Miss ElephantNews flash: girls talk about sex. Probably in more excruciating detail than guys even want to know about. Not just general things like “Yeah, we had sex, and it was good,” but very specific things about positions and sensations and what was good and bad about it. You know, things like, "he called me a hairy
wildebeest," etc.
A good friend told me recently that she thinks it's really important that girls practice full disclosure with one another about sex. Her basic reasoning was that guys can be really mean and insensitive about girls' bodies, maybe without even knowing it, and that girls need reassurance from each other - the comfort of having someone say, "I had that same experience". She thinks it's healthy and positive for girls to talk about their sexual experiences with one another because it helps heal some of the wounds guys can sometimes cause.
I tend to agree. Talking to my best girlfriends about weird or unbelievable stuff that happens during sex makes me feel much better. I’ve never really had a guy make me feel bad about my body after sex, with the exception of the
wildebeest incident, but I understand what my friend was trying to say. Sometimes guys just don't get it - it's hard to talk to them about body issues or embarrassing sex stuff. Especially in the age of casual sex, broaching the subjects of body hair or orgasm noises or (gasp) queefs is just unheard of. But having your girlfriends there to talk to about it makes a world of difference.
What kinds of sex stuff do you dish to your girlfriends about?
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Onetime I saw this video where this girl queefed on command... just sayin
I just ask my girlfriends about birth control, because I don't want to get a crappy kind. I haven't had sex yet, so I don't talk to my friends about anything more than, "Why does he want to be physical all of the time?!" -Edit: My guy and I aren't prudes, so we do other things, just not sex.
I'm not sure that I would want to share details of my personal life, beyond what I just mentioned. I think that would just be awkward. I don't ask my friends for details, and I don't expect them to ask me. Some things are just too personal, and I don't want everyone knowing.
how my last "accidently" shoved his willy in the wrong hole.
oh.
and i couldn't poop for two days because of that.
This is ridiculous. If you are going to be so immature that you can't even communicate with the guy you're having sex with, then maybe you're not yet mature enough to HAVE sex. I have no problem talking with my boyfriend about any and all of these types of things and more. Most stuff we just laugh off and I don't even consider an issue like these little drama queens you talk about do. I hate women.
In our family sex is pretty freely discussed. I talk to my girlfriends, sisters, brothers and cousins about sex. Even my godmother and Nona have given me great input. I want to learn all I can so that I will be prepared when the time comes. But I am also discussing it in detail with my boyfriend. He will most likely be my first and if I can't talk to him about it freely then I am pretty sure I won't be able to make love to him freely either. Most of study manuals before learning to drive. We take classes to learn to dance to sing, to play instruments etc etc etc. Why should we not put an equal amount of effort into preparing for something as wonderful as sex?
uhh wow i don't talk to my girl friends about sex at all, i only talk about it with my guy friends
queef. lol.
None. I wouldn't want my friends to cast judgement upon me. They probably would think I was crazy if I told them that we engaged in S&M.
My friends and I talk about everything. We all ask eachother if we have questions, or we are wondering about something. My ex and I are still really good "friends" and my friends always ask about our "relationship" we are all totally open about everything. And why not, isn't sex the most natural thing two people can do?
I talk to my girlfriends about most things. I mean if something crazy, or shocking or amazing happens I tell them, but I usually spare them a play-by-play of every sex session.
agreed. when i broke up with my last boyfriend, i told my best friend about how much i'd miss certain things in the bedroom. we talk a lot about that kind of stuff and it's not uncomfortable :)
I tell my girlfriends a lot, but nothing in excruciating detail, haha, I'd imagine they'd just be weirded out because I'm usually shy when it comes to talking about it.
I can comfortably talk to my girlfriends about sex while i can't seem to do the same with guys.. but I don't do it as a way to rectify how badly he's made me feel after sex.
If any guy has made a girl feel badly about her body after sex, they should be discussing that with each other not with other people. And should you be having sex with someone who makes you feel unattractive? You can only go to your girlfriends for comfort for so long before realizing that he's making you feel like shit and lowering your self-esteem.
In my opinion, a healthy sexual/intimate relationship involves 2 people fully immersed in each other finding little to no flaws and if they do, do not feel the need to tell their partners.
I don't talk in specifics with girls....
They can't be trusted x_x
As a guy who has experienced what it is like to be in a conversation with girls talking about sex in detail, please don't when a guy is present. Not only do we not want to hear about other guys, but we have vivid imaginations and its like watching porn in your mind while the girl is next to you telling it to you play by play... obviously that doesn't sound to bad, but when someone like me has met the guy and you happen to be my ex it makes me very much not to ever want to talk to you again.
I tend to be very private when it comes to talking to people about sex, but in direct contradiction to this blog the person that I am Most comfortable talking to about sex is one of good guy friends. Most of my girlfriends {actually most of my guyfriends too,} will talk to me about sex though, so if I have a point or experiance in relation to what They're talking about I'll add it in, it is just very rare to have a conversation focusing on My sex life.
HAHA. Queef. LOLz
Um, I don't talk to my girl friends about sex. I think ALL of my close friends are virgins, and one of them cringes at even the slightest undertones in regards to sex. They wouldn't be able to relate to me.
*sigh* I wish I had somebody to talk to about this... that's not my boyfriend lol
What does "queef" mean?
I don't talk to any of my friends about what I do with my boyfriend.
It's none of their business.
Everything. Haha, she's my best friend and we're open about pretty much everything. Also, everything we try the first time turns out really REALLY funny. We're comfortable, and we laugh alot. I can't help but recount to my trusted friend =]
@Meowmeowkimmaee@xanga - Google it dear.
@abcxunt@xanga - Hurts so bad, dude.
@ostentatiouseloquence: That was ridiculous. If you can't be mature enough to read and understand a post before replying to it with name-calling, maybe you shouldn't even HAVE access to the Internet.
The poster didn't say she didn't talk to her boyfriend. She said she did talk to her friends - one does not exclude the other. Everybody goes through life their own way. Don't be so judgmental.
As long as these conversations stay within the group of friend, i'm fine with knowing that my gf has these conversations.
(Bad experience: Ex talks to her friends about, one of the friends is the loudest mouth ever, and the whole school knows everything about what happened, size, etc. FML)
Another thing...How can talking about sex with the person you had sex with be more awkward than talking about the sex you had to your friends? (In general, not a situation meaning)
you have to be careful what you share with other friends. i love them, but even the best of them might gossip; plus, out of respect for your husband or bf, it's not information they should know. once you're in a relationship, you need to respect the other person by showing discretion, loyalty, etc.