Miss Ostrich Forgetting to put my headphones in my bag before getting on the subway has its advantages sometimes. The section I walked into was pretty empty, so I sat across from two teenaged looking girls and flipped open my book. They got chatty, but I wasn't paying attention until this came up:
"...I was dating this dude who was a total jerk who liked looking at shoes on the internet more than hanging out with me. He bought, like, $100 shoes one time, and then like a month later, I found the same ones, basically new, in the trash. The best part was that we wore the same size shoes, and the ones I found were a different color than his, and he decided he really wanted them, but I kept them for myself to spite him..."
As she was talking, I looked at her feet (I automatically assumed they were huge, which isn't fair, but that was my first thought), but I think she caught me; a second after I looked up, she tucked her feet under the seat and lowered her voice with her friend. Oops.
The point is, I thought it was strange that she would do something to specifically annoy the person she was dating, though it's pretty clear she didn't like him much anyway. Of course, I know nothing about their relationship, but she left me with the question of "why date someone if you purposefully want to spite them?"
Have you ever done something just to piss off your SO or vice versa? If yes, what did you/your SO do and why?
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sometimes it's for payback. girls like to get even.
he intended to cheat on me by going to this party that he knows he was gonna get fucked up so i cheated on him while i was consciously drunk at a party.
we broke up & i forgot to confess. & i just left it like that.
Omg! Everyone does that.
Alright, I know this is going to sound terrible. But let me note that I was a different person when I was younger.
When I was like 11-13 I had this huge drinking problem. My brothers and sisters and I (My bro's and sisters are like 7-8 years older than me) would throw parties and I would drink constantly. Our parties were daily. And thats all we did. They got High. But I never did that. All I did was drink and play video games.
But I decided to quit. And I was 14. And I started dating this guy. He's older. And I told him bout my drinking problems. And how I've been sober for a few months.
So he told me, he didn't want me drinking anymore.
And Then he told me that he used to smoke weed, and cigarettes. And I told him I didnt want him doing that.
So it was an agreement.
We were dating for a year. And then his sister had a party. We decided to go. There were two floors I was upstairs. He was downstairs. His sisters were all trying to get me drunk. But I kept saying no.
So I go downstairs to go say hi to him
And I catch him Smoking a cigarette. He had an entire pack.
And he was almost done with the one he was smoking.
I got SO pissed! Cuz I stood Sober for him (And for myself, but it was an agreement)
So I went upstairs, and grabbed all the liquor they had. And started drinking.
I got plastered drunk.
What did that solve?
He knew I saw him..And he knew I was doing it to spite him
And I'm a terrible drunk.
I'm loud and crazy
(He's a quiet person)
So I basically purposely annoyed him for a billion hours
I think at one point "same size feet as her ex boyfriend" girl did like and want to be with her jerk dude. I don't think she dated him for the sole purpose to spite him. But she might of done what she did because hence, "he liked looking at shoes on the internet more than hanging out with her."
I usually do (random) things to piss off my significant other when he's extremely annoying or if I'm piss off at him.
For example, if I have his cell phone in my purse and someone is calling him, instead of "handing" his phone to him, I'll throw it at him or just carelessly drop it somewhere near him.
no, why would i D:
if i didnt like him, i wouldnt be with him in the first place..
No. I have a problem where every time I do something to purposely annoy/piss off people I like, I end up feeling like a huge douchebag about an hour later and apologizing. Obviously I really like my girlfriend, so therefore I'm incapable of doing stuff like that to her.
Of course if I hate you, I'll do whatever I want because I really don't give a damn about you or what you think.
Wait... what? This isn't normal? I always thought it was.
It's ironic that I was just having a conversation with the boyfriend that made me think about doing things to spite your significant other.
To the boyfriend, my going out to clubs/bars because I like it even though I know he disapproves is spiting him. I don't see it that way. It's a constant topic of disagreement as I don't understand what his problem is. I've got pretty great self-control & even though it's not the ideal environment, I know I won't ever cheat on him yet he's got a warped idea that I will even though he believes I won't cross that line. Meh. I'm standing my ground. Besides, it's not like I go clubbing or bar hopping every weekend. It's like ONCE every 3-4 months.. & it's a fundraising party!
