Everyone has heard the saying "actions speak louder than words," and many have used it against others when they feel as though they are not receiving anything more than useless words.
Admittedly, there are plenty of people out there that will speak false words because they know it is exactly what you want to hear, and it provides them a free pass from telling their own feelings. However, what about the importance of words?
Honestly, I'd much rather hear someone tell me all about how they feel and never really express it with objects or actions. I feel as though too many times have I seen the actions of affection and never heard the words expressed - causing nothing to come out of many situations.
When it comes to affection, would you rather it come across in actions or words?
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Actions, definitely.
Coming from a long distance relationship, you realize that it's a lot easier to feel loved and wanted when you can see that person and have them kiss you/hold you/etc. than when they just have to tell you through text or over the phone that they do love you and want to be with you. It's very hard not to be able to have the actions to go along with those words so yeah, anyways, actions.
Actions.
I can feel that my boyfriend loves me when he holds me tight, more so than I do when he tells me he loves me. Both make me very happy though :]
In any situation, really, I prefer action.
Actions. I haven't seen my bf all week and even though he sends me very nice love letters in my phone or talks to me, it isn't the same as lying in his arms. :(
Totally actions. It's nice knowing that someone loves you without explicitly saying it. But hearing it sounds nice too =)
Unless you want to show me that you're unhappy by cheating on me, actions is best. Sometimes words are just iffy and don't take as much effort and intimacy as actions.
Why not both? I like both. A little words but more actions. Sometimes talking to much is not good, showing shows everything from the mind and heart. The true self.
Both, but more action. Touch is a powerful one at that.
I think your love language may be "words of affirmation", which is mine as well. That's why I absolutely LOVE it when my beau tells me everyday that he loves me. I won't feel hurt if he doesn't buy me something or he doesn't spend 100% of his time with me. So I'm going to go with words first and not actions (though I think both are important).
def. actions. words are just not enough for me... lol.
Actions.
Of course, words are vital too. Some things you need to hear and although it pains me to say it, it's important to communicate.
(Augh....augh....painful.....)
But although words are powerful, you can say anything you want. Body language and actions reveal so much more.
Words mean nothing without actions backing them up. So if it is a choice between one or the other I would have to choose actions. Let's, for fun, replace the the word love with the words million dollars. Would you rather me tell you on a regular basis that I'm going to give you a million dollars without actually giving it or randomly without warning giving you a million dollars?
Actions.
It speaks in so many ways than you think.
actions.
and i would love honest critique from the people i love.
It needs to be both for sure.. but actions prove words, otherwise the words eventually become meaningless
ACTIONS ACTIONS ACTIONS. They speak by themselves. Someone can tell you they love the hell out of you, that you mean the world to them and then act as if you're the last person on the planet they care about. Actions back up the words. Words without actions are worthless. I'd rather have ONLY actions and no words. Seriously. Sweet talk is always nice to hear but some guys are really really good at that, and they hook you and they make you stay because you believe their words...but what about how they act toward you? It's all fake if they can't manage to treat you the way they "talk" to you.
Actions, as words can be lies. Actions have more truth to them, even from strangers.
@justXforXyou_beautiful@xanga - your soo right. actions speak so much louder than words.
but its hard when your in a long-distance relationship to believe if that person really does feel the way there telling you...but you have to trust them and such.
its just so much nicer to feel physically loved. :)
Actions. A guy doesn't need words to express himself/his feelings. Not at all.
When it comes to affection, would you rather it come across in actions or words?
Actions. Many people can easily fake words, EASILY fake words. Richard Pryor said "If a man wants some pussy, he'll talk ALL that shit with you." Sometimes, you need proof that the words have actual depth.
Can I choose both?
actions
how about you
talk the talk
and walk the walk.
actions. my bf, when he asked me out, was very happy yet his voice is always a bit monotonous. but his actions showed me that he was happy.
Both.
But I enjoy it when my boy tells me he loves me rather than hugging. But maybe I take that for granted. :/