I was out with my boyfriend and friends once, and we all decided to share our celebrity crushes. It was all in fun, of course, but I ended up accidentally hurting my boyfriend's feelings.
When it came to be my turn, I said, "Humphrey Bogart, Colin Farrell, and James Franco (swoooon)." Everyone giggled a little except for my boyfriend. I poked him in jest, but he shrugged my finger away. For the rest of the game, he was silent, and eventually I needed to pull him aside and ask what was up.
"None of them look like me," he said. "Do you not think I'm attractive?"
It's true that they don't look at him; he's half Italian and half Filipino, but I think he's very, very attractive. I needed to explain to him how it's possible to find lots of people attractive, not just one specific kind. Just because I picked James Franco and not Enrique Iglesias (part Filipino) doesn't mean I find him any less attractive.
I didn't hear his list, but I don't think I'd be offended if he said Beyonce or
Rashida Jones even though I look nothing like them. I was surprised his ego was hurt so badly, though. It makes me feel like I don't tell him how handsome I think he is often enough.
Would you be offended if your SO said they were attracted to celebrities who look nothing like you? Are you attracted to celebrities who look nothing like your SO/past SOs?
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Lol no to the first, and YES to the second. I mean comeon, can we even help that? Hormones, hormones... haha.
James Franco & Leo have my heart xD
Several french actors, too.
Yes and Yes.
My boyfriend says he isn't attracted to white girls and one night he told me how hot he thinks Avril Lavigne is..that made me really insecure especially when I don't look anything like her nor do I dress like her. But I got over it. She's a celeb and the chances of him getting with her is like 0.000000000001%.
I'm also attracted to a lot of celebrities who don't look like my bf, but also many who do.
I suppose if I was dating in the Celeb circles I might find it worrisome. But I don't so I don't. I've been attracted to all sorts of different looking guys, celebrity and not.
Umm nope it wouldnt bug me a bit. Haha and HECK yea I think soo many celibritys are smokin . . . well the men! lol.
I think he thinks that those celebrities are the people you are truly attracted to and since he doesn't look like them at all, I can understand his insecurity.
haha well my ex girlfriend and I used to say that we can each have 5 celebrities we were allowed to hook up with without the other person getting jealous of. I think we were just joking =P
Yes, and No, for some reason I really don't care how celebrities look like. Sure some are "hot" I guess but they're still whatever to me.
I feel like he's insecure and immature. I'm not talking about "omg he's sooo hawt and i wanna b wit him so bad" immature. It's more like he's not quite mature yet in handling relationships.
Having celebrity crushes are normal and nothing to be worried over. What if you told him that he is not allow to have crushes on anyone who does not look similar to you? He'd think you're crazy. I know I would lol.
@Roadlesstaken@xanga - No - I'm pretty sure she was serious. LOL
It's a just-in-case thing *licks lips*
When my crush talks about celebrities he thinks are hott, I often wonder why he is attracted to me, because they look nothing like me. lol
But I'm not really offended or anything. It's a fact of life, most people have some degree of a celebrity crush.
I do know, however, that it bothers him when I talk about celebrities I think are hott. So I make it a point to not talk about that in front of him. He usually doesn't talk about that either. So it's all good. No biggie.
hahaha...filipino men are very affectionate its kinda funny. hey at least he was honest with you and asked u if u find him attractive.
but yea my only dream celebrity/singer for the longest time now is Brandon Boyd. Ive had other celebrity crushes in the past but none of them lasted long. My ex liked Adriana Lima, Kristen Kreuk, Zhang Ziyi, and Angelina Jolie....whatever I just bash those celebrities. we have a whole debate who's better. lolz
nope, nope ! i dont have any celebrity crushes honest o-O which is sort of weird since everyone has one. but yup, i wouldn't be offended because well, they're harmless, UNLESS they go totally overboard such as those crazy girls that would dump* their long term relationships because their bfs werent "EDWARD CULLEN"-like ==
I always felt a little offended when my ex would talk about how hot Megan Fox was and I'd always be thinking how I didn't look a thing like her! I mean, who does?
