Miss Ostrich I
always need to have eyeliner on to feel comfortable before leaving my room or interacting with other people. I guess it springs from being self conscious about the shape of my eyes and face and blah blah; in the end, it's purely vain, but nonetheless, I need it.
My boyfriend dislikes that I have this compulsion and tries to convince me every time we're about to go somewhere to forgo the eyeliner and go out in public bare. He says, "You're beautiful without it," and makes me not put any on when it's just the two of us together at home. I do it for him, but I'm still uncomfortable. I won't fight him on the subject, though; it's just makeup.
Other girls, however, will fight for their mascara.
A friend of mine got into an argument with her boyfriend once about his problem with her wearing a lot of makeup. He claimed she didn't need to paint herself up when he wasn't around, and she probably only did it to get guys to flirt with her. Her response was similar to mine in that she felt more comfortable with a dab of blush than without, but she added, "It makes me feel like a woman."
I don't think makeup necessarily equates to being feminine. I know plenty of girls who don't wear any makeup and are gorgeous and "womanly". Then again, I don't feel like it's a boyfriend's place to make his girlfriend stop wearing makeup (as in, it's not a man's place to tell a woman what she should or should not do with her body, which sounds a little extreme, but I think it applies).
Have you ever been told not to wear makeup by your SO, or have you done the telling? Either way, what was the reason?
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My boyfriend loves that I don't wear much makeup. The most I'll wear is eyeliner and chapstick. I don't think it's fair for a guy to tell you what you can or can't wear though. That's kind of ridiculous. It's your face, and if wearing makeup helps you feel good about it, then that's important.
My boyfriend loves that I don't wear make-up.. he probably wouldn't care if I did though.
He said the sweetest thing the other day, something along the lines of, "girls must be jealous of you".. I was confused and I figured he'd say something like "'cause you're dating me!", but instead he said "because you're incredibly beautiful without make-up".
Well think about it. If he has to kiss you and you've got a pound of makeup on.. that's kind of gross. It's alright if it's light makeup, but if you're going to go all out..save it for when you're going to a party.
Light make up is fine.
Feeling a need to always be wearing make up... not-so-fine.
Perhaps he is being honest and prefers that you look more natural instead of a transvestite?
Of course not, no one has the right to make you stop wearing makeup. That's your call.
Yet, consider this. If you were a thoughtful girlfriend, why wouldn't you just not put it on and make him happy? It's not that he's asking you to put more on or anything, why should it be that hard to oblige? He's complimenting you, silly girl.
I am soooo against make-up, but unless it's an unhealthy addiction, I don't think a boyfriend should FORCE you to stop wearing makeup. It's your choice to put junk on your face
i think it's the same for a lot of guys.
i went through a phase of constantly caking myself to make myself feel better. my boyfriend made little comments like it looks too much or it tastes icky. i was too self conscious, but still i cut down on the amount.. like only wearing tinted moisteriser or only a bit of eyeliner. slowly weening myself of the cosmetics. and i started to get more compliments from him.
even today infact, my boyfriend came over and i wasn't wearing make up and he said: "are u wearing make up?" "no (cringe)" and then "you look better like this" (smiles)
i also like to think that, if i don't wear a lot of make up regularly... when i do... it'll be a nice surprise!!
my boyfriend does not care if i do or do not wear makeup, but i know he likes it more when i go bare-faced - he told me that i don't need makeup to look good. therefore, even though i feel prettier with makeup on (especially eye makeup), i sometimes go completely au-naturel just for him. for some reason he gets turned on even more when he sees me without anything on my face...
does he have the right to? no. but maybe you look better without it.
in my experience, most guys have preferred girls who don't wear a lot of makeup.
besides, that stuff is super bad for your skin if you wear it every.day
don't even get me started on this.
i have really rosy cheeks and i'm uncomfortable going much of anywhere or seeing much of anyone without foundation on. i'm fourteen. most people are chill about it, but once in awhile i'll get a comment and it's just...ugh. they don't know what i'm going through, and they have no right to judge me. even more so if they're guys, since [most] of them don't understand the hell we all go through.
it doesn't mean i'm not confident in myself otherwise--no, my rosy cheeks are the only thing i really actively dislike about my appearance, and i love my personality--but it is one of my few hot-buttons, and people need to accept that. i've been fed the "self confidence" line so many times, and... no. just no. my OVERALL self esteem isn't hugely affected by my cheeks. my makeup does not represent me as a person.
and i don't wear a million primers and a lot of eye makeup like some people do, so i really don't think that what i wear [foundation, mascara, chapstick] qualifies as "a lot" anyway.
people. need. to. shut. the. fuck. up.
makeup once in a while is necessary. I wear it to compliment my own features. but no makeup is probably the best you can give for your skin.
