Wednesday, 18 March 2009
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You Could've Just Deleted Her As A Facebook Friend...
Via Yahoo! News:Edward Richardson, 41, stabbed wife Sarah, 26, to death in a "frenzied and brutal" attack at her parents' home in Biddulph, central England, last May after she altered her profile on [Facebook].
The couple had been living apart since the previous month, said Fiona Cortese, a spokeswoman for the Crown Prosecution Service, which is responsible for prosecuting cases in England and Wales.
"Richardson became enraged when Sarah changed her marital status on Facebook to single and decided to go and see her as she was not responding to his (text) messages," Cortese said.Many Facebook relationship statuses change daily - I would suggest that Facebook users not post their relationship statuses at all. During the infatuation phase of the love cycle, everyone wants to express his or her love publicly. I am all for PDA, but Facebook is not the place to partake in it. Everything is fine while the relationship is going well, but things can get messy very quickly.
When the relationship ends, the Facebook news feed will read, "Jane Doe just went from being 'in a relationship' with John Q. Public to being 'single.'" Just saying that a relationship has ended is hard enough, but seeing it in black and white is devastating. The worst part is that all of your Facebook friends and your ex-partner's friends will see it too. The little sky blue comment boxes then begin to cascade down the computer screen. Friends will ask over and over, "What happened?" Some comments may even be cheap shots like "I am glad you two broke up. LMAO :0))"
But unfortunately, that is only the beginning - and then things get uglier. Facebook update statuses become venting sessions. Nasty messages are posted back and forth on profile walls. Groups like "I hate John Q. Public" or "Jane Doe was the WORST Girlfriend Ever" are created. Humiliating photos are posted. And with every profile modification, the news feed will post the updates. A nasty breakup has the potential to turn into a Facebook soap opera. And your friends would get to tune in every time they logged in.
I know some may say that they would never do anything like that. Well…maybe they have never truly fallen in love. Love is just a socially accepted state of insanity. When a person is in love, rational thinking goes out the window. When a heart is broken, there is no telling what lengths a person may go to get revenge. Facebook is just an easy and effective tool that can be used to seek out revenge.
Have you or your friends ever gone on a breakup induced Facebook rampage? If not, have you at least contemplated it after a messy fight?
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omg facebook drama is no fun. i agree, just don't bother with publicly announcing it on facebook at all. it's not the whole world's business.
oh yessssss...and even when its not a boyfriend...there are always instances including me when I or a friend liked someone and it didnt work out and status's become a way to indirectly show how you are feeling or thinking to that other person. because u know how fb works you know one way or another they will see your status...
fb is dangerous but i think people need to be smart enough about what and how much info they pput abt their personal lives on fb....
where has modesty and privacy gone?? these things are now just an outlet for people to "whore" themselves out
my exboyfriend and I fought with comments back and forth on one of my friend's myspace. she chose to stay friends with him (what? she knew the backstabber for like 5 seconds) and believe him and not ME (her bff since we were in diapers!), so I deleted her.
after one of my exes and i broke up, he put nasty comments about me in his status updates. it was embarassing/humiliating especially because the things he was saying were all lies. i finally got him to stop, thankfully.
that's the only problem i've had with 'facebook drama' though... i'm not going to act like a child and start online fights, that's just stupid. none of my friends do that either, so it's all goooooood.
None of that would happen or be a problem if people had any ounce of maturity at all. Your exgirlfriend changes it from "in a relationship" to "single"? Get over it. Don't be an immature idiot and start a ton of drama over something like that. She's obviously getting over it, so you should do the same.
Creating groups to show your distaste for someone is really, really immature and moronic. Going back and forth posting nasty comments is equally immature. I can understand 13-15 year olds doing that, but adults? Come on, grow up.
I mean... really? What does telling someone, "U WERE THE WERST GRLFRIEND EVAR!" achieve?
I am glad someone wrote this. I used to be really 'ish about the whole "how come you didn't change your status" thing. Now I just let it go.
Although there are people out there who just assume the least thing I expected.
Glad I didn't go mad and kill them all.
I just gave up facebook. The drama is so irrelevant and pointless.
Facebook is the most stupid thing to get upset about. Especially if you're getting caught up in "relationship statuses."
Stories like this make it hard to maintain my optimistic view of people. There are so many petty idiots out there...
facebook drama..pathetic!
Its a lot more fun to make the snide and rude remarks when people first enter into a relationship and announce it on facebook. After the couple breaks up is when everyone is being an ass and thus you don't stand out.
Now it does piss some people off when you insult them for being in a relationship or getting engaged but its fun.
Haha. Way to freak out. Geez.
this is sooo dramatic... wow.
I think i am about the only one without a facebook account. lol
I don't have a facebook account either! ...I find it really stalker-ish.
I hate gossipers on Facebook. That's all I can say now.
I've asked a friend or two, if they were close friends, what happened if the relationship status changed, but it wasn't something to freak out about. Honestly, people take the internet too seriously these days. As if lies aren't posted online every second of every day...Eesh. That poor woman.
that's why i don't invest too much emotionally in facebook... i never even put up my relationship status when i started going out with my current bf until my sister (who is in hs and obsessed with facebook) absolutely forced me to. i try to use facebook only as a tool for marketing for my clubs and organizations, and for its original use - keeping in touch with distant people.
Facebook is TMI!
Let's all be a little more mature now.
Yeesh. Restrain yourselves, people.
Like I always say, fuck facebook. I have one, but it's an abymsal site.
Anyway, like the above commenter said, this really is just a maturity issue.
I've never seen anything like that, save for the comments asking what happened/if the person is okay. (I don't have any problem with the latter, though the former is invasive.) I don't really become friends with people who are dramatic like that.
um, i don't even use facebook. it's kind of stupid, lol.
Mooooore facebook drama.
I do agree that relationship statuses on facebook is not a good idea. Come to think of it, who really comes up with what statistics you put in these networking sites? Since Myspace started out more so for music, why do we need to know body types and race? Nvm..
I leave my FB status as "It's complicated" because, single or not, things are not easy.
Wow, this is just as bad as the time that someone got stabbed for stealing a virtual sword on WoW.
That's why you don't update your relationship status to begin with.