I did have to deal with an SO who would get upset about every little celebrity crush I had. Just because it took attention away from him. I took him to a Keith Urban concert one year and he ruined the entire experience for me because he knew how much I liked Keith Urban.
My boyfriend likes to act annoyed when I swoon over John Cusack, Nicolas Cage & Dane Cook. It really is an act, too. He's not threatened by my celebrity crushes at all.
I,on the other hand, felt extremely miffed when he said he found Lady Gaga hot. I am the complete opposite of her! I don't know why it bugged me so bad, but it did. I have nothing of substance to add.
I totally agree with your celebrity crushes. James Franco is the hottest man alive. Period. And Colin Farrel, ALSO beautiful. My boyfriend has the whole tall, dark hair, dark eyes thing going on to, so my celebrity crushes don't bother him a bit. I always let him know how incredibly hot I think he is anyway though :) He knows he comes first, and that's what's important. I'm glad the two of you talked it out.
I realize this is entirely my fault but all my ex's had celebrity crush's while my mentioning a celebrities physical beauty got them all fired up. Personally I find celebrity crushes to be moronic. Would I fuck a hot celeb, of course, but to put forth any emotional investment towards an unknown person is a waste of time.
Damnit. I never answer the questions...
Ok, would I get pissed? What they look like is nonpoint. It all depends on just how hard they are "crushing" (-2 manpoints for using the word "crushing"). Just because someone is famous doesn't take away the fact that they are a "someone". And my SO wanting to fuck someone else, makes it ok for me to want to fuck someone else famous or not. It is just as likely for me to fuck (insert celeb here) as it is for me to cheat on a SO with the hot barista at starbucks. Aka neither will happen.
Again, I think obsessing over unknown people is retarded so I don't have anything to compare to. What I can say is that I have a wide range of looks I'm attracted to. About the only thing that is a set standard is height and weight.
That's interesting. I know people are upset because a significant other thinks Edward Cullen (yeah, I said it) is the dreamiest hunkboat on the planet, but I've never heard of people getting upset because of another celebrity crush. Maybe he's just that type of person; it might not be your fault at all.
No I wouldn't be offended if some celebrity was considered attractive. Celebrities are "supposed to be" attractive; that's how a lot of them land their roles. And of course I think tons of celebrities are pretty or handsome. Haha, I feel like such a cradle robber when I see cute, young actors. =]
my so wouldnt get mad. i told him before that i would pick him over any celebrity anyday. because i adorehim<3
1. Uh no.
He seems like a sensitive wuss. =\
2. Of course I've been attracted. Most celebs don't even look like regular people, what with their pampered lifestyles and plastic surgery.
i love taylor lautner :)
The only way I would be upset. is if he started to compare me to the celeb.. and was like.. why don't you do so and so with your hair like soand so does.. I would be pissed no.. I aint no celeb...
LOL..my BF likes zhang ziyi..i dont really care..it made me laugh even more when i went on this site to see which celeb i look..and apparently according to the site i look like her..LOL..
hmmm..not really..i have a little crush on mark wahlberg and robert pattinson and i dont think he looks like them..but thats ok..LOL..i love the way my BF looks..and having them as eye candy works too..LOL
not offended, maybe a little jealous- which is natural, but I try to put it in perspective. And yes, I find a lot of different people attractive. There's tons of looks that look good!
No and yes. My boyfriend acts like he is incapable of being attracted to anyone now that I am in his life. A sham? Perhaps.
As for my celebrity crush, Leonardo di Caprio, it does not seem to bother him because I thought he was cute when I was seven too. I even admitted that I found Christian Bale to be cute. ...my boyfriend had to agree on both Leo and Christian.
awww your boyfriend sounds like such a sweetie
but to answer your questions, yes and yes haha
@Roadlesstaken@xanga - my ex-boyfriend and i used to do that, except i know that neither of us were joking. he was mad chill, too; he'd let me hook up with as many girls as i wanted without getting jealous. fucking brilliant, if you ask me.