My friend and I were talking about the latest episode of
The Real World today. In the episode, the roomies go to Atlantic City to gamble and hang out - but Katelynn's broke. Scott lets her gamble with some of his money and she blowwwwws it. Whoops. He keeps pretty quiet about it, but you can tell just by looking at him that he's really uncomfortable with the situation.
I haven't borrowed large sums of money from a boyfriend or friend in the past just because I'd rather not have that hanging over my head . . . but I wonder if other people depend on their SOs for help when money gets tight.
Have you either lent or borrowed money from an SO? What was the end result?
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I wouldn't, just because...that wouldn't seem right to me. If I were married, it'd be different. But otherwise, no. I wouldn't ask him to lend me a lot of money, either.
I've only ever lent my brother money but that's a different situation. Overall, though, I think it depends on the person and the cause. I'd be more likely to lend money to a friend I've known for years if I knew they were going to use it for a down-payment on something (house/car/etc.). On the other hand, I probably wouldn't lend it to someone I've been dating for a few weeks who wants to drive out of state and buy a bunch of powerball tickets.Â
Psht. Yes I borrow money from him. We've been together for 5.5 years, so I don't feel uncomfortable asking.
Assuming he's asking for a large sum of money, I would if he was a pretty solid, credible person. Otherwise, lending my money to an irresponsible person would just be pretty stupid of me. But if I knew the type of person my significant other was before I got in the relationship with him, I'd probably know that he either wouldn't ask me for large sums of money because he wouldn't gamble his own away, or that he's the guy I'm going to marry (which basically means we share our money).
Hmm, yes and no. Considering the living conditions my boyfriend has been in, I have "lent" him money but usually for everyday necessities such as food, gas, phone bills (sometimes) and what he can't seem to live without for more than two days: cigarettes. But I don't really think of it as "Lending and if you don't pay back the debt, it's over" kind of thing, just "lending" money so he can spend without having to be a fat debt in the in.
So it's all good :3
We're married, and our money is shared. So...I guess it doesn't matter.
Our money is shared as well, but I would lend it if I could and if it was needed. To gamble? no. For something important (food, lodging, travel) yes.
i lent my boyfriend $200, but after about a month told him to forget about paying me back. it's not a big deal to me. he pays me back in other ways. hahaha. no, not like that.
i have never borrowed any money over $20 from anyone other than my parents.. which i don't plan to pay back anyway! :p
i do let friends borrow from me, this one guy i bought a phone for him on my credit card, $350 and lets just say i never saw that money ever again!
and the same guy i lent him $500 for.. some situation with 'boys' themselves and i never saw that again either!
i guess i was stupid to lend it but i use to like him ALOT...
money is money, i guess if u lend it to someone you care about and like alot you don't care if you ever get it back again
Depends.
if he needed money sure i would try to help him and i know he would reciprocate.
My boyfriend has lent me money for books, then when my financial refund came in I paid it back. As for me loaning him money, well its not really loaning. I'm a full time college student and I only work part time, so I don't have much money. He on the other hand works full time as an engineer, and pays basically all our bill, like rent, utilities, food. We used to live in this tiny apartment, and one day a condo basically fell into our laps. We hadn't been planning on moving so we had no money set aside for moving costs. My financial aid refund had just come though so I gave him the money for first, last, & security. He says its a loan, and he'll pay me back. The way I see it though after 3 years of being together and living together for 1, and all he does for me, any money I give him isn't a loan.
The way I see it if you can trust your SO enough to loan them money, then can you truly trust your SO at all? Without trust is it really a good relationship?
I've known my boyfriend for a long time and have been dating him for over a year. If he asked a large amount of money, I probably wouldn't even have it. My job gets me through just barely week to week. But if I did have the money and it was something reasonable, I'd consider it because I know he would too.
We went to a Poison concert once and I lent him 75 bucks there so we can both go behind the stage and meet Bret Micheals. Well worth it. But other than that if one of us is broke, the other one will pay for lunch and that's about it; we're both somewhat broke so we can't ask for big favors with money.