He's never told me anything about my makeup...not to wear any, to wear more, etc. I do know a girl though, not too well but, I know her boyfriend (maybe ex now?) used to tell her not to wear makeup because he liked her better without it, and also because it was a LDR and I suppose he didn't want her looking her best so other guys wouldn't want to get with her? I dunno. Just seems very very controlling to me to ask someone to do that.
And although my opinion wasn't asked for, I think girls should get more comfortable with themselves without having to have makeup on. I used to be the same way, wouldn't go out without eyeliner and a ton of foundation.Now I can wake up, throw my hair into a ponytail, and waltz out the door without a spec of makeup on to go to a full day of school and I just feel more free. It gives me more time to sleep since I don't have to get up early to get ready, I'm not worried when my boyfriend stays at my house what he'll think about me since I'm already comfortable with it. This isn't to say I don't wear makeup ever, because I do for special occasions and when I have the time I will wear some powder, eyeshadow, and mascara but I'm glad I've got over the full made up face phase, it does truly make me feel a lot more comfortable with myself.
and wow, this was a long, pointless comment, sorry.
I never wear makeup, I look weird with it anyway.
I just hate when girls wear so much makeup that when they don't wear it, it's really obvious and they look very different. That's clearly too much, you know? If you wear that much, I think it's totally fair for your boyfriend to ask you not to wear it...I mean, it'd be like dating two different girls! But if you like it, keep doing it, it is your face after all.
My boyfriend hates that I wear make up. He thinks I don't need it, I beg to differ. I rarely go out without my basic liner, mascara and 2 shades of brown eyeshadow. I don't wear foundation or anything, so i donno >.
I think what a lot of guys don't like is the heavy pounds of foundation some girls put on.
An ex-boyfriend told me I didn't need makeup. I ignored him and wore what I wanted. I don't leave the house without lipstick.
let's take a step back and examine what's wrong with this picture.
he has no issues with you co-habitating with a male, but confiscates your make-up?
can i get a congregational wtf?
that said, advice to the SO, dude, stepping in between a woman and her effort to beautify herself = holding onto a rabid dog's ear.
not smart. and especially bad once her period comes to town.
My ex always preferred how I looked without any makeup at all, and all I usually wore was light eyeshadow and a touch of mascara. I eventually stopped wearing it on weekends when I saw him, then I pretty much stopped altogether. Now I usually wear a little mascara and a nice lipstick to work and go bare everywhere else! (An additional plus - my acne completely cleared up so now I have great skin too!)
@Fluxuater@xanga - aww! - cute :)
my best friend has recently stopped wearing eyeliner because her boyfriend told her not to.
that really pisses me off
I've been told that I "look the same" with make-up on but I don't think so. Regardless, I wear make-up because I want to. I take pride in my appearance.
I need to wear make-up in order to look at least slightly human (I have dark circles, zits, and a lot of sun veins) I wish I didn't have to wear foundation and cover-up though! I hate it. I envy all you girls who don't wear make-up and are naturally beautiful
My ex never told me if I should or should not wear it. I never really did in the beginning and he said I was beautiful. I started wearing smokey eyes not long after, and didn't know he liked it or disliked it until the night his mom said, "Sean loves your eyes like that, and so do I." Kinda made me never need blush anymore
My SO tells me makeup is a waste of time and I look better without it. But he is a dirty hippie, and I know he's probably the only one who thinks that, becuase I look substantially better with eyeliner and a bit of foundation. I dont' wear makeup often at all, but when I do, he's always got to say something. It's kind of annoying.
i dun know how to make up
t if u feel good doing it u should tell him  ....