**[If anyone is in the NYC area, the party is tmrw @ SPACE located on West 32nd Street and 5th Ave -- ladies $5, gents $10]
Though we weren't specifically dating anymore, my ex started smoking even though before she was anti-smoking. I started getting on her case and how it was bad for her. She then said, "Maybe I'll just keep smoking just to piss you off then." Of course, I blew up after that and got on her case even more.
Now, I don't really care anymore. However, she stopped smoking when she started listening to her new boyfriend. *shrugs* We get along just fine now. The past is the past. Live and forget.
only with my last ex, because he was a douche
Maybe it's normal in other, healthy relationships (as in, just for fun), but if she didn't feel like he liked her more than inanimate objects, then they were probably headed for a dead end, anyway.
Hmm no, I have never done that to piss my boyfriend off, it'd be pretty pathetic. But I've done some silly things just to make him smile.
Example: When I pack food for him *(so he doesn't have to waste money on food after work or school), he prefers round tub-wares so he can just easily scarf the food down, but I, disregard it and give him the rectangular ones. He'd always bring it up, but the conversation would end with a giggling argument and kisses in the end.
:3
I have never understood couples who take pleasure in annoying one another. I don't even like to deliberately hurt or annoy a stranger. Teasing is fun sometimes but if my guy wants my shoes or anything else then he can simply have them.
He does it all the time. But it's more than just simple annoyance. He's aware that some of the thingfs he has and keeps hurt me and refuses to do anything about. The only thing I'd be doing to so called "spite" him is trying to get into a nursing assistant program at Job Corps because I feel I'd be helping people better that way when he wantes me to get the day care worker program. I guess he can't stand that I'd be earning more money than him and wouldn't want to "take care of him".
Hahahaha why couldnt they just share!!?!?! They would have twice the amount of shoes!
Sometimes in a playful way ... he'll say "don't you dare tickle me..." and I will ... but I don't do anything to make him frustrated. (at least I hope not!)
I think it's horribly mean and I try to never do that.
I used to do that, I admit. But then again, I used to pick my nose in kindergarden.
I never quite understood this - and no, I don't do it.
I got in a fight with the b/f and he looooooves my red hair. We were fighting so bad I'd considered breaking up at the time, and so I colored my hair black to see how he would take it (I expected he'd be angry) turns out he was okay with it, but we are both much happier now that I'm a redhead again ^.^
Guess you'd have to know the whole story, but yeah, I did color my hair to spite (maybe thats not even the right word for the situation) him. so lots of details out of the story, everything worked out in the end.
Well, see, if she was a teenager there's honestly a chance that she's not exactly the most mature dater. I think doing something to spite your SO is pretty pathetic, honestly. If you don't like the person, break up with them. Otherwise, being spiteful isn't just hateful - it's pointless.
I guess it's just simple human nature to spite those we feel wronged us in some way. The fact that said person happens to be our SO doesn't change that; it just gives people an edge to it.
Should she date him if she feels that way? Probably not. Then again, a few teenage girls I've met seem to lack the ability to reach that conclusion.
No offense to those smart teenage Xanga female users. We all know a lot of your kind give your age group a bad name...
pretty fucked up huh. haha
Perhaps it's done to get attention? But girls loves payback time! haha
Guilty.
I do it because I don't want to sit around and take that from him so I give him a taste of what i'm feeling. I know, i know.. i shouldn't, but that's just me. He knows it. I'm just being honest. I'm working to fix that because it just leads to arguments. He's very patient though, which helps. Haha (=
I love me some straight up payback! When I was a teenager, my high school BF was starting to act like a jerk after a year or so of dating. One night we were all at the park getting high and a friend of ours peed in an empty iced tea bottle. My BF had cotton mouth something wicked so I gave him the pee to drink. He was so pissed. Between the fact that he was being a dick and I was high I laughed so hard I almost peed my pants. It still makes me laugh to this day. He stayed with me too. LMAO!
Um, no. I don't play mindgames like that.