Miss Ostrich A classmate of mine has been complaining about her boyfriend for weeks, and with only five of us (all girls) in the class, we all get involved. Our fifteen minute breaks every week consist of her telling us how she's bored with the guy despite only having dated him for three months, being annoyed they don't share the same interests and frustrated that she's not sexually attracted to him. Anytime we ask her why she started dating him, she responds either, "I don't know" or "I felt bad, so I said yes when he asked me out." She knows these aren't good enough reasons, and we finally convinced her to bite the bullet and break up with him. He didn't seem all that into her either, so we couldn't see why she was so afraid.
The plan: Meet up with him on campus during lunch period, let him off easy, walk away, profit!
What she actually did: Avoided him all day, then broke up with him over AIM that evening.
She told us she was too afraid to do it in person, so she opted to break up with him in a way that didn't involve having to see his reaction. The rest of the class agreed that she should have just done it face-to-face; she's twenty-one years old! I broke up with "boyfriends" over the internet in middle school! What's done is done, though, so I let the subject drop, but one other girl started yelling about how disrespectful our classmate was being and called her cowardly and immature.
Do you think breaking up with someone over the internet is unacceptable? Have you ever been broken up with/broke up with someone through an instant messenger?
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I think it's ridiculous to break up with someone via txt/aim/technology. Grow a pair and do it in person.
OMG LMAO!
I got dumped via text message. winner!
@DarcKleer@xanga - A pair of what?
oh my gosh! until you said she was 21 I was like "well they're probably just high school kids, it's understandable...". I think by the time she got to that age she should have grown up a bit!
I think a person deserves to be dumped in person. It's kinda wimpy to do it any other way.
Gahhh that's so bad!
It only makes the situation worse. :( If someone were to break up with me, I'd AT LEAST prefer them show up in person...it hurts more when it's done online/via text message because it makes the relationship seem all the more meaningless.
i have dumped, via voicemail.
It's unacceptable. -And I can say that because I've been on the receiving end.
You're ending a relationship, not canceling a mail-order.
If it's a real life relationship, then they should be broken up with in real life, too.
How rude! Girl sounds like she needs to get her act together.
I really thought she was like 12 until you said 21...
I think that's stupid. If you have balls, go up to the person and break up then. Why, the internet? What if there was no internet? (Okay... let's not go there, lol)
Anyway, I still say face-to-face breaking up session time.
It shows disrespect and cowardice to purposely break up with someone through text/aim/voicemail/etc.
"Im Braking ^ Wit U LOL SRY!"
That line is pure genius hahaha
It's being a coward.
completely unacceptable.
What the hell.
it's very rude to do it via internet. It happened to me once via email... really pissed me off. I stopped talking to her after that, haha.
yeah my ex dumped me on im
what an asshole i would have never done that to him.
some people just need to suck it up and not be a coward.
Unacceptable but I'm guilty of it as well.
I was in a long distance relationship with this guy I met over the summer at a church event. We dated but it didn't work out. We were more of "friends" than boyfriend and girlfriend. I chickened out and broke up with him via e-mail. BUT the difference is - I was a freshman in high school! If I was 21, yes, I would definitely break up with him over the phone because the "face to face" option totally ruled out.
She's pretty immature for someone her age...
I got dumped via cellphone... It sucked. She should have done it in person.
The closest I got to that was the phone - cause we were 2500 miles apart.
She might be breaking his heart, she should at least have the decency to do it to his face!
That's happened to me. It's bullshit, cowardly, and disrespectful because you have the anonymity of that method to hide yourself from the other person. I mean, come on. Man (or woman) up and just tell me to my face! The only way it would be acceptable is if maybe you know ahead of time that you won't have time to meet me and tell me to my face.