I don't have an SO per say, but I would lend my SO money. If I'm making a woman my SO, I know for a fact that I will get my money back unless I deem that she doesn't have to repay me.
This is a trust issue. Money will eventually factor into any relationship. So, yes, I would.
I borrowed enough money for a corset from my bf one time. Took me a while to pay him back, but it was no big deal.
If he was ever desperate enough to ask me for money, I'd give it to him. I wouldn't take any repayments back.
I think unless you are very serious - like engaged or married - loaning large amounts of money is a bad idea. First of all, I try not to lend more than a few bucks to friends anyways, because it can cause tension in a relationship and potentially ruin it forever if problems arise. Second, if there's a chance you two might break up...there goes your money.
i did. BIGGEST mistake of my life. my ex-bf was an addicted gambler. he gambled on everything....football, NBA, casino, texas hold'em....etc. and although he won big, he also lost big. so big that at times he didnt have enough money to pay his own rent or even his school fees. at one point he owed me over 2000 pounds (nearly USD3000). he slowly paid it off...but now that we've broken up for about 6 months he still owes me about $300. i have ways to get back the money if he doesnt pay me back (i.e. via his mother) but i still respect him and don't want to go behind his back. looking back, one of the biggest reasons we broke up was because of his ridiculous gambling. so DO NOT commit the same mistake as i did!
I'd lend my SO any amount of money, because he already buys a ton of things for me, like groceries & such, so I kind of owe it to him already. Plus, if he was going to be paying me back, I know that he would actually pay me back, not just take my money and hope I don't remember that he owes me.
I've let my current boyfriend "borrow" money from and looking back to how much he currently owes me now makes me feel like an idiot. He owes me around $800.00 and to my surprise he doesn't think he should pay it back. He feels like I should buy him what he wants or needs and when I ask for something then I can "borrow" the money until I can pay him back. WTF!? So, lets just say I probably won't be getting my money back from Mr. Mr. but hopefully there is a way to con him out of it or something, because I really need it back. I helped him when his times were rough, no food, no place to go, but he decided seeing we are "together" then it should be my place to take care of him.... No he has a mother and father, go to them! The end result here is to never... never let your other partner borrow, give, lend, or w/e they are calling it money or at least big amounts of money... you may get screwed in the end.
I have, and I won't do it again. Actually, I'd bought his car from him while we were broken up & still talking. We agreed that I'd pay him $100 to buy and install the stereo & speakers he had already purchased for the car. I bought the car in October 08, and I gave him the $100 in December because he needed it then.
It's now almost April and we've broken up & stopped talking. I told him I wanted my money back, because he hasnt installed them, or given them to me. Well, he refuses to respond to anything I say to him. So, I'm out $100. Stupid choice on my part.
No, I have never borrowed money from an SO and I don't think I've ever let someone borrow money from me. For one, I'm not really comfortable with it. I was really iffy when I let my ex-boyfriend borrow my car for a day once when his car wasn't working! Even though the person is my boyfriend at the time, I'm still not very trusting with my money & other important stuff.
Married, so we share.
But I never "lent" or "borrowed" any money from my past boyfriends. It's just too awkward. Plus, I'm not a big spender and I don't need a lot of things, so I would never borrow money, anyways. And my past boyfriends, they never ask to lend them any money, anyways.
i mean, hopefully they aren't using me.
I always borrow money from my bf but we consider our money OUR money. Like one pool instead of two. I just have less in my bank account so I use his money to keep it even so I have money left in my account in case of an emergency. And we're pretty much engaged so it's not like I'm going to leave him and take his money.
for my birthday, my boyfriend offered to help me get the supplies and food first, then i pay him back. though he said it wasnt necessary and that i should of kept my money (conjoined party with my friend, so she gave me the split share back) but i sneaked the money back to him in his wallet without noticing (H)
& i would lend my boyfriend money, but he wouldnt accept it D: something with his 'manly' ego & about providing for me rather than the other way around.. D: