It's a common thing these days that almost everyone ranging from the age 13-19 has a significant other. It is also common that they all result in breakups. Of course, excluding the minority that last forever.
But the true question is, what is the real reason of two people getting together in the first place? There are many reasons: true feelings that develop over time, wanting to get to know a certain someone better, the curiosity of being attached, or is it simply because you're the only single person in your circle of friends.
In my high school, I see quite a number of students getting overly committed with their girlfriend/boyfriends.
For example, a guy appearing at his girlfriend's doorstep at 3 a.m. just to see her. The consequence? She ends up getting into major trouble from her parents and after a couple weeks, the crucial part comes: the break up.
Or, for instance, a guy gets into a relationship with a girl because of slight desperation (due to rejection from another girl). Maybe he had a point to prove. Perhaps to show that particular girl what she was missing out on and at the same time, it proves that he could get any other girl he wanted. I also know an 11th grader that became an item with an 8th grader because he absolutely loved the attention the 8th grade girl was giving him. What point does he actually want to prove?
My question, what exactly goes on in a teenager's mind?
So here's a survey for you teens out there, :) What do you think is the main reason for having a partner or even just dating?
* A crush or liking for that certain someone.
* Peer pressure from any party.
* All in the name of fun.
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i date because i'm lonely. & i'm trying to get over my ex bf.
here..i date because im horny.
I'm not in a relationship for any of those reasons, and I never really have been. I've never felt the need to be in a relationship whether everyone else was in one or not; in fact I've always been more into the idea of being friends with someone before getting into any kind of relationship with them. For instance, my boyfriend and me knew each other for years (and were really good friends) before we got in a relationship close to a year ago. I'm not with him because peer pressure or to help loneliness, I'm with him because our feelings for each other developed over time.
Isn't there a saying about love being friendship, set on fire? That's how I look at it, I suppose. I wouldn't want to date someone (as in boyfriend/girlfriend) just for fun. I think that's what hanging out and flirting is for.
I'm not really a teenager anymore, but I do remember why I did in high school - I had almost no luck with girls in grade school. Of course, I was very young at the time, but when a girl finally showed real interest in me that I had interest in too, we ended up going out - had a pretty good time for awhile, too. I had a second girlfriend that same year, later on, and we were good for awhile - can't remember exactly what happened to why we split, but I didn't have a relationship again until college.
I just got out of a four year relationship. We were flirting for a long time before we got together, seemed to have stuff in common - eventually we seemed to fall in love. Though over time, we fell out of love again. Recently, I've been sort of/kind of looking for someone new - partly because I miss the companionship, and partly because I'm horny as fuck.
You take sex for granted when you can have it any time you want - I haven't been so lucky to find someone else to be intimate with. And I'm not really the type to just go out and meet someone, fuck 'em, and leave... though I've certainly thought about it before. I like knowing a person first, and want them to be as attracted to me as I am to them before sex comes into the picture.
Ugh, I'm horny. Heh.
I didn't have a boyfriend until my last few months of highschool, because I never saw a point in dating for fun. When I was ready to date, it would be because I wanted to look for my future husband. Surprise, that guy I started dating is now my "unofficial" fiance (he hasn't officially gotten to propose because he's literally across the country). I had a list of things I wanted and needed in a relationship, I fell in love, and here I am :)
Relationships in general develop naturally: they happen when people feel the need to express something or just want to feel something.
When someone wants to express something. Sometimes, they want to express themselves: because they care for that other person, are attracted to that person. Sometimes they want to express something less emotive, but more physical.
When someone wants to feel something... that may be acceptance, attraction, the feeling of being depended on, the feeling of being with someone.
People date for a truckload of reasons, and not all of them the same. I think the majority of teenagers date because they need to feel something in their lives, whether that be emotion for someone or from someone.
Personally, I date because of the feelings I have for someone. It's not really worth it without the emotion- even the bad ones!
Because I'm horny.
You know, it's a really good question.
For me personally, I just get in a relationship because I start to grow feelings for them. As of now, I'm single and LOVING IT. I don't want to be stuck in a relationship and I wouldn't give 2 pennies even if I was the only single girl out of my group. The feeling of being free is one greater than one being in a relationship. Of course, I learned all of this from going through the course of so called life. I once had someone but that someone turned out to be the immature person he told me he never was. Ha!
I'm pretty indifferent but I guess its nice to have someone you can rely on, chat with about anything and just hang out with sometimes. It's true that your significant other is your best friend too...and who can turn down getting a best friend ? =)
i dont date. but oh well
i think that every relationship you have in your teenage years helps you become the person your meant to become, and to help you figure out what you want in a boyfriend/girlfriend.
I've been out of high school for a few years, but I never even went on a date until graduation and even since then I've probably seen 3 different guys ("seeing" meaning anything from a date to going out) in the last three years so I'm not exactly going on dates all the time. I tend to let a guy know pretty early on if I'm not interested, so I've also never rejected a guy when he asked me out.
As for the why, I like having that connection and having someone to depend on who is closer than my other friends. I also really enjoy the physical side - not just sex, but holding hands, kissing, cuddling...the whole kit and caboodle.
I don't "date", I either get into the relationship or I don't. Usually I know the person, develop an interest and we decide to become an item. It's not random, it's not for fun, it's not for anyone else, it's simply because I have feelings for that person and want to be with him.
I did not start "dating" per say until I was sixteen. After that I just did it for the fun. But now that I am eighteen. (I know, only two years later) from those "relationships" I gained experience and now I enjoy my serious relationship with my boyfriend. (:
But really, I would advise against dating younger than sixteen. You barely know who you are when you are beneath that mile stone so in turn, you really do not know what you want.
I date to learn something.
A crush :P
I'm still with my high school sweetheart (but it was a tumultuous relationship in the high school years) We started dating in 8th grade.
We didn't want to admit we were dating and we were really close friends, but eventually realized we couldn't avoid being "official" anymore because it ended up we loved each other.
I guess that puts me in the exception section? lol
I'm a junior in high school now, but I've been with my boyfriend since freshman year. Â I wasn't looking for a relationship; for me it's always been "whatever happens, happens."
 It's nice being in a relationship with someone who I'm so close with. He also happens to be my first real relationship, so the whole thing has been a good learning experience as well.Ânowadays, its mostly peer pressure. But I date because i'm looking for that special someone that I want to spend the rest of my life with. =)
Whats a date? I haven't had one in so long I forgot.
I date for fun. =)
for the first time, i think i really fell for him...and my second time[which is sooner] i think it's cause i wanna get over my ex and he looks like my ex==
I think teens date for fun.
And to show other people that they have an SO.
In high school, it's a big thing to be a couple. Everyone in HS knows the dating status of everyone and it's a big gossip thing.
And of course, teens are horny little bastards.
I date because I want to find someone who I can relate to really well.
because I like men... a LOT! and because knowing I might "get some" in the end of it is kind of an entertaining thought =] hahaha
only way i feel loved.