Miss ReindeerThis is so weird that I don't even know how to preface it except to flat out say that a
dad asked me out. A business-suit-and-tie-wearing, picking-up-his-little-girls-from-dance-class bonafide Dad Guy. See I have this ultra-glamorous job right now as a nanny, so I take the little girl and pick her up from dance class once a week. I've seen this guy every Thursday since November, and I never got the vibe that he was checking me out. I never get
any vibes that I'm being checked out when I'm working since I usually have a six-year-old holding my hand or a two-year-old slung on my hip, which for most men is a huge turn-off. Apparently this is attractive to single dads (at least I think he's single).
So I'm standing in the lobby like normal with the baby while waiting for the little girl to come running out of the dance studio in about five minutes. Dad Guy approaches me and asks how old the baby is.
It takes me a second to remember if he's 22 or 23 months, then I explain that I'm the nanny and not a bad mother who doesn't know exactly how old her child is. Stupidly, I thought telling him I'm the nanny would repel Dad Guy, but it seemed to intrigue him even more. He gave me his card and told me to call if I want to get a drink sometime.
I'm holding a BABY and getting asked out by a man at LEAST 40 years old with TWO children. It feels like the plot to a bad
Lifetime movie. Saved by the little girls running out to us, I just awkwardly said "thanks" and got the hell out of there.
He could be a very nice man, but I just don't think I could go there. In fact, I know I couldn't. With kids involved (and presumably an ex-wife) I don't even know what we would talk about on our potentially creepy drink date. He's pretty nice-looking and probably has a nice job considering the income bracket of the neighborhood I work in, but like I said, he's at least 40. It's a bit much for me at the moment and now I'm going to have to avoid this guy like the plague once a week until May. Super.
What's your age cap? What's an effective way to keep Dad Guy and other old guys at bay?
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I wouldn't really know how to keep an older guy at bay seeing as I'm a guy myself but I'm 21 years old. My best bet is to tell him simply, "Thanks, but no thanks." Yeah it's a little harsh on a guy's ego to be turned down but it's better than being avoided thinking something completely different.
As far as age gaps, as long as they're 16, soon to be 17 up to the age of 25. Yeah given that some people would think.. 16? Hey.. it's not that bad honestly.
i'm seventeen, and my age bracket.... hmmm, 16-21. when i get older, it'll expand most likely. but for now, that's where i'd like to keep it at.
to keep em at bay...keep a scowl on your face. forserious!
There's a married man who is crazily in love/lust with me, and I can't seem to shake him off. Grr.
Age cap...he has to be older, about 2-3 years older idealy, but up to 5 I can handle, although probably only once I'm a bit older. Unless I'm late 30's, I wouldn't go near a guy in his 40's!
Hahaha, maybe he's 30-ish but doesn't age well? Your job sounds fun =] (really).
My age bracket...I don't know. But finding love in a guy 3 decades older than I would be strange, so probably not a 40 year old man, either. Good luck with him! Or bad luck, depending on which way you look at it...
My advice? An Immediate, and very bright light.
By that, I mean,
"Hahha. I am VERY flattered, but no, really. You're awesome to ask, but really, no, no thanks."
- All the while its important that you are smiling hugely, and sincerely admiring the guys moxy. He will apreciate the admiration and it saves his "face".
My age cap? 34, 39 if I'm drunk.
The best way to keep them away is to let them know you're happily already with someone.
Haha.
I'm 19. My "age bracket" is between 18-22. MAYBE 23 if I was really impressed.
Perhaps you are just far too attractive, and thus are used to this a lot, but I'd say you could be flattered?
Some men have odd fetishes, one of which might be A. Young moms (the milf fetish), B. Nanny Fetish (which could be seen as a less, post-pregnant sort of milf?) or C. He could just be really into younger girls (This assumption is based on the idea that I don't actually KNOW how old you are and therefore assume you are young)
tell him you have a boyfriend. duh.
or that you just aren't into older men. i think he'd get a clue then. maybe.
i'm 18, so my age bracket is 20-23 :) haha
I would like to have whomever I am dating be in their twenties.
I wouldn't want to date anyone with kids. I grew up in a blended family situation, so I would like to at least start out a marriage with the possibility of having a regular family.
Hmm, I don't know. Everyone is different, so someone ten years older than someone could be just as mature and really fun, same with someone a little younger. It's hard to say.
Im 17, so for now, it would be ideal if he was 18-23. Thats just for now, probably as i grow older, the age gap wouldn't seem to be a big deal
Say... "I'm very flattered, but I'm sure my boyfriend wouldn't appreciate me having drinks with another guy. Thanks for the offer though."
This isn't rocket science. Idk why a lot of people on xanga seem to lack the ability to lie to someone about having a significant other. If an unwanted creeper approaches you, tell him about your (imaginary, as may be in certain situations) boyfriend.
I'm 20 and I've been on dates with men 28 and 29 years old. I didn't really find this odd as I have brothers older than that. However, I drew the line when a man with a son my age asked me out. I tend to not go for men 10 years older than me.
right now..it's 25
fuck age ish..? hahaaaa
How old are you?
just dont older than me 10 years!
At least you're not sure if he's still married or not...him being married definitely would have made it worse.
I think if he had actually *asked you out* and gotten your number, you should say yes.
But he handed you his card. That's a chicken move. Don't go out with him.
@inn0centanqelx89@xanga - Yes!! The imaginary boyfriend is a girl's best friend. So is the "guy who's secretly only a friend but is playing the role of boyfriend for the evening". Does wonders to ward off creeps on those nights when you just want to have fun without getting hit on :)
I have always hated categorizing people by numbers. I'm not going to limit myself based on numbers, but I do have trouble imagining myself with anyone 20 years older than me that's a pretty big leap. Still, it would depend on the guy I guess.
@immaairheadxl@xanga - yeah i'd say the same.Â
That's actually very creepy, i think the oldest for me was 26-27 ish.Â