Sunday, 29 March 2009
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Dating Someone Who Works for Your Parents?
There's this guy who works with my dad - let's call him Mike. Mike is rather attractive and nice and sweet - he's not too old either; he's maybe five years older than me (probably 28 or so). He's already graduated from undergrad and even grad school from an Ivy League school, knows where he's going in life and can support himself more than others I have met.He also works for my dad, so I already know all my family likes him...He even left KPMG to go back to working for my dad at that Ivy League college he graduated from.
The thing is, that's just it: he works for my dad and I know him through my dad. Pops has no idea whatsoever that I have a crush on his co-worker he hired.
We've all known each other for at least ten years. I had this secret crush on him back when I was in high school, and I know how weird that was because of the age gap, but now we are all of an age where I think it shouldn't matter. I'm still too weirded out to even ask if that guy has a girlfriend, let alone to hang out without my family. Whenever we hang out, it's always with my family, never just us two.
We all had lunch together on Friday - I think it's one-sided, but I felt really weird about it because I have no idea how he feels about me.
Whenever he asks me how things are, I just give the blunt, lying "good" answer...yesterday, though, I finally opened up to him a little bit more to stop trying to be extremely shy around him.
Would you go for someone who worked for your parents?
Is this too weird?
My friend says it would make it awkward for my dad and him at work so I should keep dreaming, haha.
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Maybe you should ask your dad if it would make him uncomfortable 'cause that does sound kinda awkward. And I wouldn't wanna date my boss's daughter without having the ok.
if you really like him, i'd suggest getting to know him a little more. heck, maybe your dad would be happy to see you with someone so obviously successful. i would probably ask my mother/grandmother about something like this; why don't you give it a shot? good luck :)
LOL EVERYONE works for my parents. HAHAHAHAH. I cannot introduce friends for my parents, for fear of them snatching them away. xD
My parents have a construction company (churches mostly) so they've got a whgole rainbow of things to be done; errands, office work, cad opperating, and the whole range of fieldwork-ish things. I'm always like "COME ON DAD, IS THIS A JOKE??? I HAD DIBS ON HIM FOR FRIDAY!!!"
I think you should first find out if this guy even has a thing for you. Once you've got that figured out then talk to the parents. It is a pretty weird situation but from what you have told me it would seem there is zero chemistry between you two. Talk more and find out what he thinks
been there, done that, failed it. the guy was about 10 yrs older than me? my dad did not approve of him but we dated anyways.
fortunately for me, he wasn't one of those pervs..he was a kid at heart..but he was such a mama's boy..i couldn't stand him. & he sulks and take it to the heart whenever my dad corrects him...he was a pussy.
so i dumped him & said "thanks a lot but i already have a pussy so i don't need another one"
i think it's better to date someone that neither your friends or your parents know of. that way you can keep it on the down low & interesting when you introduce him to your family/friends.
i'd say...GO FOR IT!
I am actually doing the same thing you're doing. I am dating my co-worker/employee too. It is really awkward at first and i didn't feel like it was right and i read all over that it'll make it weird if there is not only a workplace relationship but also a boss/employee relationship. I think as long as your father knows and is ok with it, then you're good to go. :) Hopefully he can reciprocate those feelings for you.
tryt o have some one on one time with him and get to know him and let him get to know you. if he ends up liking you, then i suggest let him and you both inform your dad. but mostly him. so yeah. just get some one on one first
Do you really like him? Don't let future awkwardness make things awkward now.
Well, sure it'd make things awkward for your dad if you two were to get together and then break up later. You point out that you're all mature adults, so, isn't your dad a mature adult too? I don't think it'd be too awkward.
Approach him as a friend. I think that's a safe bet. That way you can find out if he's single or not, find out all sorts of stuff. You'd also feel a little more comfortable because, hey, it'd be a friend thing. If you find out he's single, start bringing in the flirting and see if he returns it.
Or, if you ever feel particularly daring, just ask him if he wants to hang out after he gets off work. His response to that will help you know whether it's one sided or not.
Or, if none of the above would work; I'd say keep dreaming.
nothing's wrong..
heehee reminds me of lorelai from gilmore girls
it really depends on the situation, i would probably go for it.