caught up in their relationship, i take a step back every so often to get some healthy "me" time.
yeah i deff get caught up once in a while too.
Good post! I think we all get caught in those moments at one time or another.
This is very important.
there's nothing wrong with wanting something for yourself, as long as you're being reasonable.
Relationships are about compromise. That doesn't mean you or your significant other do all the giving or taking. It's about meeting each other half way and being okay with that.
yep
Absolutely! Nothing left to say.
I am def one of these people, who get caught up in the relationship. No more will I do this...or so I hope. =D
great post !
I agree!!! This is great advice.
It can be tough to balance individuality with a shared reality, but being able to do so will keep the "me" and the "us" healthy.
very true... i like this.
Thank you for the awesome post!
Agreed.
Have been there a few times & am not close to a relationship at all too. This is reassuring that I am not alone<3! Thanks! good luck with everything.
This is some of the best advice that anybody can be given. :)
You spoke the words directly from my mouth.
ya....i learnt it from my last relationship[which is also my first].....no wrong to be selfish and don't ever feel bad about it...
Thanks for the reminder :)
Very true. Relationships don't always last forever, don't want to end up being alone AND a nobody