Friday, 27 March 2009
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Around School, He Was A Preconceived Player
I remember reading "It does not mean anything if you do not put a meaning to it..." on my friend's MSN name. What came into my mind is that we always give meanings to certain things, or people... but most of the time we are being extremely subjective to them... Most of the time, we set the meaning with our first impression, or even just words from your friends, family members, co-workers, etc., without even meeting the person and drawing our own conclusions.Mr. B was known as a player. During his high school years, he had gone out with numerous girls, from our school and other schools. Everyone at school knew he was a player without asking him about why he was the way he was.
Finally, he explained to me one day why he dated so often - "I just recover faster than normal people...but why do people call me a player?"
It was because people didn't ask him - they just assumed he was a player.
Although Mr. B never went out with two girls at the same time, he was still labeled a player because he dated so much.
Have you ever judged a romantic interest too early and regretted it afterwards when you realized that he/she wasn't the way you'd assumed?
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Players are just the opposite of nice guys.
I think people that date a lot of people in a short ammount of time simply don't know what they want. They need to stop dating and figure it out before they break more hearts...
If you have at least a general idea of who you are and who you want, this isn't an issue...
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I'm a fast recovered too but I don't hop into a relationship after another.
He might not be a player, but he's a serial dater and that's a turn off.
yeah....
by the time i finally break up with someone i am more relieved than anything else. i mess around casually, but i stay single for a while. ah freedom!
I usually take some time off between boyfriends - I've only had three in the past three years and two of them never got past 4 months. I enjoy being single and concentrating on ME.
As far as judging goes, it takes 5 seconds to label someone and 20 more meetings to change your initial reaction. We're all guilty of it to some degree.
Yeah, serial dating is a huge turn off for me. I know guys aren't always players, but that's just as lame.
First impressions and preconceptions are always toxic. All you can do is try to know them before you label them.
I'm afraid I have. I have been involved with a certain player, the relationship being completely superficial from my side. We broke up and now we're at this really complicated place once more, where I am still having issues with his reputation.
How can I ever trust him completely, you know?
@jeezshoua@xanga - I know. That's a dangerous thing to do. People's feelings are involved in this. He's lucky he didn't run into a crazy woman (If you've never watched "It's a Thin Line Between Love and Hate," then you need to. It'll explain my point to a "T."
I agree with some of the other commenters...so he wasn't a player, just a serial dater instead.
Yes, but it was not my fault. I am still trying to get over it 2 years later...
people think badly of me, and they never once ask me why. but still they talk behind my back about it as if i don't know what they're saying.