Dr. Datingish
My girlfriend of six months just broke up with me because I smoke too much weed. Now I see her every day at school and she won't talk to me anymore.
I've tried to talk to her several times, but she tells me she's busy. I also try to have a chat with her whenever she's on AIM or Yahoo, but she logs off every time I send a message. She thinks I'm always high when I try to talk to her.
I've tried quitting before, but she caught me smoking in her bathroom, which is why she broke up with me.
I don't see what the big deal is - I like to smoke chronic with my friends after school, but she thinks I'm a lowlife. But I know no one will ever love her as much as I do.
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ohh silly :-p
well, if you love her- maybe you should stop.
I don't blame your girlfriend a jot... I would never date a smoker (of nicotine, weed, whatever), and while I don't know enough about you to make the generalization of being a "lowlife" just because you smoke... it would be a big enough issue for me that I know I would not be able to look past (my grandfather died from lung cancer, so I'm disgusted by the habit, after seeing the pain it caused my family.) I completely empathize... with your ex.
It's all about compromise.
Everyone who broke up with you is always "busy". That's what I have learned about love. Hehe! It's just you and your lady in green.
If you love her, you'll quit smoking weed. It's not good for you, and she knows that. Why would you want someone you love to be worried about your health when you can quit? (Besides, it's illegal for a reason...)
i don't blame your girlfriend. no one wants to be around someone who's high. kissing you is like kissing an ashtray to her. if you really loved your girlfriend, wouldn't that be enough motivation to quit?
If she doesn't like that you smoke and you smoke then there's really very little chance of there being compromise.
Some people won't budge on that sort of thing. I guess, to her, it's more important that you don't smoke than if you love her. In this case, maybe she doesn't return the same amount of affection as you do.
I'd like to echo those above me saying that if you really love her, you'll quit, but ultimatums like that never work and are generally irrational.
Just know that until you quit, you'd better not hold your breath getting back with her. It seems like this is one of those things where she's not gonna a compromise.
find someone who likes you even if you smoke :)
i don't blame her either. i don't tolerate that and i wouldn't want to date someone who does that stuff especially when i don't do that stuff to begin with.
It's called a deal-breaker for a reason.
@Passionflwr86@xanga - I agree! Same here.
Then grow up. Clearly if you won't quit for her then you don't love her all that much. Choosing pot over her was your choice. Wah wah wah. Poor you. I have no pity for people who choose drugs over their SO and then get dumped for it.
If you're not gonna fully quit and you know she doesn't like it, your relationship is gonna tank sooner or later. It's something she can't deal with/ want to put up with so she's getting out.
If its true that no one will ever love her as much as you do then let her go and just feel sorry for her.
@cute_sushi@xanga - Pot is really not that horrible for you. Alcohol has much more dire and detrimental affects in society and that's legal.
That said, I can't say I blame your girlfriend. You told her you would, then went back on your promise. Weed is not habit forming either, so this cannot be a case of addiction, unless, perhaps, you're elderly. My ex used to smoke weed (and everything else) daily, and I got sick of constantly being around "him" high. It was like he was never there. Would you want to be in a relationship with someone who's drunk all the time? It's more or less the same thing.
Maybe she thinks you didn't pay enough attention to her. It's just an insecure feeling she had.
Actually this happened to my best friend. He was high pretty much all the time and my best friend wasn't really happy about it. She doesn't know when he's sober or high. She was feeling really insecure. Besides she told me that everytime she asked to hang out he said he's too high w/ his friends. Which was pretty sad.
Hey man, just do it less. Compromise.
I'm a girl. (well duh)
Anyways. I hate Weed. It smells bad, it makes people act stupid. When you smoke it, you arn't talking to her. The altered version of you is talking and she hates it.
You have a decision to make and trust me, love is complete and utter soveriegn overall.
atleast she went out with you , i would never date someone who smokes
by being high all the time around her, she probably felt neglected by you.
oh and why the fuck would you smoke in HER bathroom if you knew she didn't like it?
you went behind her back, and you did it at her place. of course she felt like you chose weed over her, and trust me... that hurts.
I don't blame her because I would of done the same thing - just sooner.
And I think there will be someone out there who will love her just the same or even more than you.
hahahahhahahah.
fucking pothead.
Well, stop it.
Obviously, she's fed up with your shit.
Sneaking away and getting caught puffing in the bathroom was the real deal breaker, I think you could have educated her on marijuana and pulled it off. Then again I'm a salesman...
She has probably never smoked weed and still has this warped idea that marijuana is the devil, that pot heads are just dumb, lazy, unmotivated losers that live in their moms basements until they're 40.
I'm a strong advocate for the reform of marijuana laws and I feel that tobacco and alcohol are both far worse for you, yet they are socially acceptable. Most people, including your girlfriend, are taught to think that anyone who smokes pot is a low life and isn't going anywhere in life. (**cough cough Michael Phelps**)
Those who say "if you love her you'll quit" bug me. Why can't she accept you for you who are and what you do, and love you regardless? Why not "if she loves you, she'll understand". If she doesn't like you for who you are, move on to someone who does. You're still in high school, college is right around the corner... stay single, get high, have fun and enjoy life. Just make sure to put yourself first dude, because no one else will... and astonish the uneducated fools who think marijuana breeds stupidity by getting high while maintaining good grades... it's funny
The truth is
Well I'm sorry to say, but smoking is (and should be!) a deal breaker.
Why?
Because its a health hazard.
I personally don't care if someone smokes around me. And honestly, I wouldn't have a problem with weed either! I don't actively smoke it but I might ask to join in once in a while. But I would totally understand if someone felt differently though.
But yea, this whole "No one will ever love her as much as I do" shit is kinda creepy. You need to cut that out.